I was 16, sitting on the stoep of our front door which led to the lounge. My mum was sitting on the couch, sobbing her heart out. We had just found out that my dad was having an affair.

She was inconsolable, saying she wanted to kill herself because she couldn't live without him. I asked her what about my brother and I, she said we would be fine, she couldn't live without my dad.

THAT right there, is when I decided that no man would come before any children I would have.

I have stuck to my resolve and regardless of what happened in my life, I have never put a man before my children.

My mum went through alot with my dad and that affair but she still always put him first, yet he still had his mistress and put the mistress first. Even today, my mum passed away 6yrs ago and he's still with his mistress, though he says he will never marry her because my mum was his only wife (rolling my eyes).

If my mum had put her children first, she probably wouldn't have had such a miserable life with my dad.

This taught me though, that men will come and go but my children, my blood, will always be my blood.