My 2nd husband passed away at age 39 from lung cancer.Our children were 2,3 and 5 years old.

None of his family came around much except his brother who broke into my house and stole items that he could pawn for drug money.They did not check on the boys they didn't send birthday cards,Christmas cards or write the first letter(all of them lived within a 20 mile radius)

Jump ahead several years and my oldest son was a junior in high school….he won an award for coming in 2nd in the state in Algebra and Calculus.He was on the front page of the newspapers and I was so proud of him.A couple of nights passed and there was a knock at the door.To my surprise 3 of my inlaws stood there.I asked them what did they want and they acted mortified that I didn't invite them in.They said they wanted to tell my son congratulations and take him out to dinner…..I politely told them if it was left up to me I would shut the door I. Their faces but since he was 17he could make his own decision in this.I didn't know it but he had been standing behind me and heard the whole conversation. I just assumed that he had just walked up to the door…he opened the door whereas they told him how proud the family was of him etc.etc.and they wanted to take him to dinner.

My son stood there and then said…..how can yall tell me that the family is so proud of me yet not a single one of you ever helped my mama while we were growing up? Then he slowly shut the door In their faces