Force them to take responsibility of their own words.

I lived with passive aggressive people all my teenage years. My family, my grandma, and my dad are masters of passive aggressiveness and guilt trips.

Even small, simple things could become a big fight.

For example, my grandma might wanted to eat something light, vege and soup and some such. But she’d never come out and say it. She’d never have an opinion of anything. She'd imply, she'd let us guess, and she'd then say “I don't want anything, whatever you decide, I'm happy". And when people decided on something she didn't approve, she'd throw a fit, accusing everyone:“You don't care about me, you didn't know I want vege soup instead of pork? You want to starve me?”

It went on and on and on…. It's exhausting. She puts the responsibility of her happiness on me, on people around her. If she's not happy, we're responsible for not guessing what she really wanted. It's exhausting, constantly guessing and constantly anticipating her mood. She made all of us walk on eggshells.

So eventually, I stopped guessing. Now I just take her word for it. I just play dumb. I do whatever she says, literally. I tell her, I can't guess her mind. I'm sorry that after living with her all these years, I still don't know what she wants. And she must tell me. If she wants something done, she must tell me, clearly. Otherwise I'll not do it. And I'll hold her accountable for her words.

Of course, it's not going to be easy. She'll try to guilt-trip you at the beginning, giving you all the same crap about how you don't care about her… blah blah blah.

Keep at it. Don't let her manipulate you.

There'd be a point when that person realize that they can't manipulate you, and they'll stop doing it.