One of my friends in Honolulu was engaged to an heir of a very wealthy family. She ended up breaking up with him though, because he was 100% dependent on his family. He was getting allowance from the trust fund, a luxury place to live and all expenses were covered, always. He was a nice guy and she really loved him. He and his family really loved her. But, she couldn’t get over the fact that every decision in his life, no matter how trivial, had to be approved by the family. He had no job. And he was a recovering alcoholic.

I also know many other women married to wealthy men. From my observation, the healthiest dynamic is where the woman herself is high-earning, independent, and could easily and happily live without any man. Their husbands understand it and appreciate them more, treating them as an equal partner and not as a play thing who spends their money on plastic surgery and Dolce and Gabbana.