Avoid is probably not enough.

I was once in my apartment which I was renting with my girlfriend some 10 years ago. She invited one of her girl friends over to our place to see each other and have a cup of tea. She showed up with her boyfriend. It was September, they had just returned from their vacations in Asia.

They hadn’t seen each other for months and they were eager to show each other all the cool stuff they had been experiencing.

Our vacations were not that exotic as theirs but quite interesting through the Balkans, where my girlfriend got to meet my parents and family. Being from a Northern European country she was so enthusiastic about everything she experienced because it was her first visit in a country she had heard so much and read so many things.

Me and her boyfriend are chit chatting and the girls are sitting on the couch.

She pulls out the camera and starts showing to my girlfriend the photo albums they had taken during the vacations.

After 1 long endless hour she is finished.

“Well - says my girlfriend - maybe now it’s my turn to show you photos from our trip this summer”

Her friend waves her hand like she was tired and says:

“Naah … we don’t need to see that, we are not that interested’

My girlfriend was baffled. She stood up and with a firm voice said to her:

“Please get outside, I would like you to leave, take your camera and go”

I saw my girlfriend’s dissapointment and cute anger in her eyes. I knew it was nothing that could be done to prevent her from doing this.

Her friend didn’t say a word. She knew that now it was too late. Her face turned red. She apologized on her way out and left.

My girlfriend never looked back and we never heard from her again.

Since that day I learned that people who are not reciprocal and mutual toward you should always be kicked out from your life.

It has turned out quite well.

This lesson I owe to my girlfriend and to this episode of my life that I will never forget.

Thanks P.