I have heard it said that men are taught to not show emotion.

For years I’ve been bothered by this statement. Nobody ever sat me in a classroom, and disected emotions for me. Nobody told me outright that I couldn’t express myself. How can people be taught without being taught.

Now that I’m older and have more experience I see it more plainly where the instruction came from. It came from lack of empathy.

My mom died when I was 9. It happened in the middle of the night. It wasn’t unexpected she’d been diagnosed with Anaplastic Astrocytoma. Brain Cancer, the second most aggresive possible. She had been given 6 months to 2 years. She lasted 5 months. I was awoken with the words “Aaron, Mom’s gone” around 2 am.

I cried myself back to sleep and stayed home from school that day. The next day I returned to my classmates. I didn’t have friends then, and when they asked me why I sluffed the day before I told my classmates my mom had died, and was told “well at least she doesn’t have to deal with you”.

I hurt a lot. I cried a lot, there were a couple hugs from family, and a couple teachers. But It was the actions, or the lack of action, from everybody else that taught me for the most part nobody cared. Nobody cares when a boy wanders the school yard by himself month after month, nobody cares if your mom died. Nobody cares if you’re struggling. Oh except your enemies care because it’s fun to taunt you about it and rub it in your face.

I remember in 6th grade, two years afterwards I had a run in with Mario. He was a skinny mexican kid and the two of us didn’t get along. He tried multiple times to beat me up and I often provoked him because he was a punk kid. Near the end of the year we were given time to go outside and practice for the annual 6th grade vs Teacher Baseball game. I think I went to the bathroom, but when I got out nobody would play with me. It hurt me inside so I went to the door of the school that led to our classroom. It was sheltered and nobody was there so it was, I thought, an ok place to cry and let my emotions out. In the middle of my sob sesssion the door pops open and there’s Mario. I berated myself internally for crying as I knew, I just knew, this kid would mock me, like every time I had ever been caught crying.

He looked at me, and I saw his face change. But it wasn’t into a sneer, or mocking or anything. It was empathy. and he said “Aaron, what’s wrong?”. This was so alien to me I just blurted out with new sobs, “nobody wants to play with me”. I think the time ran out to play a couple minutes later, but that interaction was so different from every encounter I had previously, or for the most part since that it still affects me today.

Such experiences are so seldom that men learn it just doesn’t help us, and often hurts us to show emotion.

Now to address the first part of your question. Men are not more emotional than women. Women are not more emotional than men. We are all capable of feeling just as deep. Those who experience deep feels can be either be weighed down by them and descend into depression or they can choose to be happy regardless. I chose the latter.

Years after my mom died, and about 8 years into my friendship with my best friend (we’re still best friends). He told me that he honestly feels that he is a deeper feeler than I am. I remember when he said it that it struck me how many things between our two lives had already been so different. His worst day hasn’t yet plumbed the depth of my worst day. I’m not sure whether he still feels that he feels deeper than me. It’s not important. Someday he will know how deep the rabbit hole goes when somebody exceedingly close to him dies, and I won’t be there to say “now you know how it really feels!”, I’ll be there to have his back, to help him through and buoy him up.

I think so and have experienced much more emotion from women than most men, though many men are quite emotional. Men have always been expected to man up and not display or reveal emotions that women were allowed and expected to display.

This is not all of men or women, just in general. Women though have their cycles that often cause periods of emotional instability and displays of emotion for a time. Men have their moments but not reqularly or for any length of time, more like a pressure cooker letting off a bit of steam.

I though have always since very young found emotional control very important to me, I find it a sign or display of weakness and allowing others to see or assume what you may find of value, a weakness. I have always controlled my body language, expressions or any emotions not to reveal a thing. I though have never felt this difficult and have been told many times that I have no emotions.

I know I do, but I do not share them or find them necessary, I often find them quite annoying and unproductive, they distract and effect focus. I fear nothing, life or death though when life threatening events take place, adrenalin takes over and I feel indestructible, fast, no need for thought as I know what to do. If this is an emotion, I like it, I have never felt more alive and perfectly fictional than these moments.

I have two teenage daughters who drain the life out of me with emotion and drama. They confide in me things they would not let their mother know. I have never complained of pain, injury, social issues, appearance or just plain nonsense like this in my life. Everyday is another soap opera, always tired, lazy, and in need of this or that, always needing to know what I am doing or where I am going.

When they were infants I could understand, I had no gray hair until my first child at the age of 46, now my head is full of them. My ex bailed when they were 6 yrs old, she never seemed to have had the motherly instinct I always assumed was natural. She claimed that I was clearly a better mother.

When a male-female couple breaks up, do you assume it’s the woman who takes it harder, or the man?

“I was surprised to conclude - along with other scientists - that men are more emotional than women,” says Dr. Duana Welch, author of Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do.

“Because the stereotype about men is so contrary to that. The stereotype is that men are more rational, more logical, more calculating in some ways, and the science actually goes directly against that.”

Some other interesting, science-supported factoids Duana shares with us:

- In relationships, men tend to say “I love you” first.

- Men tend to fall in love faster and harder.

- At every stage, men are less likely to end a relationship. It’s common for men to stay in a miserable situation, sometimes for many years, until the woman finally ends things.

You know what sucks ? bills … bills suck . You know what also sucks ? Flat tires ! Damn do I get annoyed and irritated when a flat tire happens , now I have to spend money and time trying to get my tire replaced. You know what also sucks? When a family member dies. When a friend and you drift apart. When your mom is sick and all you pray for is that she opens her eyes and somehow as a man you are still expected to keep your hcin up. Don’t look weak .

I’ve had girlfriends during those rough times and while they were supportive in their way the ways in which we supported each other were different. They may give me a kiss and make me something to eat and then leave me be to figure it out . When they went through rough times I was expected to be there to be their emotional support, their encourager, the person to tell them that they were overreacting or being silly if they needed to be grounded. The one to hold them tight until the tears stopped dropping .

We definitely feel just like women the difference is I know for me growing up it was instilled in me that I can’t be a wuss, a pansy , or other terms quora users may not appreciate .

As a man even in your weakness you are expected to be strong to a certain point.

So anyway to answer your question yes we feel , Do we feel like women feel ? I don’t really know . I’m not a woman but breakups hurt . losing a job sucks, . Bills suck . most things that make women unhappy also make men unhappy.

No. Not in my experience.

Men talk about feelings in depth and with nuanced richness.

Example:
Men around the world honor the "bro" code - which is based on feelings. Women don't have anything like it.

A good male doctor friend took me to an upscale restaurant in San Francisco. He was nervous. Maybe it was the way I was dressed - long black velvet skirt, red silk corset trimmed with black velvet, bare shoulders, black velvet shoes.

He was so nervous he accidentally bumped the tip of his salad fork and the fork flew into the air, flipped over, and landed near the table closest to us where 2 men were seated.

The dining room went silent.

One of the men from the next table got up still clutching the napkin on his lap,
picked up the fork, walked over to our table, gave a slight courtesy nod to me, and then turned to my friend, and said a few sentences to take off the pressure of unwanted attention from my friend.

When men see other men in embarrassing situations like this when in the presence of a woman, they will go to the aid of the man in trouble, even when that man is a stranger. Men save each other from embarrassment and save "the face" of each other. That is part of the "bro code." It is based on feelings. Respect. Saving Face. Pride. Dignity. Being "able." Protecting composure. Maintaining poise. Gorgeous!

Something to think about:
If you are a woman and want a man to talk about feelings be very clear whose feelings you want to discuss. Is it your feelings or his? Do you want him to recognize and relate to specific feelings you are having at that moment? Or do you want him to share his feelings with you? If so, which specific feelings of his do you want him to share with you?

Sometimes when women say they want a man to talk about feelings, they may be saying that they want attention from the man as they vent about their feelings and don't want any solutions from him because they just want "talking time."

Most men don't do this.

Men respect pride and boundaries. They don't intrude into another man's feeling space out of respect.

Example:

Don's girlfriend of 15 years left him for his best friend! Don was devastated!

Ed, Don's friend, knowing the situation Don was in, kept calling Don over for help with fixing the plumbing in the bathroom, fixing cracks in the driveway, fixing things. They worked side by side together fixing things not saying a word. Ed kept Don close company. He was there 100% for Don.

Ed also went over to Don's place, mowed the lawn, they cooked meals together, did chores together. This went on for months before Don could say anything about his girlfriend leaving. When Don finally spoke, Ed listened. Listened. Occasionally he would nod. Sometimes he would say, "That's a tough one." Something like that.

When men talk about feelings, they want to figure things out, they want another person's perspective, they want to know and understand. Rarely do men use talking just to get attention. I am not saying this is your case. I am not saying you want to talk about feelings to get attention for yourself.

But be clear what exactly it is you want from the man through talking. Then ask for what you want. Ask. Be clear about what you want and ask for it.

If you want to talk just to feel close, then you have to speak the language of talking- to-feel-close. You cannot talk about personal problems and expect the man to feel close to you. No.

The language of talking-to-feel-close means you let a man know what you genuinely, truly appreciate about him and what he does for you. Let him know that you can see what he does. Let him know you love him. Let him know how special he is to you. And why. Tell him.

Then, what you will get back from him is talking. But it will be love letters, poetry, and words that tell you back that he deeply loves you and how much he cherishes you.

The airway of talking is precious. It is not to be gummed up with stress junk talk - the sneaky stress talk that contains the deadly concealed expectation that you can dump all your stress on him by talking at him and the outcome you expect is soothing words of appreciation for yourself from him, and compliments that say you are irreplaceable and loved.

If you want comfort, ask him to hold you in his arms. Ask for specific words that you want to hear. If you are worried, tell him what you are worried about and ask him to help you find solutions that will work.

If there are problems you want to discuss, lay them out, and know the points you want to cover. Let him know you want his brain power to work with you to solve this challenge together. Men love solving problems and using their brains.

The language men speak is rich with feelings. And most men speak this language eloquently.

Edit: The question has been changed a second ago from "women" to "a woman." So, an answer cannot be accurately written to address a specific woman unless more question details are given.

No, that's actually not true. Emotion is a wide category of different mental and cognitive processes that form both the motivational mechanisms/priorities to act in the world as well as internal tracker that responds to events happening in the world. Emotions underlie pretty much all human activity and therefore it is wrong to say that men don't have emotions. Without emotions, they wouldn't be doing whatever it is that they are doing. Just go to a football match and tell me that men don't have emotions. What is true however is that in general, men's emotions are not the same as women's emotions [Individual exceptions may exist, but they don't falsify statistical truths]. Men and women don't see the world as a same kind of place to act [A scientist would say something like men and women employ different behavioral strategies to navigate the world and seek out what they want].

Things that motivate men are in general not the same as things that motivate women. For instance, money, status, power (which means how well you perform relative to others in a domain) and responsibilities drive men's actions much more than they do women's actions. Men are also willing to take risk to a much larger extent than women do – which once you understand it has a huge explanatory power over a lot of different things over past and present. That is what gives them “meaning in their lives” (so to speak). Women get the meaning in their lives from different sorts of activities, like building closely knit social relationships and affecting people's lives at a personal level. This is indeed the so-called “People vs. Things” distinction between males and females and is one of the largest and most robustly established sex difference (even by conservative estimates, the difference is one standard deviation, which makes a huge difference in an exponentially falling Gaussian).

However, since women are more invested in social relationships, if anything goes wrong in social relationships (which happens all the time – it's in the nature of things to fall apart), it is going to affect women a lot more than men. This along with the fact that women score higher on a personality dimension called “Neuroticism”, which doesn't sound very cheerful, as it shouldn't because it is a negative emotionality trait, explains why the stereotype of women being more emotional than men exists pervasively in every human society. Since the sex difference in neuroticism tends to upset many people, it is important to clarify that it does not mean women as a whole group is more “neurotic” than men as a whole group, but rather if you you look at the population at people who are most affected by anxiety, depression and similar negative emotionality disorders, you would find more women than men in it (men are affected by other problems like autism and ADHD). According to an article published in Stanford Medicine - “Women are twice as likely as men to experience clinical depression in their lifetimes; likewise for post-traumatic stress disorder.”

And there are genetic reasons for why women respond more to social stressors than men, as for example has been found by Janet Hyde in her research (5-HTTLPR X Stress in Adolescent Depression: Moderation by MAOA and Gender) – the 5 HTTPLR (a serotonin transporter gene) is linked to the emergence of negative emotions more in women than men. And there are many other such gene variants as well that affects neurotransmitters and they get disproportionately expressed in women – for various reasons ranging from X-linkage to estrogen induced expression.

For a clinical discussion, I would recommend this article on Neuroscience and Behavioral Reviews - https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5286720/

So to sum it up, women and men don't differ too much in the overall expression of emotions in the broadest sense. However there are a certain subset of behavioral attributes which in ordinary language are considered to be of more “emotional” sort and they are more expressed by women, which is why this stereotype persists.

Actually a lot more than a women ( on a scale of 10 I will give 8 ) but the thing is we do not show Why? because we are bounded Society Pressure , Friends etc.

Because from the childhood we were told that we are like this

and when we cry or show some emotions people laugh at us Why ? Because you were strong (Because Men’s do not cry) you can not cry because if you cry you become weak like this (Because Men’s who cry are weak)

That’s the pressure we feel being a man. People say if you are feeling sad “Talk to your friends” , “Talk to your Girlfriend” , “ Talk to your teacher” . All these crap but do you know nobody give a “shit”. Why? because you are “Man”.

Suppose

Talk to your Friends : They will give you a tag of weak person in the group sometimes you are being mocked by them (Just for Fun) you start feeling regret.

Talk to your Girlfriend : Actually I don’t know about them ( because I don’t have any (⌣̩̩́ _⌣̩̩̀) ) but yeah no girl like “His boyfriend to cry” why ? “We are strong bro “ . She might like his BF to show the emotion but when the girl talk to her friend circle and they brag about their BF (Do you know Comparison stuff). That’s the problem guys we know that.

We can’t cry publicly we have to find places where no one can see us crying because there is nobody who can “PAT” on our shoulder and who can say ”Dude this too shall pass”. Nobody is there its only you.

We lock our room and cry quietly in a voice so that nobody can hear us “This is the pressure we feel everyday “.

We cry in rain so that nobody can see our tears

That’s how society works guys so all the girls out there. Yeah we do not cry in public , yes we do not show emotion’s in public Like you guys but deep down we too had a heart we too feel bad.

Stay Happy Lads.

I can not write further my friends so that’ s it from my side and I will se you in the next one.

Period.

No one can shut off their emotions. Men are just trained not to express them, not to show them, not to admit them. Because they’re not “supposed to”. Trust me, they feel the same amount of emotion inside as women do. If it ever feels like they “shut them off”, it’s only because they are more adept in suppression and distraction (which is also why they more often resort to alcohol and violence). Women are allowed to express themselves more freely. Yet both genders can efficiently “shut off” (i.e. not express) their emotions when the situation calls for it (e.g. at work).

There’s a lot of hypocrisy in society around men’s emotions. Everyone is happy to tell them how unhealthy they are for shutting them off, but if after hearing it a man breaks down and starts wheeping like a baby crying “Why does everyone tell me there’s something wrong with me?” the same people who accused him of it will freak out and say something like “Boy, you’re unstable”. Well, you got what you asked for. No one wants to see that, so men try to never break down. They know they might get little sympathy for that.

What society really asks of men is this: Could you please be a little more vulnerable so that I’m more comfortable around you, but not so vulnerable that I freak out? Could you strike that balance just right for me please? Thank you.

When we learn not to judge men for their emotions at least in the same way we don’t judge women (both genders are judged, men are just judged for this way more), there will be a change, but not before.

It’s not necessarily that women are more emotional than men; it’s that men are discouraged to show their emotions.

Men are told that they have to be tough. Men are told that they have to be strong. Men are told that they have to be emotionless. If a man shows that he has feelings, he is told that he is weak. People expect men to hide their emotions.

Women receive a lot less backlash when showing they have feelings. Women are told that they are dramatic. Women are told that they are sensitive. People expect women to be emotional.

When a woman has been told her whole life that all women are emotional, she’s going to believe it. When a man has been told his whole life that real men are emotionless, he’s going to believe it.

I can only speak to my personal experiences, but my answer would be No. The few times where I’ve let my guard down and allowed myself to be emotionally vulnerable outside of family has been around women I’ve dated. I discovered that showing emotion, especially crying, was seen as a weakness. I’ve had women try to emasculate me for crying. It’s particularly disheartening when I was told for years that women want men who feel comfortable displaying their emotions.

For example, I recall one instance about 6 years ago when I needed a shoulder to cry on, and I literally had to drive somewhere and find a secluded spot to let the tears flow, away from her. I didn’t realize how toxic an atmosphere that was until many years later, but unfortunately incidents like that have impacted my emotional state to this day. While I certainly don’t blame all women for this, I don’t show ANY emotion aside from surface-level happiness, humor, annoyance, etc. for fear that any greater emotion will be seen as a weakness and exploited.

Ultimately that’s what it comes down to for me: fear. Not a “stiff upper lip” or being a “strong silent” type. The fact of the matter is, I can be quite emotional – when I’m by myself. I cry at certain movies, or am moved to tears by certain songs. But due to what has happened in the past, I never show that side to any woman. I wish it wasn’t the case; I would love to be completely at ease around a woman that I’m dating. But I’m wary to the point of paranoia about showing ANY vulnerability that can be turned against me.

Yes, and no man should ever be shamed for being emotional. My grandfather was the manliest dude you’d ever see, a man who could have a heart attack and drive himself to the hospital without uttering a single word of pain. And who would weep watching a line of ducklings walk into a well and drown before he could save them.

You can be the biggest, baddest dude out there, a bearded, rough-voiced, calloused son-of-a-bitch with scars that tell stories for days and yet… hide a sensitive soul underneath. I’ve seen grown men weep as their daughters walked the aisle. Seen them cry hearing they would be grandparents. Or simply when missing someone dearly and remembering them. Some men lose a dog, a beloved dog, and weep like a baby because that dog was their whole life, their best buddy who never betrayed them and never hurt them in a world that was often unkind.

And that’s okay. There’s no shame in this. I’m not too fond of grown dudes who fall and scratch their knees and bawl like babies but emotional pain? That deserves all the tears you wish to shed, or none of them. No one can police how a man handles his sadness.

Yes. Men are more emotional than women. Women too are emotional. The thing is, we men tend to hide it. Women on the other hand are more expressive in terms of showing emotions.

The society have taught Men to keep their emotions to themselves.
We were taught to believe sensitivity is synonymous with weakness, which is exactly the opposite if you think about it. Boys are taught to be ashamed of the emotions they experience, so they grow into men who are both emotionally confused and in denial.

Gender stereotypes about men being stoic and women being emotional are reinforced by our day to day consumption of media and our social interactions. For years and years, men have gotten bashed, personally and in the media, for being heartless, for not being understanding of women and the way they feel. Many women will still use this as an argument squasher.

The truth is, men didn't allow themselves to understand the way the women they loved felt because they didn't understand why women weren't willing to follow the rules they were taught to follow.

Don't cry. Don't complain. Don’t be a pussy. Man up. Be a man — an emotionless, stubborn man (Not all men but most of them)

Men were taught emotions are a sign of weakness. Women were taught the exact opposite. So what are you left with?

Men who believe women are weak because they're emotional and women who are pissed off they're seen as being weak for something they were taught to embrace.

Girls care for fake babies they call dolls. They play house, have tea parties (this has almost changed now), while men race, play violent video games, wrestle, etc…

We men are generally poor at directing our emotions. The way we handle our emotions are… off the line.

• Men take rejection pretty poorly.
• They have higher ego.
• They take breakups harder.
• They suppress their pain.
• They’re more sensitive to infidelity.
• They fight their feelings.
• They can’t take criticism.
• They’re more likely to numb the pain.
• Depression rates are way higher among men.
• Last but not least, they don’t handle being sick very well.

Men & Women: Are We Really That Different?(Stereotypes)

Alright now I think I gotten the generic topics out of the way and now its time for me to set myself apart. Maybe be a little more controversial. Now on to my point. As a society we love to divide things, race, politics, religion, sexual orientation, gender etc.
Often at these times, differences are pushed so much on to us that we forget something. We forget that we are all still human beings. Now this isn't a blog about morals or ethics but it all ties into my topic. All of the things we love to categorize all have stereotypes or misconceptions about them or have double standards surrounding them. I will focus on gender on this post particularly gender roles in a relationship. It seems there is so much animosity between men and women. We seem to be more at odds at one another then ever before. There's more competition women are becoming a lot more independent and I love it but honestly i think men and women are more similar than people think especially when it comes to dating. There are several stereotypes that both men and women have proven to be false.

Stereotypes/Misconceptions

• Women in a relationship or marriage have to cook, clean and take care of children while the man works.
• All men cheat, and men cheat more than woman.
• Women are oversensitive compared to men
• Men only care about sex.

Women in a relationship/marriage HAVE to cook, clean and take care of kids.

I said in my first paragraph how woman are becoming a lot more independent. The fact that some guys and yes guys I actually know and call friends still think or act this way is kind of crazy. I grew up in a household where my mother had to do everything because she was the only parent around. However I also was the only boy with two sisters. I was expected to learn to cook, clean and wash clothes like everyone else in the house. So personally I just don't believe in genders roles. I also don't think woman have to give up their dreams to raise a child while the man works and pursues his career. If the woman wants to its fine but it shouldn't be decision forced on to her there are things like daycare.

Both people in a relationship should help out. If there is trash to be taken out and the man is not there she can take it out. If there are dishes in the sink he can wash them. If the baby poop the guy can change the diaper and etc. Days are long gone where woman have to stay in the "kitchen" so obviously this isn't as big as an issue as it used to be. But there are still guys who have this mentality. Seriously I am very surprised by the amount of men who don't know how to cook. Even something simple like how to separate clothes before you wash them because they expect their woman to know how to do it for them.

All men cheat/more than woman

Okay so, are there any guy readers still here? I think I've lost every male subscriber as well. I'm probably being labeled a feminist in the comment section as you read this but for every guy still here this is for you. This stereotype can probably be a whole topic in and of itself. Some day it probably will be.

All men don't cheat there are some good guys out there somewhere. *Waving my hand.* If every guy you been with cheated on you then either you're very unlucky or you may have to change the kind of men that you're into. I also don't believe guys cheat more than women and there's probably no way of proving women cheat more than men. That's pretty obvious but there is one difference about men and women; Sex. There is a double standard that if guys have sex with multiple woman they are cool, and gets frequent high fives and if woman do it.......they get called some pretty bad names.

Why does this matter? Guys have a habit of bragging when they have sex. We have to bang on our chest and boast. Women are less likely to do so. They may tell a close friend or two but it's not something they would like to spread around. So the chances of women getting caught are less than men. It doesn't mean women don't cheat as much it means women are probably much smarter at cheating than we think. Chances are you probably been cheated on and don't even know it and you never will... but i digress.

Women are oversensitive compared to Men

Women are sensitive that's true.........Guys are sensitive too. Humans are sensitive in general that's why we all have these things called emotions. This stereotype exists for similar reasons that the "men cheat more" stereotype exists. Except it's reversed girls are more open with showing their emotions than guys. Society has deemed men showing their emotions as being soft, not manly or to be blunt..."pussies." Now we can hold in our emotions but they are still there they don't go anywhere. Have you ever noticed how after a break up the woman cries and cries and the guy is nonchalant moving on. Then fast forward months later she's fine and he's the one whining trying to get her back.

That's the result of the guy holding in his feelings and then later on they finally ooze out. Like seriously I'm a guy and I know my ass can be sensitive at times and I know my male friends are a bunch of big babies. Hopefully they not reading this.......but this notion that woman are more sensitive than men are wrong. You want to see a sensitive man? Be there when his favorite sports team loses or be there when he is losing in call of duty or be there when a store doesn't sell his vanilla coke and he rants to himself (actually i think that just might be me).

Men Only Care About Sex

If I said I didn't care about sex I would be liar. But it's a common misconception that that is the only thing we think about is sex. That's simply not true; we eat, drink and also sleep thank you very much. Dry jokes aside we do care about sex and I will admit that at times we think with our men parts rather than using logic but sex alone isn't all we care about. Anyone can have sex but building a long lasting relationship is the real challenge and those are the kind of things that a man thinks about. Note that I said man not boy. Immature boys or guys are usually the ones that will do everything and anything to get it(believe it or not girls do too) and its neither here or there.

Sex is everywhere, its a huge seller from commercials, movies, tv shows and even some cartoons. So it's understandable that it would be on our minds a lot. Sex isn't marketed to just men though however but to females as well. How many times have you seen an overweight man in an axe commercial? How does the "good guy" in any Tyler Perry movie look......I'll wait. My point is woman prioritizes sex as well. I believe its very important to them. Sex is on a woman's mind as well as a man's. However, I do believe men care about sex alot more than women doo. Sorry fellas we know its the truth.

In conclusion this may not be one of my more popular post. I've probably pissed everyone off but I honestly do think that men and women aren't really all that different. Society makes us different. Woman can be just as strong as men and I'm sure a man has the ability to whip up a 5 course meal. I'm all for equality for every human being on this planet. There are amazing things we can do if we can all put our minds together and cease with the labeling and categorizing of each other. Now this is part one of a two part blog. In the second part it will be a similar format in which I argue against common double standards between men and women in relationships. Like, share and comment(I know the comments will be interesting) and remember "Love is confusing but we'll figure this out together." Have an awesome day.

Actually men are more emotional than women! We just do a better job at hiding our emotions from everyone - including ourselves! Not being in touch with your emotions doesn’t mean they don’t exist!

Fuck yes.

I cannot read minds. I need to know what you’re thinking and feeling if I’m going to avoid pissing you off, nevermind make you happy.

I like making people happy. I like knowing when I piss people off.

When I know what’s going on, I can find copacetic solutions that make everyone happy. When I don’t know what’s going on, because you’re claiming everything is fine when it isn’t, I am going to believe what you say.

But I’ll believe what you say while being anxious about it, because I trust you, but if you’re lying or hiding things from me, it’s usually obvious.

And I need to know.

If you don’t know, that’s cool too. Just tell me. I can provide emotional support, accept it and give you space, or help you figure out what you’re feeling and what we can do about it.

But if you don’t communicate how you actually feel, what you actually think and worry about, and what you’re uncertain about, I can’t do a damn thing.

It’s immensely frustrating.

The most successful guy I've ever seen was called Adrian, I met him in my first year at university. The guy was not a jerk, but he was very far from sensitive. He had this animalistic alpha-wolf charisma, all other guys respected him. He was VERY self-confident. He was the most active at parties, he drank, danced, he even stripped himself while dancing (if the party was in the student dorm; girls liked when he did that).

One time a guy said something bad about the girl he was with, that same night Adrian found a few other guys and beat the shit out of the offender. I witnessed everything. He dated (and sexed) like 5 or 6 different girls while he was only 18 years old (maybe even more, those girls I knew personally). Once he kissed a girl that I find quite attractive myself, later he said she wasn't sensitive enough when it came to kissing, so he dumped her. He could be nice sometimes, but being emotional? NEVER.

One time he was arguing with a girl in public (he wasn't dating this one, btw I've never seen him fight with a girl he was dating). She slapped him, he hit her back without hesitation. In the end, she came back and apologized in public.

I met also other guys who were somewhat successful with women, none of them were close to sensitive. In my personal experience, the more manipulative, persuasive and “apha male-ish” I was, the more success I had. When I acted like a nice guy, all I could hope for was friend zone. Rather than being emotional, what women liked was me being sincere and admitting some of my difficulties, which made me more approachable (though I did this carefully and at the appropriate moment)

Conclusion: women are attracted to confident men who can take charge. They also like nice guys, but they don't feel like spreading their legs for them. Civilizations may avance, this things won't change though 😏

Are you the same in ….. way as every woman in existence?

Im fairly emotional, my sister on the other hand could very easily be diagnosed with psychopathy.

I watched marlie and me, and cried like a 5yo girl. I loved the film, but was distraught at how it ended, my sister came out laughing….

some men are as emotional as some women, some men are more emotional than some women.

Some women are as emotional as some men some men are less emotional than some women.

Stop making generalisations based off gender alone, some men are more ‘girly’ than Paris Hilton, some women make Rambo seem like a sissy.

People are people, ask the specific person, if they’re emotional. Don’t blame it on their gender

I think people have varying degrees of emotionalism as individuals — as well as according to culture. Some cultures are highly expressive and boisterous, others, more stoic.

Generally speaking, however, I think there are some differences between men and women. I think women might get “emotional” more frequently, but men get more “emotional” over petty things. For example, a woman might cry not only if she’s sad, but if she’s happy, angry, frustrated, tired, or whatever. Whereas a man might cry because his favorite team lost the big game.

I think the sexes (again, generally speaking) have different emotional weak points. For men, I think our biggest emotional weak point is definitely pride.

Who’s to say if men have less feelings than women.

What I can tell you from my own personal experiences and my upbringing is that my father would say things like” crying is for girls” and “ suck up the pain” or “ walk it off”. Men from an early age are typically groomed to be tougher and are taught to repress our emotions for fear of “ being weak”. These are all learned behaviors from our or in this case my father. When men are younger we typically are told to do things rather than asked to do things around the house, or chores.

We have to relearn how to feel our feelings when we get older, or do years of counseling to unravel this “ Onion”.

| Namaskaram |

No. But, they sure can’t keep you happy for long.

Emotionally unavailable people rely on their baser instincts. They never really get deep into anything.

They see something they like, and they simply want it. People or things, doesn’t matter. A new thrill. A new adventure. A new conquest to make their own. And that makes them happy.

In relationships, emotionally unavailable people date conditionally:

• for sex
• for material benefit(s)
• for filler entertainment
• for validation of their worth through acceptance by others

They are emotionally unhealthy personalities who have mental and spiritual healing left to do. Until that happens, they’ll be like a child in an adult’s body who is easily excited by all things shiny. But then the novelty wears off real soon. And off they go on their next treasure hunt.

Also, kids rarely give away their toys, no matter which godforsaken corner of their house they are thrown in. So, you can expect a lot of hot and cold, in and out phases in your relationship.

| saubhāgyam |

There are emotionally strong women. There are emotionally strong men. How would you decide who is “stronger emotionally”? What does that even mean? Does it mean not crying? Not being entitled? “Sucking up emotions and doing dangerous, life threatening shit on the daily”? Not losing your shit and beating the kids? The one who comes home from a long day of work and has to cook dinner and do chores for the other people who had a long day at work? The one who doesn’t abandon the wife and the kids? The one who is a better parent?

We’d be in better shape if we spend energy on learning WHAT being emotionally strong IS and cultivating it for the benefit of ourselves and others than arguing about who is the best at it. No doubt, we’re the strongest when we work TOGETHER.

It is not a secret to those that understand history.

It is a lie that men are not emotional. It is a scam. It is propaganda. This notion contributed to the rise of patriarchy and the oppression of women. Women were “too emotional” to lead or even to vote. Meanwhile, men start wars over emotional reactions; men rape out of anger and for the desire to control.

Toxic masculinity rose and taught men to suppress sadness, vulnerability and the like. They were encouraged to express anger, jealousy and the like.

Things are changing in most places. Men are less likely to punish their sons if they cry when they hurt themselves and experience other childhood challenges than even a generation ago. Women are less likely to laugh at a man who cries at a sad movie than in the past.

As we move forward in our societal evolution and continue to encourage men to express their ‘soft’ sides and women to express our ‘hard’ sides, we all become more human.

Because really, aren’t our hearts the same? The more we look at each other as people with human hearts and minds instead of judging based on the shell we call a body, the better society at large will be.

Yes, they are, with no doubts… but they are also expert in hiding their emotions…

In comparison, females are more loyal towards their emotions and expressing those emotions, but males prefer to hide their emotions and they hardly accept them.

Irrespective of all this, mens are more emotional than women, but their emotions sometimes remains in them, they hardly learnt to express and thats why they are taken as more rude and emotionless.. Their ego and menly nature doesn't allow them to accept the fact that yes they also get hurt and they also gets emotional of minor things like a girl or more than a girl….