Believe me, I know how you feel. You have a burning rage for revenge. You are filled with feelings of betrayal and humiliation. You come to the realization that the person you once loved and cared for callously used you and threw you away. Your emotions are completely normal. And you are right - they were horrible and callous.

I’m going to give you a secret on how to deal with these types. Narcs worse fear is when you heal. Believe me, he understands your power. He didn’t choose you because you are weak. Narcs choose victims because they have everything they do not. You are intelligent, kind, full of empathy. Sure, you probably also suffer from low self-esteem and poor boundaries, but your overall personality is a good person. Narcs want to BE YOU. I want every survivor to know this. They completely understand the qualities and values you have. They want them. They destroy you throughout the relationship because they are jealous of these qualities.

Narcs destroy you because they do not want you to return to the person you were when they met you. So full of happiness. So full of life. So full of vitality.

Do you want to destroy them? Be that person. Flourish. Become the highest version of yourself. Become successful. Become healthy. Go heal. Be the person they met but x10.

The unintended side effect of having a relationship with a narcissistic person is that, if you leave and are safe and are able to heal, they have helped you become the greatest version of yourself.

One day, you will look back and laugh at them. I promise you.

You will realize you had the power all along.