She became overbearing when I had my oldest son. She would demand to “help” but flake when I actually asked for help, and stuck her nose in where it didn’t belong. She said she was going to make up for subpar parenting by being a good grandmother.

I drastically reduced contact with her for my own sanity. She assumed my husband was being controlling. One day, she came over unannounced and demanded to know what his problem was. He was calm and said he didn’t want to argue with her. She escalated and kept pushing the issue. She finally said that my father had molested me when I was a child because she was not getting her way.

My husband calmly asked her to leave our house. She pushed him and called him a piece of s*** in front of our 2 year old and 6 month old.

I have not had a relationship with her since. I do not know what to believe. I can’t decide which is worse…that she would make up allegations like that or that she would actually allow it to happen, stay with him until I was nearly 13, allow my sister and me overnight visitation with him, allow him to work at a school as a coach, and to wait until I was 35 to say anything.

I will never know for sure and I will never forgive her for that. I can’t even imagine other things she might allege if she isn’t getting her way and I can’t take that risk.