While my then boyfriend/ fiancé and I were dating I liked his mom. She still is a sweet woman but most of the time she gets right under my skin.
Background, not sure if this makes a difference:We are both of indian decent and grew up in Canada. We were raised in a typical Indian family and have both Indian and Canadian cultures.
soon after we got married, my husband and I travel for our honeymoon. We had a great time and looked forward coming home. (Being Indian, we live at home with his parents and another sibling).
When we came home and settled in we thought it would be a good time to start opening some gifts from the wedding. They mainly consisted of envelopes and were mainly handed to my mother in law to hold on to. Now, I’m not sure that she thought because they were handed over to her they were meant for her? When we requested to see them so we can open them she replies telling us she had already opened them and spent some of the money paying off some bills from the wedding. According to her, she said she did us a favour by paying them for us. I was not only confused but livid! Who does that?? she continues telling us not to worry because she’s written down everyone’s name and the amount they gifted so we would know… like that’s supposed to justify what you did? I let my husband express how he felt about it, I didn’t want to start drama between us and dropped it. Move forward.
few months after being married I got pregnant and she decided to throw me a baby shower with mainly her friends and family. A few of my friends and family were invited. It was a nice gesture and a good turnout. After it was over and days after settling in she insists we open gifts as she would like to see what her friends and family had gifted me- and you guessed it! She takes over and decides to open every gift I received. These are my baby shower gifts that were gifted to me but she took over. My fault for not stopping her and asking her to stop opening my gifts, again my reasoning was I didn’t want to upset her or feel disrespectful. After this event I began disliking her. I’m not sure how she thought that was also ok??! I know I shouldn’t be complaining because i chose to not speak up during when it happened. I felt like she sucked out that moment I should be enjoying. Did she think these were her gifts because it was a shower consisting mainly her friends and family? … I never asked her to invite them btw. She paid for the shower and invited whom ever she wanted.
it went downhill from there. I didn’t like who she was and how she felt she had entitlement over me. When my daughter was born she held her at the hospital for hours and would only be passed to me when it was time to nurse her. She continued to open every gift that came in for my daughter before it was passed over to me. I don’t like that woman.