Should husbands and wives have separate duties in a marriage or should they be equally shared between them?

Marriage is a partnership in every sense of the word - legally and morally.

The only way a partnership can survive is if each partner does his/her share of the things that need to be done.

And while it’s normal to divide duties among partners, based on who is best qualified to do each item, it’s essential that each partner be willing and able to step up and do whatever needs to be done.

Just because Mom normally takes the kids to school doesn’t mean it’s SOLELY her job. And just because Dad usually changes the oil in the car doesn’t mean Mom can’t do it (or have it done).

If the baby wakes up at 2am, unless it’s breastfeeding and Mom doesn’t pump, there’s no reason Dad can’t get his butt out of bed and feed the kid. Making a bottle isn’t rocket science.

So, in order for a household to run smoothly, each partner should have duties he/she does regularly, but that’s not written in stone. If one sees something that needs to be done, a GOOD partner would do it. If it’s the “man’s job” to take out the trash, but the trash can is full before he gets home, there’s no reason the woman can’t - or shouldn’t - take the damn trash out.