I used to.

Two months after having my first child, I was sleep deprived and staying home to care of the baby but the pile of dishes was massive and the house was a mess and all I could do was hold this baby or else he would cry and cry. And so I started to cry.

But then a friend told me -your dishes won’t have self esteem problems if you don’t get to them, just pay attention to your baby and forget the other stuff.

I think every time another mom guilt thought comes creeping in, I just think it through and make small changes to either adjust to what I need to do to take care of the problem or to get it out of my head.

The weirdest part of being a mom for me was the fact that I wasn’t completely different. I thought having kids would make me never be late or I would always know where BOTH of my shoes were. But I woke up a few months into motherhood realizing I was still me and this little person was looking to be to know what I was doing and I had nooooo idea.

The super mom transition didn’t happen overnight. I didn’t think I could remember lunches and get through the mountain of laundry and toys and responsibilities. But working on one thing at a time really helps me curb the guilt before it happens. And if it creeps in, I look at it, see if I can do anything about it and if not, I try to let go.