Speaking as a shy girl, here are some things I have noticed:

1. Shy girls will try to find ways to get to know more about their crushes without being obvious

• Because I am so shy I am often little more than acquaintances with the guy I am crushing on. Since this is the case, I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what he’s like. Sometimes this means subtly inquiring about him to those who know him better than I do. Sometimes it means looking through his social media and trying to draw inferences from what I see (I know… I can be a bit of a creep). Sometimes it means staring at him from afar to see who he’s with, what he is doing, what kind of mood he’s in etc… (Like I said, creepy).

2. Shy girls will likely keep verbal communication to a minimum

• When I have a crush, I communicate my feelings only through non-verbals (if at all). When my crush is in the vicinity, I often find myself staring if I don’t think he’s looking. Often if he does notice me looking at him, I’ll flush and flash an embarrassed smile while trying to make it appear as if I was looking at something/somebody near him. Every once in a while, when I’m feeling particularly brave, I’ll smile at him in passing and maybe, just maybe say hi. As a shy girl, I will hardly ever initiate a conversation.

3. Shy girls may behave strangely when interacting with their crushes face-to-face

• On the off chance that I do somehow end up in a conversation with my crush (i.e. I am talking with a mutual friend and he joins in), I tend to completely lose my cool. Sometimes my flustered-ness manifests itself through my voice going up like seven octaves, stuttering, and nonsensical babbling. Other times, it comes across more as me giving him the cold shoulder. My face will lose its color and expression, my voice gets lower, and my responses will either be very brief and frank or extremely sarcastic. (** the response I resort to is usually contingent upon how well I know him. If he’s a new acquaintance, I usually behave in the former manner and If he’s a friend I’ve developed feelings for, usually the latter).

4. Shy girls will try to catch their crush’s attention through proximity

• Again due to poor ability to communicate verbally, I will often try other means to create opportunities to catch his attention. This frequently means that I will try to orchestrate my movements so as to be able to be seen by him. So if I know he passes by a certain route every Wednesday (for example), I will try to make sure I am walking in a direction in order to pass him and perhaps make eye contact and smile. Or, if I know he will be attending a particular event, I will doll myself up a bit and try to bump into him…

It is important to understand the reason behind the girl’s shyness. In my case, I am shy around my crush due to insecurities and I am afraid that I would make him uncomfortable if he found out how I felt. Therefore, my shy behavior is a defense mechanism, and in cases like mine, the goal of these behaviors is ultimately to conceal feelings. To save herself the potential embarrassment that could come with exposure, a shy girl will never intentionally let her crush know. Unless you are particularly good at detecting subtleties, shy girls may come across as being completely indifferent to you. If you are interested in a very shy girl, the likely reality is that you will have to do a good deal of social initiating in order to begin to get her to open up.

Hope this helps

Kind regards,

Sav