He is being unaccountable for his actions and wants to be the victim. He is insecuure and wants to see you fall apart. You are probably a self confident, secure person and he wants see you “break”. Self confident people don't “break” they find solutions. Moreover, self confident people rarely see “a problem”. Rather “a problem” it's an obstacle or better yet a challenge. So when your husbsnd blames you for what he sees as a problem is an attempt to control you, to pull you into his insecure, low self confidence world. I suggest taking on the problem and asking him how “we” can resolve it. This way he can take some accountability for resolution.