It is hard, especially when your Mother “pretends” to be a doting Grandmother for appearances sake but in reality wants no contact with her Grandchildren.

My Mom was a businesswoman and I understood that she was never going to be the type of Grandmother to babysit. I did think that she would be interested in maybe celebrating birthdays, holidays, etc… with the Grandkids; however, that was not the case.

I once got a call from my child’s daycare that my son had fallen and broken his arm. I went to pick him and my daughter up from daycare. My son’s arm was visibly broken. I rushed my son to the hospital. How the daycare handled the broken arm is another issue - I won’t discuss that now.

My ex was not in town or available to help. At the hospital I called my Mom and asked/begged her to please come and take my daughter (approx age 3) back to my house so that I could focus on taking care of my son (approx age 4). Her reply - nope, she was out driving around with her husband looking at houses and it wasn’t a good time. My Mom was not seriously shopping for a new home . She was just out looking at what was on the market. She also mentioned she was in her convertible and there was no room for a child in the car. I explained that it would only be for a couple of hours and that she could use my car to get to my place. She replied no, it wasn’t a good time for her. By this time I was crying because I was so frustrated. Fortunately, of my co-workers saw me and agreed to watch my daughter so that I could tend to my son.

When your own parent wants nothing to do with their Grandkids it can be very challenging.