Forgiving people is easier said than done.

If you’ve been in the exact shoes of someone who had to forgive people who weren’t even sorry, then you’ll understand why.

Forgiveness is also setting yourself free from grief and pain. To forgive, you must also learn to set yourself free from negativities and all the hurt that’s grabbing you in the dark. It’s like a long process of renewing yourself from things that you didn’t deserve. It’s like making things brand new once again.

But it’s not as easy as it seems.

Most people aren’t yet ready to let go of that grief. They aren’t ready to forget what they’ve been through or how someone did them wrong. They aren’t emotionally prepared to erase those circumstances in their minds totally. Perhaps, some are mentally ready to do so, but their emotional traumas are hunting them back and forth.

Our hearts and minds are built differently. We struggle through life differently, that’s why forgiveness takes time. It takes a long process. It takes years for some, especially the vulnerable ones.

To understand how it should be practiced, you have to understand that forgiveness isn’t something that’s given instantly. It’s not an object to ask and give. It’s an inner peace you are totally asking from someone you emotionally hurt. And it can only be given once the person is ready to forgive.