Gossip is the biggest sign! They talk about you in a negative light to others. They literally can not wait to share it with another toxic friend/s. It makes them feel better about themselves.
They actually watch you! If your in a social setting just have a little peak over and you’ll see them quickly look away….they watch your every move! They become obsessed with you!
They treat you differently to others and fake being nice to you….(if you don’t think this is the case, just look at their actions instead). Do they seem to make an effort with everyone else but you? Big red flag!
Their friends are often less attractive or less successful then they are. God forbid they have a friend like you around to remind them of all their insecurities. They’d rather be around peope who don’t threaten their ego so much.
If you happen to have nice things or admirable achievements, they don’t or very rarely comment on them and if they do it’s usually sarcastic or unenthusiastic.
Sometimes they tell you the unkind things other people say but act like they didn’t have any involvement in the conversation. They usually disguise this as being ‘concerned’. They want you to be affected by what was said but pass the buck so it deflects onto someone else, so they don’t look bad.
They are not loyal! They will use you only when it’s convenient for them. They fail to be there for you when you really need support or you’re struggling and once you’re back to your normal self….the jealousy can get worse.
They try and copy you in business even if they have no experience or qualifications, especially if you’re an entrepreneur/self-employed. They often jump on your band wagon as it were by blatantly going into the same or sometimes ‘exact’ field you work in but won’t mention it or ask you for tips or advice. The fact that you have already been in this field for years and they could actually benefit from your expertise is an elephant in the room they want to ignore. They don’t want to admit you may have inspired them.
They will call you a show off, know it all or full of yourself if you are a confident person. They are threatened by your knowledge, self-assurance and goals because they are so insecure with themselves that it’s intimidating when someone isn’t. They can’t understand it.
They wont be genuinely happy for you! If you share good news or have something nice that you’ve worked hard for..they won’t want to talk about it! They either don’t want to acknowledge it or will say something rather negative. Even if it’s not all about material possessions to you and your just living your life, it’s often a big part of why people are jealous. They would love to have what you have, even if you don’t have much! If it’s more then them….it’s a perceived threat! People may think you have everything easy because of your lifestyle and often don’t consider all the hard work it actually takes to have any success at all.
Lastly, if someone is talking you up and paying you a compliment in front of them….they look extremely uncomfortable because the truth is it’s killing them to listen to it. They don’t want to hear it. It’s fine if it’s about them but never if it’s about you.
Jealousy is insecurity virtually by definition and trust me when I say no friendship will last if there is jealousy involved. It’s like poison to a relationship and it doesn’t matter how nice or genuine you are to that person….they simply don’t like you because they are unhappy with who they are. It has nothing to do with you!
Let these people go…they vibe on a low frequency! These people are not helpful to you! ….or your development! Or your mental health!
Cut them out of your life if you’re able to. Find people who clap when you win!