They say things that make no sense to you.

They don’t take sides

When you tell them how wrong something is, they don’t join you in your outrage, your judgement and your upset.

When you tell them how great and right something is, they don’t join you in your praise.

When they do something that “you just can’t do!”, say things that “you can’t say!” and you freak out about it, they will likely react to your upset at their unacceptable actions with perfect, slightly indifferent, calm.

They don’t cling to people. They don’t do any of the things people usually do to endear themselves to others: being nice, helpful, pleasant, complementary. They don’t try to be friends. If you feel that they like you well enough but could take you or leave you, you are probably right.

Any attempts at string-pulling, emotional manipulations, games-playing, will just slide off of them.

They don’t engage in gossip, they don’t get embroiled in dramas.

They don’t “just” do anything. They are aware of their actions, of their choices, of their decisions, of their words. Every gesture is intentional, performed in full awareness.

They tend to take what you intend as an idle chit-chat to the fundamental roots of whatever you want to chat about and give the subject of conversation full consideration. Which often results in them saying things that make no sense to you.