My best revenge was to meet my now wife of 35 years a week after I told my first serious girl friend to have a good life. See before I met my ex I had a few girlfriends but nothing serious. I was what a lot of people called a dog. But I was a dog that told the truth. I never told one of the many, many girls I dated I loved them or that I was going to marry them. In fact it was just the opposite I always told them up front I'm just here for a good time as a song goes. It worked for me as many a girl said that I was a challenge that they were willing to take. I would just smile and nod my head. I was a young single E5 in Germany for two years and for my first six months in Hawaii, I was having fun with a capital F.

Fast forward I meet this girl in Hawaii. We hit it off. She was a former model and had everything going for her. She was gorgeous, smart(or so I thought), funny, the total package. After about a month or so I told her that I was developing feelings for her and I was willing to take a chance, on being just a one-woman guy. She was pretty happy to and said she wanted to be just with me. Later on we'd even talk of a ring and possibly making plans for the next year. Now we were together about 6 months. She said she had never felt this way about anyone, and I said in my mind and to married friends, wow this is how it really supposed to be right. That is until she had to go home (Utah) for a family emergency. I called her one day and a boy (old flame) answered the phone. I heard the shower running, and I then heard her say to the boy, “that was amazing, let's just skip going out for dinner and stay in for dessert”. I had heard this same line before from her when we were dating or together and I knew exactly what dessert meant. I told the guy hey dude have a good time and tell …… that Alan said have a great life.

I of course was pissed. I later heard that the shower incident happened after a lot of alcohol was involved, but really it does not matter to me.

Not even a good week later, I met my now wife of 35 years. It was her first day in Hawaii as an operating room Tech in the Army. We met because I had swore off girls (all my soldiers laughed when I said this) and I was actually playing basketball in the middle of the quadrangle where the barracks were. At that time replacement for the 25th Infantry or where new soldiers come into an Army post was located in the same barracks. Two months later we were married and before our first anniversary we had our first kid. It was more than nine months as I know some of you were thinking we had to get married but we didn't. Ha!

Now for the Revenge part kinda sorta maybe. Not long after my now-wife and I started dating I was pulling CQ or charge of quarters when all of a sudden my ex girlfriend shows up. She was crying, telling me how she F..ked up her life worse than anything she's ever imagined, and how she would do anything to get me back. I listened quietly, then said you did screw up but you know what it really turned out okay for me. I thanked her for taking that shower and then I said as a gentleman I'm going to walk you back out to your car. We stopped at the soda machine because she said she was thirsty. She then point-blank asked me have you f***** her yet. I said, no. She then kinda smiled. I said no, I f*** you, I've make love to her. Mic drop!