It didn’t change much between our friendship, except that I can’t participate in all the activities that they can but they understand that

I was and still am friends with a girl who came from a wealthy family. When I first met her in university/college she just blended in with everyone else. She did things that everyone else would do: we went out for parties, go out for dinners, hung out at a mall and studied together. This went on far a year and we started establishing a good friendship.

In the next year she was planning an extravagant party and was asking who wanted to come and that we will split the costs among everyone. As per usual I would say yes I’m down. But when I looked at how much it would cost per person at this party, I was a bit shocked it was $5,000 a person and that is because she was planning to have a private yacht party! This was the first time I felt that this girl was wealthy. I had to respectfully decline because I did not have that type of money during my third year of University. She understood my concern and said it’s OK. After that incident, we continued our friendship the way it was and I don’t remember being invited to an event that was as expensive again. I am OK with that because I wouldn’t be able to participate in those activities anyways.

After we graduated, it was basically confirmed that she was from a wealthy background. She found a job in New York City and purchased an apartment in Manhattan. Out of all my friends during school, no one was able to buy a place right out of school except her. To be honest I am in my mid twenties and most of my friends are still renting or living with their parents. When I went to NYC I had a chance to go to her place once and it was a very nice place!

Up to this point, although I know she is wealthy, I have never asked her anything about her wealth because I am not sure how she may react to that type of question. I like the friendship that we have now and don’t want to ruin it because she thinks I’m using her for money or give away that vibe.

That’s my experience with a secretly wealthy friend who I have still not directly asked about her wealth yet.

-Justine