I'm an introvert married to a party girl. Mostly, it's worked out well for both of us. I keep my wife grounded; she gets me out of my shell.

But you asked about the problems: there wouldn't be any if we were more independent, but we're very close and don't enjoy spending a lot of time apart. She goes stir-crazy if two weeks pass without a party; I go stir-crazy at a party. So once every two weeks or so, one of us is in a funk. It lasts one night. Then we're happy again.

I'll add that we both have to work to remember -- simply to remember -- each-other's needs. We've been together for 17 years, so we know each other well and usually do remember. But introversion and extroversion are so opposite, it's easy for us to forget. Like, if I'm depressed, she might suggest throwing a party for me, just because that would make her happy if she was depressed. Or she might have a bad day at work, and I'll say, "I'm sorry, honey. Maybe you'd feel better if we sat on the sofa and each read a book."

Update: I just thought of another problem. Just because I'm generally introverted, that doesn't mean I'm always an introvert. Sometimes I do want to go out with people. My wife may assume I don't and not ever suggest it.

And I sort of lean on her to do the talking for us. Too often, when someone comes to the door, I expect her to get it. I expect her to call us cabs, because I don't like talking to strangers. It's easy for me to forget that she's not always in the mood to be social.

An introvert here.

1.People think we don’t know any thing, but believe me we know and notice everything , I mean even those things which you extroverts can’t even notice.

2.We speak less but believe me when introverts speak they have analysed full details from depth of internet and done full research on given topic.But people do not believe us because they do not have that much information on topic.

3.We are more open minded than so called extroverts.

4.People think we are shy or we do not feel.

5.People generally think that we are like stone but believe me few of us even cry while watching emotional movie scenes.I really do cry on such movie scenes.

6.Many people think we have huge ego or we are rude.

7.We have many crushes but we rarely express.

8.We are very honest.Believe me you will rarely find an introvert who is not honest.

9.If we love anyone we love them from depth of our hearts.

10.People think we are boring.

11.We have a topic problem but if you give introvert a topic then be ready to lose.

12.We like to be alone so many people ask us different type of questions.

13.We are busy in our own stuff hence sometimes our friends think we don’t give any value to them.But believe me guys I am always for you.

14.We do not like going to family functions or to relatives place because we hate too many questions.

There are many more points but I am stopping here.

1. He will give her lots of space.
2. He will show, with his actions, how much he loves her, rather than saying it loud.
3. He will be always straight forward, no beating around the bush.
4. In an introvert’s life there is less number of people who can understand him / her. So if the wife understands him, he will make her first priority and his world will revolve around her.
5. He will take full responsibility and utmost care for her mental well being.
6. He will be very loyal to her and will expect the same loyalty.
7. He will always respect her decisions and opinions even if those clash with his.
8. He will not expect her to cook and serve. Her presence itself will make his day.
9. He can breach any relationship with a person, if his wife is misbehaved by him or her.
10. There won't be much small talk in the house, although lots of hugging and cuddling, but when conversations start, they will deep and long.

She simply say that shyness is the real nemesis of introverts when she falls in love.

She encounter it all the time, with some people she used to meet in some places; from one friend whom she knows very well for years to the acquantaince she barely see him once or twice.

When she falls in love, she will get some butterflies in her tummy until she manages to go to the toilet several times. She overthinks the person all the time, until she cannot manage to concentrate on one thing. However, when she sees the person face to face, the awkwardness and stammering hit her directly!

She can barely say words, she even doesn't have a bravery to stare at his eyes, she even doesn't have an idea what to do with the person.

She feels awkward.

She feels shy.

Introversion prisons her to do so.

She only say some important words, then she goes afterwards to avoid shitty situation.

But when she is alone, she again overthink too much about the person. The thoughts about the person bubbling in her mind, with full of rethoric question.

What is he doing?

What does he think about me as a person?

Does he have the same feeling as me?

Is he the real one for me?

Is there any things that make us difference, in terms of this or that?

Can I be with him someday?

And the most horrible one… Does he have a partner currently?

She silently observe his activity log in some social media accounts. She silently stalk his preferences. She silently look at his post from the recent one to the oldest one. She silently like some posts which quite interesting for her.

She tries to do that, only to get to know the person very well personally. Although social media sometimes does not reflect the person's personality traits in real life.

Confessing is totally the worst. Worst idea ever. She once confessed it to somebody in her high school days, but then got rejected. Since then, she doesn't have enough bravery to tell the truth about the feeling to the person she loves.

What she is going to do is only fantasize the person in her mind every single night before she gets to sleep, and then observe him on social media in the morning, and then look at him in a distance in the afternoon and whisper to herself that God and all the elements of the universe will help and guide her to get closer to the person.

That's how love in silence happens to her, who turns out confess herself as I myself, who is now writing the answer.

It just works fine!

Most of the times, I feels that my husband is not listening to whatever I say and he is in his own world.

Though I know his ears are shutdown from hearing what I say, I couldn't resist from saying it. He would not yell at me for continuously blabbering something because he knows it and he is used to it. He even tries to irritate me just trying to speak non-stop like me, but he couldn't. It is all fun (once you understand that it is the way we both are, not intentionally troubling each other).

Introvert husband will have more understanding of everything around, including his extrovert wife. Extrovert wife is more into her own world, trying (but mostly only trying) to empathize everybody around.

Often my husband sees me as a kid running around and bringing happiness in his life. When I am not around, one of his entertainment was to track the weather reports!! I am the major entertainment in his life!! Happy to say that! :-)

I need to mention the differences that arise because of the difference in the way we see our life.

Decision making is often very time consuming when it is a big one like buying a property, kid's schooling etc. We are like north and south poles, I don't agree with his option and neither he do. But, we sit and discuss, come up with better options and come to a point which is acceptable to both. Once we arrive at that point, nothing like that. It will be the best, given the situation in front of us. I would say these decisions will be better than the ones I take on my own, so I never considered them as problem.

Now comes the toughest part, introvert husband needs lot of personal time. There is always "our family time" and "my personal time" for him. He may need to have an hour every day to listen to his favorite music after coming from office to home, he may want to go out for a weekend once in 3 months/6 months with his (like minded) friends just like a bachelor etc. This is so contradicting to how I am. Often I want to just give 100% to the situation and people whom I am with. I just want to be like the water that takes the shape of the container in which it is stored. But, they are not like that. It is better to let them have their personal time, so that they can enjoy when it our family time comes and for us to enjoy with them as well. :-)

1. Parties: I get a panic attack every time someone invites me to their birthday party or marriage reception. I would find out excuses to not attend those, and end up 'sick'. I remember how my parents used to drag me forcefully to marriage parties and I would sit alone in some corner, silently praying that no one sees me. I go to my friends' parties as most of them invite quite a few people. Thank God for that.

2. 'The anti-social idiot who keeps smiling': Okay, so whenever I try to make a conversation, my mind goes blank and I end up smiling awkwardly. Most aunties consider me rude and stupid because unlike other 'loving' extroverted children, I can't keep cajoling them. They just swoop in and swoon them off their feet with flattery.
There are aunties who like me because I am quite well behaved too, though.

3. Phone calls: Another panic attack! Other than mom's and my brother's calls, I think thrice before receiving others' calls. I would just hide the phone under the pillow and pretend I never heard them ring.

4. Boys: This one is a bit embarrassing, but I am going to be truthful. Whenever some unknown guy walks past me, I pretend to be cool and not have seen him walk by, and maintain a cool, expressionless face. But, no one can imagine the horror I faced just then. I almost hyperventilate. ALMOST. No, I am not phobic. Strangers just scare me.I remember when I was a kid, I used to play cricket with my brother in the afternoon. One day, his friend from school came to join us. I had never seen that guy earlier. The moment I saw him, I ran away.

I tell you, it is horrible. You are scared of socialising. You are scared of roaming in public places, and let me add. FOR NO REASON.

(But the people I get comfortable with, are the ones who will always be there in my life). :)

I found the whole experience of dating extremely exhausting and I was drained afterwards. Trying to think of questions to ask before the date, because I want to be interesting. Being attentive and listen carefully, do as to make the right impression. It is do hard when you don’t even know if the person will like you at the end of the date.

To work around this, I turned to online dating. I could write letters and take as much time as I needed to write them. I could communicate at my own pace, as often as I felt.

I didn’t have any luck though with UK dating sites; after sending over 100 letters, I probably only got 5 or 6 replies. All No. It was around this time that I went to Ukraine to learn Russian (officially). Whilst there, I decided to sign up to a Ukrainian and Russian dating site. I wrote a couple of letters and all the girls responded. Even the girl that I really wanted to hear from; she wrote to me after a couple of days.

We communicated with each other through letters only for a few weeks. We took it slow. Then we started introducing Skype calls to each other. This became more and more frequent until we were talking almost everyday. Finally, after 6 months, we decided to meet.

As an introvert, my natural instinct kicked in at the moment I met her. I didn’t know what to say, I was star struck. I’d already started to fall for her and at that moment I didn’t know what to do or say. Luckily, there was someone with us who whispered to me about the flowers that I’d bought for her. It was enough to kick the mental plan I’d prepared into action and I was ok. We went for lunch and had a great time.

We’ve talked about our first meeting since and it is a bit funny now. She thought I was a bit weird in the moment, but quickly saw that I was a nice guy who was a bit shy and reserved.

I think that the right woman will embrace your introvert nature when you are falling in love.

1. You won’t see an Introvert catching a happy selfie with their Mom/Dad

This is what they are bad at! Emotions! They are the most sensitive people on earth but they are very bad at expressing themselves. May be they don’t believe the ways people portray love but they don’t even have their own ways to express their feelings.

This might make them bad children if they have extroverted parents and relatives.

2. Introverts do get compliments from relatives and a lot of scolding from their parents.

This happens every time some family friends/relatives come at our home, they are usually impressed to see such a ‘Calm and Composed guy’. Which I am obviously not! I am usually very talkative with the people who know me very well.

So parents usually get annoyed by their silent behavior with strangers. (May be because they don't have some one to back them up when they have some important work to do than to talk with the relatives :P)

3. Introverts are often scolded by their parents for not listening to them.

Introverts are so immersed in their work, they don’t even try to look up when someone is talking to them. This annoys their parents.

4. Parents will go out without their innocent kid because an Introvert son/daughter always says no!

When parents want to go out somewhere at relative’s place, an introvert child will never go with them. My parents have always faced this.

Introverts have their own inner world of ideas where they always find peace and pleasure which makes them very interesting creature on this earth.

It goes without saying that dating people across the introversion/extroversion scale can be quite different. Here are the pro's and con's of dating an introvert vs. extrovert

Introverted PartnersBenefits

When dating another introvert you often understand each other without words. You know from experience how your partner operates and you know how to give them their space. You don't feel guilty staying in and reading next to each other, nor do you ever feel like you're holding them back from being their naturally social selves. The depth, connection, and attention to detail in an introvert-introvert relationship is something truly special and deserves to be cherished.

Watch Out For

On the other hand, this relationship setup has the potential to keep you stuck in your comfort zone if you’re not aware of it. Opposites attract in many ways in intimate relationships because it forces you to grow and challenge your comfort zone. If you and your partner get into the habit of ONLY staying in and reading books every weekend then you might be missing out on fulfilling social relationships with others. To avoid this cycle, make a concerted effort to go out socializing with other friends or couples on a semi-regular basis (even if you don’t necessarily feel like it).

Extroverted PartnersBenefits

An extroverted partner will push you out of your comfort zone more often. You will learn how to become more adept at small talk by watching them with others. Your social circle will grow to include a few people that you wouldn't have talked to otherwise. And you, for your partner, will help them become more introspective and see the patterns in their behavior that they wouldn't have been aware of had you not made them aware of them.

Watch Out For

As with any character trait that we adore in our intimate partner, it has the potential to frustrate us a few months in to the relationship. You may find yourself getting annoyed that your partner can’t give you the kind of emotional depth in your conversations that you so often crave. Maybe they have to work a bit harder to listen to you effectively. No matter what the roadblock seems to me, make sure you clearly state your desires, and have patience with them.

The Choice Is Yours

Personally, I have enjoyed both types of relationships, but because I have a preference for someone who intuitively understands me over someone who challenges me, I do better with other introverts long-term. Keep in mind that everybody is different and you will find your own balance through your own dating experiences.

My only suggestion is that you sample each kind of relationship before you make a long-term decision as to which kind of partner is best for you.

1. I get tired talking to people. After an hour or two I want to give up and go home and forget about everybody.
2. I easily get bored and I feel my energy is going down fast just hanging out in malls, cafes, and other public places.
3. I’m not comfortable being with a large group of people, unless we have an important reason/s for being in a particular place at a particular date and time.
4. It’s a struggle making a class report or a company presentation. I’d rather write the report and prepare the presentation, and let somebody else do the talking.
5. My hands, pits, and back sweat a little, and then some, when I see myself in an event where I don’t know anybody, and I don’t know what to do with my hands. Should I put them inside my trouser pockets? Should I cross my arms? Should I put my hands together at the back? Should I put them on my hips?
6. Unannounced visit by a friend and kins is a big issue to me especially when I’m trying to finish a book or writing something of personal importance that I can’t just pause for a moment because I might lose my train of thought.
7. I find it hard to munch on a sandwich or eat a piece of cake while I try to give the impression that I’m interested in things being said by my companions in a party.
8. Some kins, friends, and other people think I’m a snob because I don’t try to make small chat with them. They don’t know I’m just not in the mood to talk because I’m trying to daydream or making a mental note of things I need to do tomorrow or in the hours to come.
9. There was a time I hyperventilated over the phone making a complaint to, or rather arguing with the telephone company for a lousy service.
10. There are times I had to gather the courage to go out of the house to do an errand. I had to check first if our neighbors are out in their yard or the regular guys are hanging out in front of their house because I don’t want to meet and greet anybody.

Being transformed from an outward and extreme extrovert to a silent and eccentric introvert, I have my own share of struggle with my parents.

Some instances are:

1.How my mother reacts when I refuse to move a inch.

“Why don’t you go out and enjoy? I don’t know from where you have acquired such dull habits. No one in our family is like you. You are the only weird we have. Your brain will stink if you keep yourself locked in these four walls. Don’t you get bore??”

She considers that I don’t have a life. It is difficult for her to digest the fact that “idea of fun” differs from person to person.

2. When I make silly excuses for avoiding relatives and family functions.

Time for some high voltage misunderstanding.

Mom: You don’t respect me. All your cousins come and graciously meet all of us. Only you are missing in our family get together functions. People often ask me, “Why doesn’t your daughter come?” Is she having some problem?” Doesn’t she like us?” What I am supposed to tell them that she is a well qualified Psycho with a huge amount of baseless arrogance.

Me: What?? Arrogance??

Mom: Yeah..that’s what you are..you think that you are always right.

Me (having no freaking idea) : for what I’ll consider myself best or right? What do I have??

Mom: A never ending “NO”.

Me: You are getting late for the function..we’ll continue this afterwards okay..??

Mom: Useless stubborn..I am dealing with a fool..I know..

She considers me arrogant and superior who doesn’t pay heed to what other feel. I don’t know how to explain her.

3. When she arranges my cupboard.

Mom (sarcastically): Why don’t you sell your clothes? you will earn a good amount.

Me: Whaaat??

Mom: Yeah..you don’t wear them except your 500 year old tshirt. Neither you go anywhere. Then why do you buy them..to waste our money??

Me: hmmm..

Mom: Say something??

Me: Nothing..

She considers I buy clothes to burn their hard earned money. On the other hand, she tells me that I am a big time miser. I don’t know what she really wants??

4. When Dad sees me sitting in my room.

Dad: What are you always thinking??

Me: Nothing.

Dad: No..you are thinking.

Me:. No..No..nothing.

Dad: If there is any problem, share with us..

Me: Seriously nothing..I am fine..(Yeah my problem is how to explain you??)

Dad: But, you should speak up.

Me: Dad, I don’t know how to explain “nothing” in words.

Dad: Okay..

He considers that I have huge mountain of problems which keep me depressed all the time.

5. The ultimate conclusion.

Mom: I am worried who will going to marry you?

Me: A human being..:P

Mom: I don’t think that weird human beings like you exist. You are the exclusive one we have..!!

Me: They exist. If not I’ll make them weird..!!!

Mom: Always ready with a useless answer..well done..

Me: okay end of today’s session..good night..:P

She thinks that it will be an uphill task for her to find a suitable match for her ‘abnormal’ daughter..!!!

Introverts are mysterious creatures with a speaking mind. Sometimes their silent loudness is misinterpreted by the people around them.

Let them alone. Let them free. They know themselves better..!!!

Thanks 4 A2A.. Quora User…:)

I'm an extrovert male married to an introvert female - so the opposite of Marcus Geduld in a manner of speaking :-)

Problems my wife and I have have (and have observed with similar couples as well as in literature on the subject) from the introverts perspective:

• The extrovert may inadvertently ignore their introvert partner in social situations. This makes the introvert feel neglected, bored or worst of all a "tag along." The situation is amplified when the introvert doesn't know the other people very well
• The extrovert exhausts the introvert with too much third party social activity. My partner can only cope with maybe one or two parties a month. She absolutely hates small talk and pretence (I've grown to dislike it too but more on that later), or gatherings involving more than 6-8 people (unless she knows them all *really* well)
• The extrovert just doesn't listen, making the relationship feel one sided. Many Es are not good listeners. Obviously this doesn't bode so well with a person who may be a little bit "shy" by nature...

And from the extroverts perspective:

• The introvert can be too "clingy" with their extrovert partner in social situations. It's not on purpose... but it can be irritating especially if its a business networking type of gathering where your goal is to meet new people.
• The introvert can be a "buzzkill" by getting exhausted / not wanting to participate in social gatherings that social conventions require they be present at. There is a (somewhat unfortunate) social convention - at least in my culture - that if there is a social gathering of some sort, both myself AND my wife are expected to attend. This can lead to tension as quite often my wife is unhappy about attending such events unless there is at least one person she *really* likes there.

That said... I think this question overlooks some of the positive things that, at least for my partner and I, have stemmed from the above problems:

• All things going well, the extrovert will probably become a better listener, and less pretentious too. I could write a book on all the cues and things I've learned from my introverted partner about what others are *really* thinking
• The introvert will "come out of their shell" a bit and be more confident socialising. My partner has a mischievous sense of humour, and most people had no idea until she started relaxing a bit more in social gatherings...
• Perhaps the best of all, the extrovert will learn [from the introvert] a better understanding of what constitutes a meaningful friendship. There are a number of people I used to hang around with who I realised (from being with an introvert) that I wasn't really even that good friends with as we never talked about anything serious or "deep."

I am an introvert in an overtly extrovert family. For an awfully long time, I believed that I had a psychological problem because I was not as outgoing as my family (maybe my parents thought so too). I was always made to believe that being loud, constantly talking to your extended family and friends, socializing and being the center of attention are the MUST-DO things to make you a socially acceptable and a likable person. Thank heavens I thought all of this was crap. I am a very happy introvert and absolutely LOVE being this way. In fact, I have never felt more comfortable in my skin. Nonetheless, being the only introvert in a family of extroverts, I have several anecdotes to share!

1. "What's up with your headphones?"

My parents ask me this question on a daily basis. They fail to understand my deep love for headphones and why it is hard for me to live without them. I take them wherever I go. Specially in the bus.

What I think: "Duh! It's to avoid unnecessary conversation"

What I say: "I like the music this way"

2. "Why don't you come to the XYZ's wedding/birthday party/other loud obnoxious over the top get-together?"

I absolutely HATE such places. The people. The small talk. The social butterflies. everyone talking at the same time. The loudness. So many people in a small area. Any such situation drains me completely- mentally and emotionally. I'd rather just stay at home and binge watch Sherlock for the 52nd time.

What I think:"Oh my god. Not another one of these. I cannot deal with so many fake people in a span of a few hours. I will have to talk to strangers with an unnecessary smile stapled across my face. I will have to answer all the questions the aunties and uncles ask me, politely, repeatedly." <insert mini panic attack>

What I say: "I think I ate too much this morning and I feel sick too. I'd rather just stay in bed."

3. "Why are you always inside your room?"

I generally close the doors of my room and stay inside, contently, for hours altogether. My parents have never, NEVER, understood why. They can't get their head around simple explanations such as: "I just like it this way", "I am more comfortable" "I like my space".

Once, my father barged into the room thinking I was doing drugs (Which I obviously wasn't). True Story.

So, in such situations, when my parents ask me disapprovingly why I am always in my room and don't come out to talk to them, I come up with some lame believable excuses.

What I think: "I LOVE MY PRIVACY"

What I say: "I was changing clothes"

4. "Why don't you let us use your laptop?" or "What is the password to your account?"

No, I will not share that. EVER. I don't have compromising content on it but I feel it is a very personal property- my laptop. I take so much time and effort keeping it spic and span, maintaining it, protecting it. Also, there are folders and sub-folders of organized information in specific locations which are not supposed to be altered, at all. I don't want a folder titled 'New Folder' on my desktop containing something random. That is just not how things work.

Also, I feel I should mention that we have 2 laptops at home. One is mine and the other is a common one. The common one, a smaller laptop, is filled with unnecessary information which my parents feel, can be used someday or the other when we are in need (yeah, like you are going to use ancient Ayurvedic procedures for curing hiccups occurring in dreams). Since my laptop has a bigger screen and is faster, my parents sometimes prefer using it.

What I think: "Nope"

What I say: "Oh, that account is not working, some Windows 10 glitch, use the guest account, it doesn't have a password"

4. "Your friend called, did you call back?" or "Why aren't you answering your friend's call?"

It is not that I don't answer phone calls. I just answer them when I am mentally prepared to do so. I am not being mean to my friends or ignoring them. They understand that. My parents don't. Also, I have a limited circle of friends - 5 to be precise. My parents always think I am very bad to the other people that's why I don't have friends (What?). They find my lack of friends disturbing.

What I think: <well, I don't think anything. I just mindlessly ignore calls>

What I say: "Oh it's nothing, she'll call back"

"Ari chup hoja" (Will you be quiet), came a familiar voice one afternoon.

I was probably 7-8 at the time.

My grandmother was a talkative little ball of energy. She could go on for hours and hours and you would never feel bored. (Well ,now I know where I get that from!)

She had an extremely extroverted personality. Sharp wit and above all, had the art to make people fall in love with her instantly.

My grandfather on the other hand was this high intellect, quiet type of person. Extremely introverted.

No silly business , no fannying about.

I won't say he wasn't fun , but he was definitely overshadowed by my grandmother's fun loving personality.

She would manage any guests and relationships and maintain them as it was her area of expertise. Baba (that’s what I call my grandfather) being fully engrossed with his work, barely had time for other stuff. She managed everything without any fuss. The four kids, the house chores, running errands and maintaining relationships with other family members.

She gave him his space and she had loads of friends who she would regularly have fun with.

They had opposite personality types no doubt, but the way they would think was impeccably similar. On most important matters, they were on the same page. I hardly remember them being ‘incompatible’. Their thoughts matched and thus, they were a happy couple.

As usual, after he retired he would nearly 'chaato' each and every section of Times Of India with his magnifying glass. He loves to read current affairs.

My grandmother would try to converse and it would often irritate him. He would tell her to shush, but she would manage to get her way and make him listen.

They were so cute *_*

It's been 12 years since she passed away, the same newspaper reading habit persists. But the void she has left, is something that hurts him till today.

Every time I pass by his room, he feels empty. Like she was his everything. He could converse with her about World Wars, Ramanyan and various other forms of literature, what he was thinking and how he was feeling. But not anymore.

Her extroverted personality fit superbly with his. He got the best from her and she got the best from him.

My whole family believes that they were the most compatible couple they have yet to see.

I beg to differ. My parents have the best ,in my opinion. You know why? It's not just their extremely opposite personality types but the fact that they chose to marry each other.

Unlike my grandparents, they had a love marriage.

I'm a kid myself in comparison so this is just my observation.

I might be wrong, but this will definitely make me go for someone introverted whose thoughts somewhat match mine, because in my opinion parallel relationships work best.

A proud introvert problems: Not only in India, happens everywhere.

• Usually people consider me as arrogant and rude when it comes to have a conversation with them.
• I really don’t like to share my stuffs with them.

I will tell you a small story. One day I was listening to my class and taking notes of it. A classmate sat behind me and asked for a pencil. I had an extra pencil with me.

She: Do you have you a pencil?

Me: No, I don’t have.

She: At least give me the pencil you are writing with after you wrote.

Me: Ahh but, I have to take more notes.

She: (turned and asked from another friend)I got it di.

Me: (even though I don't have anything to write, acting like I’m taking notes deeply)

My peer friend: Babe, Give me your pencil, I have to mark this thing.

Then the thing happened. I gave my extra pencil to her. The girl who sat behind me left my bench and sat with another classmate.

During the break time, my peer friend told me that our classmate talked at my back and referred me as a rude girl and added that I don't know to be respectful.

God, that’s my character. Really, I never consider this personally because am the only queen to my imaginary world with no subjects.

Note: For people who hate me, please understand that am not arrogant and rude. This is my nature and I can’t change it anymore - voice of an introvert!

The fact that many people don’t realize that introversion is not a phase that will go away and many try hard to change our nature.

I live in a mostly extroverted society and I face a lot of problems due to the fact that many people try everything they can to change my nature by dragging me to parties and generally putting me in a situation where I am surrounded by a big number of people. Introversion is not a phase and I am an introvert and I always will be. Extroverts are fine but some of them just show their lack of understanding what does it mean to be an introvert. I don’t like spending too much time being surrounded by a big number of people and I mostly prefer to be either alone or in a small circle of friends. If you can’t accept that fact, it doesn’t mean that I will change.

Well I am married to one so I think I can tell you how it feels.
Introverts generally suck at talking on phone I mean really suck! Even when you are with them you have to put topics to them and then find what interests them, they rarely dig topics and talk. But you will be surprised at how they see things. Trust me its way different and you'll love it! Most of the time you should train yourself to sense them because they will be quiet even when they have nothing to talk and also when they are upset. But guess what if he/she starts sharing things with you doesn't that make you special? I know that my husband will tell things to me that he will not share with anyone. I am the only one with whom he can just be himself. That's a very very special feeling. Trust me :)

These can’t be best described as problems as it is their intrinsic characteristic. Some of them are :-

1. They don’t like to meet new group of people or friends.
2. If called for a party, they will prefer going alone, enjoying from a corner, and coming back quickly.
3. They prefer minimal talks, words come out forcibly to make themselves comfortable in a crowd of expectations.
4. They enjoy solitude.
5. They try to keep each and everything private even when others know about it.
6. They will prefer texts than calls.
7. Repsonse time is too much as they believe in a calculated talk.
8. They hate when people gather in their homes, they prefer going to other vacant room.
9. They will prefer silence over hooting.
10. They will be happy in their own little world with no hurry to change it sooner.

Understand these key things:

1. Introverts don’t really get “lonely”. Being alone and feeling lonely are two separate things. Introverts are perfectly happy being alone…so no need to feel sorry for him doing something by himself.
2. Introverts are VERY selective about their friends so they have very few of them if any at all. Your introverted husband may not have a crew of guy friends and that’s perfectly fine as long as he’s happy about it.
3. Introverts typically PREFER staying in and solitude over going out and being social. Social interaction is very mentally draining for introverts so they typically opt out of attending social events.
4. Don’t try to make your husband feel guilty for not wanting to attend a party or event that you want to go to. If he doesn’t want to go, just go by yourself or invite a friend.
5. Don’t constantly invite your friends and family over. And when you do plan something, tell him far in advance so that he can mentally prepare for it. An introvert’s home is the ONE place that they can escape social exhaustion. Don’t rob him of that by constantly having people over!

It is not a big deal really. What you need to find out what all things does he like to do ?
Introverts like to visit new places, read books, watch movies, spend long quality time with the ones they like or love, they always seek love in terms of compliments and small things that you do. Introverts are careful to who they open up to, they only open up to someone who they trust completely and then tell them everything.

Introverts are geeky, knowledge hungry, tech-savvy and most importantly have patience to hear everything out without dividing their attention. So, if they are listening to you, be assured that they are your audience only for that matter of time.

What you can do, plan things and go outside your home and do things which he likes, in return introverts give twice what they get. Dont ever think of giveing signals to introvert guys, if you need something, want something, feel something just say it, introverts do not like unnecessary work to do, such as understanding signals, making the first move and all. They are terrible in early encounters, but when they get comfortable with someone, they are good. Just understand, they will always be reserved to the unknown people and this is how they are made.

Introverts avoid unnecessary attention or sudden attention, so try and never put them on spot by surprise, we guys need preparation and a little mindset to ascertain what are our surroundings and how should we behave. You dont want to embarass your husband by putting in situation that he might not expect.

Shower us with surprises, we love it, but do not put us on spot, we inherently are socially awkward and thrive in situation for which we are prepared already or in comfortable setting such as informal family meetings.

Ok, Finally, when you turn down any offer they make or any plan they planning to, be thoughful and tell them the truth why are you declining and if possible make up for it, by planning something by yourself and telling them later. I am sure he will love it.

Not true for all introverts but:

• Being judged for wanting to stay home and relax instead of going out.
• People feeling personally insulted when you say you don’t want to talk. Like, it’s not you. It’s me. I just don’t feel like talking right now.
• Being told they are “missing out on life and not truly living it.”
• Mentally cancelling plans before they are even made.
• Hiding when you see a familiar face in an unfamiliar setting (like an acquaintance at the local market) and hoping they won’t see you.
• Hating talking on the phone. Why can’t people just text!?
• Having to mentally prepare yourself before you go out. This time could range from a couple of hours to weeks.
• Having to mentally list out what you are going to say before you say it.
• Having small talk with random people. Like please no, I did not sign up for this. Can’t we just be quiet instead?
• Being more of a listener than a talker (when you are with new people) so you’re automatically deemed boring or shy.
• Going “Oh hell no! I can’t do this today.” when a random text pops up, or you’re bombarded with sudden plans.
• Being forced to work in groups.
• Class participation.
• Having to lie about how you enjoy team work and love interacting with people when applying for a job.
• Public transports. Stand away from me. Stop talking so loudly. Lower the music you’re playing on your phone.
• Not being able to keep in touch with people even if you like them because you suck at communicating like a regular person.
• Being shit at flirting (?)
• Having so many thoughts but not being able to express them at the right time to the right people
• Buying something at a retail store and suddenly being approached by a sales person. No please, go away. I can manage just fine.
• Being a smooth talker online but barely able to open your mouth when you meet someone in person.
• Being judged when people ask you about your hobbies and you say “reading, writing, listening to music, etc.”
• Being considered rude or a snob because you don’t text first; or wave and smile at people when you see them.
• Feeling lonely in a crowded room.
• Taking ages to feel comfortable around someone.

Okay, I think that’s enough problems for one answer haha

Being introvert makes it difficult to express your feelings to the other person on face. Many a times, the strong voice deep inside wants to say so many things to your partner but then the same voice goes even deeper and find its grave.

So here is what you can do to express your feelings.

1. Letters - This may be the oldest form of expressing feeling but trust me, this can work wonders. Express everything whatever you feel in those words. Do not handover the letter directly but leave hints or stick notes so that he can reach to that letter.
2. Surprises - Not just girls but guys love surprises too. Get to know what he likes, use creativity and give him a surprise.
3. Song - Yes you can sing for him, just record a song and dedicate it for him. Send him through WhatsApp. Do not think about whether the song will come good or not. Just go for it. OR an alternative, you can just dedicate the song for him by sending songs to him. Or a simple “I LOVE U” message during his working hours would bring a smile on his face.
4. Food - Cook something special. Make him feel that he holds a special place in you heart.

You don’t have to do great things to impress your love. All it takes it to do small things which brings smile on his face.

• Being perceived as pricey by people
• Difficulty in maintaining social contacts and friendships as they are mostly happy with just few people in their lives they feel comfortable with.
• Difficulty in fitting in all the places.
• Initiating conversations.
• Trusting people too much when they feel like that with somebody.
• Too much emotional vulnerability to those few relationships in their lives.
• They are not understood that easily by people as their behaviour is mostly different from the crowd.
• Being overlooked at various occasions as they themselves don't try much for attention and prefer being at the back.
• Adjusting with people. They mostly are comfortable with similar kind of people .
• They are mistaken as lonely sometimes while that is out of their choice
• Sometimes they are judged as boring too when they don’t speak much on topics that doesn't interest them.
• When they are accused of such stuff they prefer to not confront rather walk away giving people a notion that they don't care which is again misunderstood as arrogance ;)

Not that I know off … being introvert Rocks … but not reacting to Peoples BS as they would like us to… well that createa problem for them in their mind…

Often when I let people hang in on “Dude, did you just…?” and they still dont realize what they said/asked was well. out of the boundaries of sensible conversation… I used to put up this blank face as a kid… As I grew up… I just creepingly Smile… so as to screw with their minds… and they tend to run away….

these kinda people will go all over town and cause problems for Introverts… and thus main stream media enjoys adding its Masala to the mix.

anywho… Being an Introvert is Rocking… But only when you hang around Sensible People well (Sensible to the standard of an Introverts.) and if your stuck in a situation where this isnt the case… Lite a fire uner the building and pull the Fire alarm and Run. 🙈😂🤣😂🤣 🤔and I dont mean Litterally🤔🤪

You should be thankful to God for getting introvert wife.

Observe her, listen her, understand her and then you can start knowing what she needs even she doesn't tell. Talk to her daily, be funny, she will become extrovert to you, don't expect to her to be extrovert to everyone.

“No one in this world is completely introvert, introverts are extroverts to people with whom they feel connected”.

• We argue less dramatic than extroverted couples, we argue in silenssssss… I often argued with my partner on texts rather than speaking, it makes communication easier.
• We don’t talk much but silence is the sweet spot for introverts. We don’t talk, we hold hands. We don’t talk, we joke. We don’t talk, we wrestle! We don’t talk, but we understand what to do to keep the sparks.
• We seldomly argue. Because we both introverts —experts on minding our own business and professors on not crossing boundaries, we rarely argue. We don’t fuss over little things like who left the keys or forgot to turn off the lights, we internally realized that in the fault of our partner, lies pieces of our responsibilites. “If he forgot but I remember, the keys won’t be left behind”. That’s why we’re not so mad about simple things like that. But when we argue, it’s about something deeper and principal, it’s about feeling and resentment. We argued about what’s considered early signs of cheating, we argued aligning our principles about privacy, we argue to make me understand how male brain works about women. When we do argue, it will be emotional.
• We bond through experiences and feelings shared together. We can’t really bond over small talk. We can’t bond over having the same opinion about how hot today is, we bond on getting our perfect tan together in this hot sunny day. We didn’t bond over will today be raining, we bond on having soaked in rain together and laughed. We don’t bond over shared culinary recommendations, we bond on going to every list of those culinary recommendations.
• We create enough space for ourselves. Space and privacy, aren’t those the definitions of introversion?

It happens all the time. The things we are attracted to in another person are often what we ourselves lack. So a shy person may be attracted to someone more outgoing. A driving Type A may find someone who is more relaxed and easygoing to be attractive.

I’m highly introverted (INFP) who has been married to an outgoing, warm, social woman for 43 years. Even today we still can find the other’s point of view irritating but overall it has worked out fine.

Two extroverts may irritate each other and two introverts may run out of things to say. BUT I will also say that introversion and extroversion are tendencies in our overall personalities - meaning that each of us can modify our behaviors to get along with almost any other individual

-Running out of topics to talk about even when alone
-Being silently judged for something the other said and it never gets discussed.
-If both are shy they will avoid going out thus can get annoyed at each other’s company
-During arguments introverts like to think hard on a matter before replying. Can make the other impatient and internalize the worst. Falls back on a lot not being discussed.
-Over exaggerated mood swings…introverts can be spontaneous with big events as well as small ones. Like cancelling plans last minute or going from 0 to 100 fast, vica versa.
-Lack of friends here can make one or both partners become dependent on the other in some form. Dependency in a relationship is ur worst nightmare and should not be confused with reliability.