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My 10 year old son and I were flying United from Newark, NJ to San Francisco and the male flight attendant was ON FIRE!! He was aggressive and rude towards anyone and everyone who came close. I’m not sure why but it was obvious that he was just pissed at the world and that was that.

The two other flight attendants in the main cabin were avoiding him at all costs and when his wrath finally found a specific victim he was game on. The victim was one row behind and on the other side of the aisle. He was an obviously religious jewish man complete with yamaka, and pe-ahs down the sides of his cheeks.

The male flight attendant went at him. Screaming at him, berating him, threatening him and telling him he was not allowed to stand up even to go to the bathroom. The infraction this man committed was to simply ask the Flight Attendant if he could stop yelling at everyone since it was upsetting the child he was sitting next to (not even his own kid).

The passenger started pushing the call button for help and even started to yell towards the two other FA’s for assistance since there was a real chance the male FA was going to punch him, that’s how out of control this situation was. The other FA’s just moved towards the front of the plane to avoid the whole situation.

I’m with my son but this was out of control and I had my son switch places with me so I was on the aisle instead of the middle in case the FA crossed a line. I also looked around at the other passengers and saw there were two other guys in my same boat and about ready to jump up and tackle the FA if he laid a hand on the passenger.

When we finally landed the pilot announced that we should all stay in out seats so legal authorities could escort the passenger off the plane. I think the guy was relieved to finally have someone intervene.

When we finally left the plane I saw officers interviewing the passenger. I approached them and explained that I had seen the entire episode from A to Z and that the passenger did absolutely nothing wrong, that the FA boarded this flight with something wrong and the passenger was the victim of his wrath. I gave my contact information to the officers and told them that if they needed a formal statement to clear the man from any wrong doing that I would be happy to do so.

I’m not sure how much this man’s religion contributed to the event but I have to believe it did. The FA was looking for a fight and the guy he chose did nothing wrong other than ask for some basic consideration.

I ended up writing United about the event and eventually I received a letter acknowledging my letter but I’m sure nothing was done. I haven’t flown United since and I doubt I ever will again.

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