A man disappeared on me when I fell pregnant to him. We hadn't been together long, so it was less than ideal, and he made a few cutting comments about my future prospects on a handful of occasions. Like when I was applying for a very competitive grant, he'd remind me that my chances were slim and I wasn't earning very good money. He made a point of saying that he was looking for his own place (to purchase) and he wouldn't wait for me to contribute to a deposit, because I'd never catch up financially. There were jabs about whether I was really just seeing him to sponge off him, which is a bit rich for a man who scored a job as an IT guy at a school with no qualifications or experience, because his father hired him.

Fast forward a few years and I earn a six figure salary, own a large property, and financially support myself and my partner. Meanwhile, the ex is still trapped in a protracted and expensive divorce.