I don’t think it’s a feeling of revenge. It’s more like an “I told ya so”. My husband’s daughter was living in California when we began our relationship. Seven months later daughter had to come home because she fought too much with her mother. She was very much a daddy’s girl and did not like the fact that I was there and I had made some changes to the house. Changes my husband had asked me to. To make it look more welcoming. She was very spoiled (still is) and did not like having to do anything around the house (still doesn’t). She would sneak out of the house, get caught smoking pot in the house, stealing my makeup and stuff, etc. My husband and I had difference of opinions on how to discipline her. He never wanted to and I kept telling him FOR HER OWN GOOD that he was letting her get away with way too much. I finally got tired of arguing with him and had to sit back and let it play out. Took it as it was “none of my business” and let it go. In the last 5 yrs she’s been arrested for buying drugs, driving a car with a suspended license, has totaled 5 cars. Cars that she didn’t pay for. Daddy and Grandma would provide her with the cars. Now she’s 22, lives at home with a baby, no job, no skills and no desire to do anything at all. Whenever my husband says that he doesn’t know why she feels entitled so much I tell him because he and her Grandmother treated her like a princess instead of getting her ready for the real world. I stay out of any conversations he has with her regarding her not doing anything, or of any other conflicts they have. That’s under the heading of “none of my business”.