I had a (younger) extended family member beg to move in with me, she was not getting along with who she was living with. Being overly nice, I said sure, with the agreement that she get a job. Fast forward 6–18 months; she has not gotten a job without my assistance, she is fired from the part time fast food job I do help her get, and she has become increasingly aggressive to the point of being borderline violent, and does other obnoxious things like take my car out to who knows where until 3 in the morning without my permission. I have been paying all her bills and keeping up with the house while going to school/working, and she does nothing but sit on social media or play games. She has also interfered with my marriage and my relationship with my kids. I find this out because of (a) mutual friends of ours telling me (b) reading posts she has written about me hidden within her social media blogs.

No good deed goes unpunished, right?

I’m heartbroken for about a day, before I do the following: (a) contact the local Sheriffs Office to see what my options are (b) kick her out/find a place for her to live (c) stop communicating/sharing info with her and withdraw (d) stop several activities I’d done over the years, such as sending her birthday cards/gifts and assistance with things, and last (e) unfriend her on FB and sent her ex (one of our mutual friends) a friend request.

OK, the last one might have been a little spiteful, because I wouldn’t care otherwise. But I was just reeling and feeling so incredibly burned by being stabbed in the back, side, and front after I opened my heart and home and tried to do so much for someone.