So, I never actually got my own revenge, karma did it for me!
At the age of 24, I found out my boyfriend of 7 years had been sleeping with a lot of other women. I caught him kissing a girl in our lounge and was told it was a mistake and a one off. Never would it happen again. The next weekend, he confessed that actually he had been sleeping with her for a while. I kicked him out of my house immediately. He had to go and stay with her as he had nowhere else to stay.
About a week later, he was at my door. Before he had said anything, I knew what had happened. She was pregnant. He confessed he didn’t want to be with her but still loved me and didn’t want to be in this mess. I told him that he had brought all of this on by himself and so he had to deal with it all by himself and shut the door in his face. I was sad but glad that this created a final end to our time together. (Incidentally, he didn’t deal with it himself. He stole a total of £20,000 from me by emptying our bank account and running up my credit cards before I could split us apart financially).
They moved in together, got a flat in the ironically called “Friendship Way” and I didn’t hear from them for a while.
After he left, several other women came forward to tell me that they had been sleeping with him for the past few years, which was gut wrenching, but only served to make me stronger. I also moved jobs and through that, found out that he had been lying about going to work. He’d leave first thing in the morning and come back at night - however his job was only from 11.30am until 1.30pm! I can only guess what he was up to the rest of the time.
So the baby was born and about a year after it arrived, I heard on the grapevine that she had left him. But she had left without taking the baby.
I’m not ashamed to say that I laughed. He screwed me over and now he had had his life changed forever too. I felt so sorry for the baby being abandoned by its mother like that, but he kept it and raised it as a single dad, which I am actually surprised about. I didn’t think he would have the staying power.
It’s been 12 years since all that happened and I’m not angry about it anymore. He ruined my life financially but actually, saved me from a dead end, abusive relationship that would never have ended peacefully. This is the first time I’ve ever written it down or really told anyone the almost full story and it’s been quite therapeutic! Thanks for reading my answer.
*EDIT* thank you everyone for all the upvotes and answers. I didn’t expect anyone to find my answer, let alone read it! For those saying things will get better, I should say that they did. I found a wonderful, caring man almost 9 years ago and we have been happily married for 7 years now. We have 3 gorgeous daughters under 6, so life has different stresses now 🤣 But much more enjoyable.