So I dated this girl for about a year. In all honesty, I’m just as much at fault — I saw the red flags, and ignored every single one of them.

She was young and cute, but also a lazy pothead that didn’t really have any ambition, and a host of emotional problems, including frequent meltdowns and explosive outbursts. She wanted to be taken care of, probably more than anything else. I wasn’t entirely opposed to it, but I did expect her to be willing to improve herself in some way. I could see a better side of her that wanted to come out.

Toward the end of our relationship, she was constantly trash talking me to one of our mutual friends, and she became increasingly hostile and difficult. I didn’t break up with her, but I told her it was time for her move back home for a bit (she was living with me by then). I hadn’t given up on her, but I needed some space and time away from her.

She called a short time later begging to come back. She was back at her mom’s house and hated it. I told her I wouldn’t be opposed to it, but I needed to hear her actually take some responsibility for her behavior, and show some willingness to change it. She had a typical meltdown and hung up on me. A short time later, I find out she went back to her drug dealer ex, and tried to hide it from me, while also telling our mutual friend how much “better” he is, and how much money he makes selling drugs and running a grow operation (which was probably exaggerated, and still less than what I made). She was sure to include lots of pictures and details about the operation.

Last I heard, someone tipped off the DEA, and there’s trouble in paradise.