I don't know if I can call it “the best” revenge, due to the fact it was the only one I ever took.

Well, I met the x narc when I was 20 (she was 39 at the time)→_→ narc s**t →_→ discard etc. Exactly by the book, You guys know the drill.

After 6 years Mrs narc hoovered, while I still wasn't educated about narcissistic abuse. Hence, I welcomed her back into my life.

Guess what? Surprise surprise….Same cycle All over again (exactly like in the first time! Freaking disturbing), except the second time (and the last time) was the worst.

At the beginning, I was completely shocked. Obviously I had the familiar gut feeling and saw huge red flags — but denied it as hard as I could. I just couldn't accept she doesn't love me and never did.

I just didn't want to believe; neither was able to - she actually returned after 6 years, with the only purpose of destroying my life, again!!! How sick is this?

Long story short, I reached to her x husband: The person she hated the most, and was (still is probably) smearing his name, even after all this years.

She seduced me while she was still with him, she told me how abusing he is and that she's planning to divorce. (I found out later he was the one to initiate the divorce)

I called and told him everything I knew about her; That she was cheating on him for the last 8 years of their marriage (with 40 guys), among other things.

He told me his side of the story, and I was absolutely blown away. It was freaking unbelievable. I just couldn't understand how is it even possible to distorte the reality to such a degree. So much lies! So much cheating, Jesus!!!!! Everything she ever told me was a lie with a touch of truth, not the other way around.

I was so embarrassed for blindly believing her. I was ashamed of being his wife's mistress.

Speaking about karma!!! What goes around, comes around. I was so terribly disgusted with myself that I felt sick to my stomach.

He wasn't surprised, and claimed that he knew about some of the stuff. he just wanted to live his life with his girlfriend, and to forget about his miserable psycho X (his words).

Apparently he couldn't care less about her, as apposed to Mrs narc twisted version; that he's still obsessively in love with her and trying to ruine her life

If I'm being honest here, I was desperately craving for her “love” and attention. It's literally the worst addiction I've ever had in my entire life.

My intention was to provoke her into reaction, that's it. I sent her an email with his number while thinking she would care enough to throw me one of her notorious bread crumbs, a Bone, something…anything! she kept ignoring me and The rage I felt motivated me to actually go through with it.

I was in a state of sever “oxygen” deprivation, I literally couldn't breathe after facing the truth. my existence (a pathetic one back then) suffered from acute dependency and it hurted like hell.

Nevertheless, I got this rare opportunity to hear the “other side of the coin"; although sometimes I wish I hadn't done that.

I did pay the price for holding on to my anger (a story for another time). And ultimately? it isn't worth it.

I stumbled upon this quote : “The Best revenge is to have enough self worth not to seek it”.

I couldn't agree more! There is nothing we can do but suck it up, and keep moving forward. And you know what? In hindsight, it wasn't really about her. I just couldn't let go of the fantasy. I can't punish an illusion for bieng one, right?

“No one can hurt you without your consent”

Now, when I can see clearly my part of the toxic relationship, I don't have the need to destroy Mrs narc anymore. I believe she's suffering enough.