My GF is really a sweet, caring person but before she met me she had dated, been in a few relationships but was really just not a romantic person before she met me. It was a lack of experience rather than lack of interest. She would complain that she wasn't romantic and my gestures would upset her because she had trouble reciprocating. I said: “do something about it, no one is born romatic, google it if you have to” you should know what I like if you pay attention to what I say or do.

So gifts had been hit or miss, then one birthday, we had been together 2 years by that point. She ended up giving me a Darth Vader toaster. And a humorous card about a guy not getting sex on his birthday. Both were really weird gifts, awful really because I had a perfectly good toaster, fairly new and I am really not a Star Wars fan, I have nothing in my house that is any way associated to movies or memorabilia, or sports for that matter, no glasses, posters, etc And I have not said I liked star wars and we had not seen any of the movies together (I do like the movies but im not any kind of fan)

The card was weird, I like funny cards, dont need a gushy card but the thing was we had not had sex in a month from what i could tell it was her who did not want sex, she always gives me a sign to start (it was weird but hey if that how she wanted it that was ok by me). Eventually, a few days later I bring this up. And her reaction was weird. She had no idea that had been a month and she had no idea she was the instigator. It was weird in that she seems to want it quite often, several times a month then boom nothing for a month? it was bothering me which is why I used this opportunity to bring it up. I think what bothered me most is that it felt like she was lying, hiding something but I have no idea what. That was over a year ago and I still dont know.

Things resumed as usual not long after that discussion and it hasnt happened since.