The double-standard that I'm sick of could be summarised as … women are parents, but men are babysitters. Or paedophiles.

Holding a baby isn't difficult. We've managed it as a species for about 250,000 years. Despite this, whenever a man picks up a baby, every woman in the room will srutinize his technique and throw knowing glances at one another as their mutual condescending thought is -

Phew! He managed to lift a baby and its head didn't fall off, so well done him!

Our societal attitude is that, when it comes to looking after small children, men are mentally deficient and incapable. Every woman fears that if a child is left in the care of a man for more than 30 minutes, a horizontal surface will be attached to that child, a game of ‘how long can you stand still for' will ensue, and the child will be turned into a rudimentary platform for holding beer in a convenient location. Either that, or we'll be called by the police to answer questions about how a toddler managed to destroy three city blocks in a runaway bulldozer.

Dogs? Ok, that's a level of responsibility we're comfortable with. Children? Well, men are clearly amateurs who need constant supervision by us women since our maternal X chromosomes magically imbue us with the childcare knowledge of generations before.

If they're not struggling incompetent amateurs at childcare, then clearly they are paedophiles. A man wanting to be a primary school teacher? Alarm bells. That guy who made a funny face and smiled as my toddler walked into him? Clearly a risk. Male doctor wants to examine my girl? Let's wait for the nurse too.

As a nurse myself, one of the things that really concerns me is how these double-standards are gradually destroying the role of men in children's lives.

okay but hear me out, how is a father taking care of his kids babysitting? Like literally, can we please normalize stay-at-home dads like we did with stay-at-home moms? I know housewife is easier on the mouth but how is the same occupation in a different gender any different? Like my man over there is doing nothing special except a husband’s responsibility yet y’all overpraise him for it?

also stop acting so uncomfortable and weirded out over male babysitter/counselors. Jesus, let them do their jobs, their sex/gender does not mean that they have ill-intention with children.

also another point, im a girl but people disregarding male survivors of abuse/assault/harassment makes me lose faith in humanity. Yes, he is a man but that does not mean that he deserve any less recognition/sympathy/understanding than a woman. I know people are gonna simply say,”Man up,” or ““you know you enjoyed it,” or ““just fight back.” Bruh, how? Just bc he’s a dude? Please.

Brick house (built in Russia):

Quoran's comment:

-Oh my God, how awful! Open brick and no facade cladding! It's disgusting, awful, tasteless. These terrible Russians have no idea of harmony. They need to build prisons and not let them outside!

Brick house (built in the UK):

Quoran's comment:

-Oh my God, how beautiful! I love these English fairy houses! Open brick is so environmentally friendly, aesthetically pleasing and authentic! Simply brilliant! God bless Britain!

Source: personal experience of communication on the Quora website.

I am not sure I’d use the words ‘sick and tired’ - more like ‘concerned’.

In many Western countries, if on any academic measure girls are shown to underperform boys, this is treated as a matter of concern. So when girls don’t perform as well as boys on some advanced maths classes in the UK, the matter is investigated, analysed, and steps are taken to make sure that nothing exists which impedes their education or limits their access to better educational opportunities.

But to say that the reverse is not true would be a majestic understatement.

On almost every academic measure in primary and secondary schools, boys underperform compared to girls - by quite a wide margin.

However, if at any time or in any subject girls underperform, the matter is swiftly investigated.

Why?

Why are we seemingly so content for boys to languish academically, and for no one to feel that this is a matter that needs to be looked at much less remedied? Why is more effort not put into addressing male underperformance in schools and to address whatever challenges that they face which exacerbate this?

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The worst double standard around is religious people wanting their freedom but trying to control your life. Your god tells you but is ok tonhave sex with children and you are against abortion. That might be a conflict of interest. The Judeo-Christian-Islamic texts condone sexual relations with children. I think people are just anti-abortion just so there are more victims.

If your church does not pay taxes, it should not be involved in politics. All other non-profits can not give money to politicians unless they file as a nontax deductible organization. Churches do not have to do that. Lobbying without paying taxes.

Churches provide but do not have to meet certain minimum standards. They use the government to enforce their will but do not want then government involved in their businesses.

Churches will give 1% of funds to the community while building multi-million dollar rectories. Then they preach about helping the poor. They could have built a homeless shelter but random people are not even allowed in the rectory.

I could keep going with the double standards of the church. But I will leave it at that. Good day.

Scenario 1.

16 yo daughter storms in the main door, closing the door a little harshly. Her eyes were all puffy. She just came home from school.

She goes straight and collapsed on the sofa.

Her parents in the next room who heard the door slamming, rushed to the living room and sees their daughter all curled on the couch.

Parents: What happened dear? Did someone do anything to you?

Girl: *Weeps*

Parents: Come on tell me his address. We will go right now. What did he do?

Girl: *Takes hard breaths, still weeping*

Parents: At least tell us something, then only we can do anything.

Girl: *Cries more harder into her mother's lap*

Her mother caresses her face gently and tries to calm her down. Her father looks concerningly at his daughter's runny eyes.

Parents: Take your time dear, we are here with you.

………

Scenario 2

A 16 yo boy is crying in his bed, alone at night, so no one will notice him crying. But his father walks in the door to look for his charger and sees his son crying partially under the covers.

The boy quickly wipes off his tears and tried to put a casual look on his still red face. But his father already saw him crying.

Father: What happened son?

Son: Nothing. I was just you know…

Father: I just saw you crying like a little girl. Come on tell me the reason.

Silence

Son: …Seniors bullied me in school…They..they abused me in front of everyone… I don't think I can go to school anymore…

His voice cracks and tears started to flow unknowingly.

Father: Listen, Tomorrow, tell your complaint to the class teacher, be a man and go to school my boy. Everything will be fine.

Son: But-

Father: No buts dear, you first inform the teacher, then we will see.

Please stop crying.

………

Noticed any differences in the treatments?

Most boys keep their will to cry, deep within themselves until they are alone, and drain their pain through tears. Why? Because this shitty society doesn't accept it!

I am not saying girls don't cry alone, it just that usually society accepts when a girl cries, so she doesn't have the need to hide it unless she wants to (or other purposes).

Why the statement “ crying like a little girl"

What? Haven't you seen little boys crying?

This stupid statement is what boys hear right from their childhood. This is the reason why this double standard is building up. Because of this, boys right from when they were kids will start to build a tendency to hold back their tears when outside.

Yes, it is biology that generally girls tend to cry easily than boys.

But if that’s true, then have you thought if something is really making a boy cry, it surely is something very deep that had hurt him?

If so, why no one gives a fuckin care?

All I want to say is, just treat your son like your daughter when they are emotionally broke. Don't expect them to be emotionless creatures. They too need the same concern, care, and affection at that time.

Why setting a double standard?

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Double standards are everywhere out in the open. They are vexatiously unfair yet no one seems to care. They are abhorrently ingrained like dirt in this societal fabric of ours, yet people are callous about it, to say the least.

I have witnessed many situations in which fair treatment wasn’t done. Situations in which discrimination was done openly, yet no one talked about it. Double standards are an affront to society. The world is letting certain things pass but some are wrongly considered taboo. It is almost gut-wrenchingly awful and sad, to see how it infringes our rights so conspicuously yet people don’t come forward to ponder over it.

Some prevalent double standards I would like to point out in this answer are-

• If you owe the company money, you will be charged interest, late fees, and service interruption almost immediately after the due date. But if a company owes you money, you might see it in four to six weeks or two to three billing cycles.
• Dozens of politicians are vacationing around the globe while we're on a strict lockdown. In other words, we can’t bury Grandma at a funeral, but these politicians can go work on their tan.
• If you always arrive to work late, you're in big trouble. If you have to stay late because work never finishes on time, no big deal.
• If a father babysits his child, everyone is like, “Wow! You are helping your wife!”. Why should that be a statement? It should be pretty normal because ultimately it's his child too.
• The employee must give two weeks' notice; anything else is unprofessional. But the employer will actively obscure their intentions until the very last minute.
• Going to a therapist to support your mental health is treated socially very different from going to the gym for your physical health. Someone should be able to say they really made gains in therapy and have the homies be supportive. Taking care of mental health gets looked down on a lot.
• Saying that COVID-19 is a hoax but being at the top of the list for a vaccine.
• Parents often talk down to their kids and are disrespectful, but kids would get in trouble for talking back to them the same way. For example, sniping at every mistake, shouting the kid's name from across the house and expecting them to drop everything and come talk to them, and dismissing anything the kid says that they don't agree with.
• If you know a lot of gaming knowledge and lore, you are considered a geek. If you know every member of every Super Bowl and World Series-winning team, you are considered cool.

Lastly, this one is almost traumatic and gets on my nerves.

This is something I will never understand. Same crime but different punishment.

I have never seen any equality in my school. If the boys didn’t complete their homework, they were spanked and hit with a stick in front of the class. If the girls didn’t complete their homework they were just made to stand in the class.

I don’t know how this is equality? In old days, people of lower castes were given colossal punishment for trivial crimes. How is this different from that? Do we boys take steroids for breakfast? Are we troglodytes? Are we cocaine addicts? Do we not feel pain? Do we not have feelings?

I just want equal punishment.

Huh, maybe this issue hasn’t been brought to light by the feminists. Some are busy changing logos while the most repugnant issues stand untouched.

I have never seen a single parent talking about this.

The same building that teaches equal rights fails to administer righteousness.

It is almost hysterical, we are given the right of freedom of speech but if we speak about such controversial topics we get executed online.

As a kid, we were taught to walk and talk, but society wants adults to sit down and shut up.

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Here’s one I am particularly tired of seeing… people changing the definition of racism. There is a dictonairy definition of racism, mind you, and then there’s a newly invented version of it people are trying to push rather desperately and INSIST is ‘the only true explanation’. This is what the dictionary says: “prejudice, discrimination, or antagonism directed against a person or people on the basis of their membership in a particular racial or ethnic group”.

Now there is a new definition that says racism HAS to be “institutional and structural” and you have to hold ‘power or privilege’ or else you “cannot be racist”. By this definition, for example, if you’re in America? You cannot POSSIBLY be racist unless you’re… white. If you’re a PoC (person of color) you are incapable of being racist. You can, at best, be ‘prejudiced’ or ‘bigoted’ but never “racist”.

Yesterday I had a little encounter with a lady here on Quora who told me that “black people cannot be racist”.

The picture I decided to illustrate this answer with is members of the “Nation of Islam”, a militant Afro-centric organization, protesting outside of a Chinese restaurant to show how pissed off they are by the government of China. As if the restaurant’s immigrant owners have anything to do with shitty policies of their former nation’s background. I would say that’s a pretty racist thing to do… but apparantly I cannot say that because “people of color” cannot be racist.

I wouldn’t even have made this answer today if someone hadn’t ‘corrected me’ on the comment section of my answer before. Telling me how the racist actions by black people referenced in that answer should be called “racially prejudiced” but should not be labeled “racism”. I find that absolutely and completely preposterous. Holding different people up to different standards, solely because of their racial background? Or toning down the criticism of one group because of how they are ‘underprivileged’ while being extra harsh on the other group because, being privileged, they deserve to be judged more harshly, somehow? None of this looks even remotely fair to me. And I think we ought to cut it out already.

I disagree with changing the definition on racism, I don’t believe “not being white” is a reason for people to say offensive and racist stuff, then hide behind this new definition because “they don’t have institutional power” and therefore cannot be racist… I reject the changing of the definition, and guess what? So does the dictionary. So, there. Not going along with this madness, sorry.

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Aunty X: “Why don't you wear Mangal sutra and Sindoor?”

Girl Y: “I am not married Aunty.”

Aunty X: “So you are living with that boy without marriage?”

Girl Y: “He is not just a “Boy” he is my fiance and we are live- in relationship.”

Aunty X: “You should be ashamed of yourself.”

Saying the woman who harasses her daughter-in-law for dowry and male child. Whose son feels liberated to beat his wife out of frustration. At least in their live-in relationship, she is happy with her fiance who treats her with respect and love.

Uncle S: “You will go to hell if you marry a boy.”

Boy A: “Who said that?”

Uncle S: “Our shastras and scriptures. Don't do it if you want to go to heaven.”

Says the man who has done 3 times female foeticide in the quest for a male child. His wife committed suicide because of constant torture and harassment.

Mother B: “Marry a girl from a poor family, she can be easily controlled and we can dominate her.”

Son: “Mom I don't want to marry a woman seeing her financial status and I don't have any wish to dominate my wife.”

Mother B: “Are you a man or not? I think you want to become “Joru ka Ghulam.”

(Wife's servant)

Says the mother who phones her daughter daily and advice her to dominate her husband. The mother teachers her daughter to make her husband dance at her fingertips and advice her to dominate him and make him do everything which she wants.

What are the double standards of people?

• They don't practice what they preach. They are interested to give people free advice and opinions but are not willing to listen to the advice of others.
• They try to advise people on the basis of religion but especially don't follow themselves.
• They criticize others' sexuality and relationships while their own relationships are at stake.
• They advise people about morality while they do immoral acts themselves.

Peoples advising others while themselves doing wrong things. This double standard disgusts me.

For some reason I'm very offended that stay at home dads aren't taken so seriously. I'm not married and I don't have kids, so I'm not sure why I'm so annoyed with this. Stay at home mothers still get plenty of shit so I shouldn't be so surprised that men get treated unfairly, but it's definitely much worse for the dads than the mums. And don't let him be black OH MY LORD!!

I wouldn't mind being the breadwinner for my future family at all. I like my work and I need something to keep me motivated, otherwise I'm kinda lazy. And I think people generally tend to underestimate how much a stay at home spouse really contributes. Especially if you have kids! As a single woman, I can't tell you how envious I was of my married male co-workers who had stay at home wives. When things were really hectic at work and I hadn't been to the gym in two months, I'd get home late from work with my drive thru junk food, not wearing any underwear because I hadn't done laundry in a month, my cats screaming for food and picking through a dirty litter box. I would have given anything to have a stay at home husband there helping out. You can do so much more at work with that kind of support, and that in turn means you can earn even more.

Men shopping in woman’s clothes sections are frowned upon, but the reverse is perfectly acceptable.

I will use myself as an example, alas, I am a victim!!

Problem: I am a long, thin legged man that happens to be style orientated and most men’s jeans and pants don’t fit me well or they usually lack nice colors or expression…. so why don’t I just sneak into the woman’s section??!! It’s much bigger, has more variety, more colorful clothes heck more everything! Great solution, right? Wrong! Almost everytime I go to the woman’s section the clerk immediately approaches me with a lovely smile and promptly points out to my huge mistake!! So then it becomes a flee or fight situation for me…. I either play dumb and return to the men’s section or I stay and answer that I don’t care and I’m gonna stay put. It’s not cool for us few men that want to venture into new territory.

The only issue I have with a woman’s jeans and pants are the zips/flies as they are shorter so you have to pull the pants down when you urinate, kinda sucks when you forget about this “small inconvenience” and you are desperate to relieve yourself and wondering why you can’t get the zipper further down!!! I peed in them once……. yes yes, hahaha very funny right? I can hear you laugh now, but I’m the one with style on his legs! Haaaa!

Instead a woman in the men’s section?…..Puff no problemo! In fact, she can shop all she wants and no clerk is gonna tell her that she’s in the wrong section! IF a clerk approaches her and makes such a remark they will be seen as foolish. Also, she could be shopping for her husband/boyfriend.

I don’t see this changing in the future…..

Dad: I think we should get you married my girl

Me: okay dad, I have someone already

Dad: No, you must marry in our caste, what would the relatives think of us

Me: Okay dad, I'll marry

After marriage

Relatives: Seriously, what a couple has been set by God.

Me: Hey Dad, see your God has come to visit us.

What double standards disgust you?

First, breaking a bond

Then, setting a bond

And then praising the bond in the name of God

Marriages in today's era are more of shallow bragging of crumbling standard and fake money but all the attendees and the organisers enjoy it like the pain is unreal

“On my birthday.”

Happy birthday, babe baby blah blah!!

Happy birthday you are this and that I am this and that……..happy birthday….blah blah……..happy birthday……blah blah blah……happy birthday.

I got like 25–30 message like that from my school people (I don’t consider them friends, no matter if they call me a friend, I simply call them people I know)

I remember on my birthday when I saw those messages, I went to my best friends and my exact words were

“People are so fake”

“On normal days.”

Who? Anushka?

Ah the dumb bitch!!

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These are some double standards which often happens in India.

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I fully understand that the old boys club in business has to be broken up. There should be no limitation on anyone based on gender or race. I am a very strong proponent of this. I do however think that rules should protect all gender and races. If I can’t advertise for a “financial seminar for men only”, then it should not be allowed to have a “financial seminar for women only”. Righting a wrong should not include creating a new wrong.

I understand some arguments - women who have been abused need to find a safe haven - ok, understood. I’m not an abuser of women, but I am an investor, so a financial session would be of interest to me, and it should have nothing to do with what I have down there. I want to be treated as equally as women do.

Edit: I fixed a grammatical error involving an apostrophe.

I hate, hate, hate, hate the double standards employed by the majority of American citizens with regards to their views on immigration and America.

Let me provide a concrete example. Watch the following video and read the article following it.

Berkshire's Munger weighs in on Immigration

Berkshire’s Charlie Munger Explains US Culture

In the video, an American citizen named Charlie Munger offers his take on immigration and how it is harming the United States.

He states, specifically, how most [American] people don’t want unlimited immigration from another culture. But he also states that we made it work in America because we had a vacant continent to work on. It was easy. Vacant and rich. Oil, minerals, wonderful soil.

I had a lot of respect for Charlie Munger, namely for his integrity, intelligence, and his deliberate choice to be rational in his analysis. But I have to admit, I’ve lost some of my respect for him.

First of all, the continent of North America was not vacant. It was not empty. There were individuals, societies, and even confederacies on this continent. The indigenous Americans have been erased in the mainstream American narrative, either due to intent or neglect, but they are crucial to understanding America.

We don’t have an accurate number of the amount of indigenous present, but contemporary estimates gauge around 4 to 5 million (some go lower to 1.8 million and others go higher to 12 million). This continent was not, in any sense of the world, vacant.

And this is where the hypocrisy, or the double standard, sets in. Because I’m sure as hell that most of the indigenous didn’t want unlimited immigration from another culture, such as Anglo-Saxon Protestants.

The federal government of the United States of America and the Christian church sponsored genocidal violence to kill the indigenous for their land. They would shoot buffalo across the Great Plains to induce starvation among the Sioux.

Many indigenous believe America is actually unlawfully occupying the territory of their ancestors. So that would make the US a government of illegal immigrants, huh?

Charlie Munger is also “very pleased when the smartest people come [to the U.S.] and almost never pleased when the very bottom of the mental barrel comes in”.

The inscription of Emma Lazarus’s poem upon our much touted Statue of Liberty does not say “Give me your tired nerds, your poor geeks, your huddled mathletes yearning to breathe free”.

So many immigrants arrived in the United States (including the colonists who founded the country) to make a better life for themselves. For some, this meant refuge from persecution of religion. For others, an opportunity to make a better life in a more economically mobile society.

I really, really, really hate how many Americans think first of themselves as natives and look upon immigrants as individuals to be afraid of, when we are all, as FDR said, the descendants of revolutionaries and immigrants.

Gender issues. I’m female. Several years ago, I was angry and described the situation to a female friend of mine, and she told me I was hysterical. I told her to imagine my voice two octaves lower but with exactly the same amount of passion. She then said, oh! You’re angry! — I could not believe how we are brainwashed into thinking men and women are only allowed some of the emotions we all feel based solely on gender roles. Men can be tender and women can be angry.

Race issues. I’m furious that people can be attacked or killed or reported to the police solely for being of the “wrong” race at the wrong place. Driving while Ethnic? Unequal rights to sit at Starbucks? I’m a mostly white liberal who is ashamed of the fears we can have of people who don’t look or feel “like us”, whatever that is. I’m also on the autism spectrum so I understand being the outsider.

Political issues. Demonizing the opposition while demanding respect for one’s own side. People don’t have to agree to be able to treat each other with respect and attempt to work towards compromise.

Social issues. Wealth versus poverty. Homelessness treated as a moral failing of the homeless. Ditto for those with mental illnesses. Ditto for too many things to mention.

In my opinion, it all boils down to “us” and “them” as the root of ANY double standard. US is entitled to be or do anything but THEM is not.

Climbing down off my soapbox now.

when a female gets beaten up or sexually assaulted than most people pities her, tries to help her or wreck havoc but when a guy experiences the same it is his fault for being weak and they see him less of a man.

when a guy showes hard feelings and emotions like fear or crying he automaticly seems less of a man but when a female does it gets the exact opposite treatment.

if a guy rapes a girl, abuses a girl, violates her right or humiliates her everyone would be in his neck but if a woman does this it somehow becomes not much of a problem and mostly the guys own fault.

when a woman defences the womans right (aka feminism) it’s okay but when a guy does this he simply becomes a ungraithful wimp.

when a guy has a small penis or bad at bed he automaticly is the one who is at fault and not man enough and when the girl tolds anyone this he is the laughing stock (and sometimes some bitches goes to another guy to have their fun while the poor guy wallows in his own miseary) but when a woman is flat chested and bad at bed and guy tolds this he is immediately body-shaming the girl and is a greedy, perverted jerk, can’t we just either have a harmonious relationship or just break up and forgot each other ever existed.

it is guys job to pay for everything, do the hard works, bring sexual satisfaction in bed, handling problems in the relationship, confessing the girls risking being rejected

if a girl touches you intimately she is flirting, if a guy touches you he is a molester.

there are things for female version that i despise but since i’m a guy i will leave to a female to mention them. oh by the way i despise non-monogamy and slutting around of any type slut doesn’t have a gender for me everyone who can’t keep their legs closed and keep their hands or mouths to themselves is a slut (i’m talking about very sexually active persons who starting this early in life, ironicly this makes me a skut too since i was 15 when i lost my V-card and stayed sexually active for a 2 year (but for my defence it was out of coping with the depression, trauma and grief i had after loosing one of the most important persons in my life Laura in a car accident (anyone who reads my other answers in quora might know who she is and her story) and i was strict with what i did, only with single older womans (1 or 2 decade older than me) who had no childs, only if they approach me first and only a casual hook up with no strings attached not even names, and when i met the love of my life who was a total virgin at anything i already was clear from any of that for months or maybe even a year (since i was working with my uncle who was a sex and relationship therapist and after all those patients or couple who had several issues of their own (either sexual or mental) after many unortodox things i had the unfortunity to learn from them and their lifestyles i even thought of becoming a hermit or something seriously yes sex and love might be one of the best things in life but they can easily be the absolute worst too trust me unwanted and regretted experience talks here.) and with her i completely end all womans other than her in my head and i can confidentely say that her being a virgin made all the things better for two of us for her because she really wasn’ one for casual hook ups or fickle relationships and her first and last love being her first at everything made it all the more special for her and for me because knowing myself even though i would still carry the love for her inside me, i would never be able to get over if she had another guy touched her immediately, i wouldn’t be together with her no matter how much i loved her and actually she was the same way too the thing that cleared me was my lost, trauma and grief that was the thing that gived her the power to accept me with my past (which makes her wiser than me in my eyes since she is a forgiving person while forgiving never wasn’t my strong suit, it never was in my nature and i was never the one for giving second chances to people to her forgiving is not a trouble, it is a blessing, we both blessed and cursed at the same time, she is blessed with forgiveness and compassion but also cursed with the same thing that made her potentially naive at past (thankfully this is not the case anymore) and i’m cursed with unending spitefullnes but also blessed with the same thing because this is protects me and my loved ones from getting hurt from other individuals evilness)

The way unborn babies that are wanted are treated versus the way those that aren't are treated.

The decisions humans are faced with when it comes to reproduction. Women can abort with nobodies consent yet most doctors will not perform a simple vasectomy on a man without his wife’s consent and/or if he is under 30. My wife and I both do not want kids, we had to wait till I was nearly 30 to get a vasectomy because “we might regret it”. I tried for years before I was married to get fixed, no doctor would even talk to me, got married, a few docs would talk but would simply dismiss me because of my age (25), even though I was married. So our other options for the first 5 years of or marriage was birth control which my wife’s body hated, condoms (something we have never used) or just not have sex (ya, yea right!) but women don’t have an issue going to a clinic, killing a baby without saying a word to anyone else, seems like a huge double edged sword to me.

It makes me really mad that when black people talk bad about white people, no one cares. But if a white person talks bad about black people, they instantly become worthy of a guillotine. I've seen youtube videos and vines calling white people crackers, but then If a white person says the n-word, they get so much hate. There is a word(which I wont say)that is used by black people to describe a white person that tries to fit in with black people. Black people say this very offensively. Imagine a white person doing the same. They would get berated by the media to the point of depression. I hate this double standard. I can't write this answer anymore right now. Ill edit and add more if i get a chance.

It’s sexist for me to tell a female student that she needs to cover up when she is wearing booty shorts and a bandeau however a male student isn’t allowed to wear leggings. I actually walked a boy out of the main office and back to his classroom once and explained, in front of the whole class, to the teacher that this boy will remain in her class unless she plans to send the girls who violate dress code to the office as well.

At my school, it is okay for girls to physically assault boys if they feel they are at risk. I watched one student, L.R., swing her sweater over her shoulder. As she did that, the sleeve smacked her in her butt, but she thought it was the quiet, nerdy boy walking towards her. She proceeds to assault the student and destroy his school supplies. I was not the only teacher who saw, although I was the only teacher who was concerned for the boy. The rest wanted to make sure that L.R. would not become discourage by her false accusations in the future. (Don’t worry she didn’t, she’s done this like once a month since she entered 6th grade).

When people do something completely different than they say they do or they tell you to do. It's the age old “Do as I tell you to do, not as I do it myself.”

If someone asks others something they should themselves be doing the same. There is another saying about this. “Pot calling the kettle black,