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We live next to a local bar, and a few years after we got there the bartender was feeding the feral and stray cats.

My son is autistic and he has a tendency to pick up anything from the ground and put it in his mouth. We had 4 rescue dogs all under 10 lbs and two senior pups.

Our other neighbors were not happy about it as on the bartender days off the feral cats would attack her two boys under 4 if they were eating outside in the summer for their sandwiches or nuggets.

Our dogs had been terrorized by cats bigger than they were and our yard was smelling of urine like our small fishing boat cover, camper pop up and the foundation of the garage.

Over three years I tried to stop her from doing this, reported to police and the environmental officers of my township.

We videoed her doing this, we tried capturing them and fixing them but they didn't want the cats and we'd have to let them go.

We went from seeing a random cat to seeing 25 to 50 a day in our yard. They used our yard as a path.

I began researching laws on my county and I found one that would be a good start, no one is allowed to be able to put a disabled child in harms way through any type of animal that is not Vax from rabies ( has been an issue for many michigan towns in recent decades)

Still no amount of support or kindness to the owner or staff would get this 40 something cat lady to stop.

When the cats had several litters on our property and our dachshund had found them, I lost it. My 12 year old son was almost witness to a kitty massacre. I saved the kittens of course and the shelter took them at 6 weeks. We had to walk the dogs on a leash to make sure that they were not involved in handling the babies. We have no problem with cats or pets, but this was exploding fast.

So after being told no one could help us, I contacted our friend who is a huge Irish man who is a security guard for the local community College and asked him to deliver a letter

I pretended my lawyer told me to write this letter and I gave reasons for suing and filing criminal charges against her and the bar.

Earlier that summer the owner had opened up a new bar in town with a former bartender, and the media found out he was a racists. In our town we are 99 percent white in the Muskegon part and 99 percent black in the Muskegon Heights part, it's odd. Google it - but the entire area is very attentive to racism and it is not tolerated.

The bartender was bought out by the owner and he is not around the area anymore.

I told the owner in the letter that she was victimizing my disabled son and his Native American tribe was willing to pay for the court fees and lawyers to protect their own. And her calling me a “Bipolar Bitch” was on the videos of which I was going to let every single media outlet have if he didn't get it control.

All lies, I was just so damn tired of the manner of things we had to do to make our home safe enough for our family and pets. Our neighbors , too.

It worked , received a letter stating that the problem was resolved.

And it was.

Two years later and 8 months of shut down for the pandemic- nothing.

I'm not going to be proud of my actions, but I think I would do it again. Autism parents are not the best people to be screwing with and hassle, especially if they are Bipolar bitches 🙄 😇

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