Thinking obedience is a virtue.

Obedience is NOT a virtue. If you raise obedient children you are raising obedient adults. You want to raise someone who asks questions. You want to raise someone who sees the world differently. You want to raise someone who knows you have good reasons and are willing to explain them. You do NOT want to raise someone who does it "Because I said so!"

Someday that kid will have a boss/friend/partner who tells them to do something bad. Do you want them to have the "Because he said to" mindset or pause and think?