Some time ago I stumbled upon Helen Fisher’s research ( Helen Fisher (anthropologist) - Wikipedia ) about male and female communication.
When two females talk to each other it looks like this:
It is called “Anchoring gaze”. Both girls position their body to face each other, and talk keeping eye contact. The way Helen explains it: it comes from thousands of years ago, when women had to face their infant and talk to it, educate it, reprimand it and so on. It always had to be done face to face.
Males do it differently:
They sit side by side and when one guy look towards the other, he will look away. Thousands of years ago, in grass fields of Africa, they had to sit side by side and scan the environment for prey.
And here comes the problem:
She wants to face him directly and come into his comfort zone so he is shutting down (look at his crossed arms)
- When a girl wants something from a guy: sit side by side. you will get much better results.