I've never been with anyone, so I went on a dating app and matched with someone I thought was cool. To be honest, I didn't expect to hook up with him so soon, but the date went really well.

My date is more experienced, but he's really nice. Then, he showed me some ropes. I was shocked. But once I got over the initial shock, I was able to enjoy a good time and feel like I could experience more in the future.

Also, in order to discover your sexuality, you have to experiment, often with several people. Hook-up with different people on dating apps allows you to experiment with different genders, or even just different sexual preferences, without having to commit to one person.

Well, we all experience things in our own time when we feel ready. lol

Finding a lasting connection can be a challenging yet rewarding endeavor. Here are some valuable tips for women seeking meaningful relationships:

• Know yourself well: Before embarking on the dating journey, take time to reflect on your values, interests, and aspirations. Understanding yourself better will help you attract partners who align with your goals and life perspectives.
• Embrace authenticity: Be genuine and unapologetically yourself. Trying to be someone you're not will only lead to disappointment and incompatibility. Don't be afraid to let your true personality shine through.
• Cultivate self-love and self-worth: A strong sense of self-love is essential for building healthy relationships. Prioritize your well-being, pursue your passions, and surround yourself with supportive individuals who uplift and encourage you.
• Communicate openly and honestly: Effective communication is the cornerstone of any thriving relationship. Express your thoughts and feelings clearly, actively listen to your partner's perspectives, and strive for mutual understanding.
• Set clear boundaries: Establish clear boundaries regarding what you're comfortable with and what you're not. Don't compromise your values or settle for someone who doesn't respect your boundaries.
• Seek compatibility, not perfection: No one is perfect, and expecting perfection from a partner will only lead to frustration. Focus on finding someone who shares your core values, supports your dreams, and complements your strengths.
• Embrace mutual respect: Respect is the foundation of any enduring relationship. Treat your partner with kindness, consideration, and dignity, even during disagreements or difficult times.
• Nurture trust and loyalty: Trust and loyalty are essential for building a secure and supportive relationship. Be honest, open, and dependable, demonstrating that you are a trustworthy partner.
• Communicate appreciation: Regularly express gratitude for your partner's presence and contributions. Acknowledging their efforts and appreciating their qualities will strengthen the bond between you.
• Nurture your own happiness: While it's important to invest in your relationship, don't neglect your own happiness. Continue pursuing your passions, maintaining friendships, and caring for your own well-being.
• Remember, lasting connections are built on a foundation of mutual respect, understanding, and shared values. By following these guidelines and prioritizing your own well-being, you'll be well on your way to finding a fulfilling and meaningful relationship.

Stop sleeping with people early on if you are… You want a long lasting connection show the guy your value. Men sometimes can lose interest if it’s too easy. I know I have… Put your phone down and have meaningful conversations without internet.. Reply to texts in timely manner. Great way to get your number kicked, taking too long to text back. We all know you’ve seen the text. Make a mental connection. Once an actual mental connection is made it’s way easier to have a lasting connection. Don’t drink too much together, if at all… Get drunk together and watch funny videos of cats or people falling off ladders or something then have sex the first night you’re not exactly laying the foundation for a long lasting relationship. Anytime I know a girl has zero intention of sleeping with me anytime soon I am immediately much more drawn to her. Can’t speak for everyone obviously but I imagine many would agree. Also….. Be polite to everyone, wait staff mainly… Some of us pay extremely close attention to that. Long lasting relationships? Be someone that a man can’t get enough of and wants to know more, learn more and see you more. Fun. Polite. Reserved in many ways. So much to list here but laying the foundation is the start.

I have used dating sites and met a few people, but nothing really worked out. I decided to go back on Match and try again after a year or two. There are a lot of attractive women, but after a lot of searching they all seem to run together. I made some smart-ass comment to a woman, and she says, Ooohhh! I have to meet you. So I did. We met for dinner, went for a walk and after some passionate kissing things took off. She is a nurse for a hospital and a belly dancer. she has a wild side, But also a homebody domestic down to earth country girl side. Totally honest with good values and will tell you what she thinks! We discovered we had great chemistry. We ended up at a hotel a week later. Next date was dinner at her house, (Which I didn't stay the night) and the next day hiking in a canyon and ended up having sex in the great outdoors in a rock overhang. Before we left, she went down on me in the car and vice versa, Some guy drove by in a jeep and was craning his neck to see what we were up to. He got quite a show. lol! A few weeks later we went to a clothing optional hot spring. We got a hotel and had a romantic carnal infused weekend. The hot spring is her place. She would go by herself, because her ex-husband never would. She invited me and it was on my bucket list. We have been together for 5 months and are getting engaged this fall and married in the spring. You just know when it works. I feel really lucky. She is perfect. No doubts about anything. Best of all, she feels the same way.

1. Find the right site(s) that work for you. Trying to meet someone on Tinder probably won’t work. Try Ourtime, Plenty of Fish, Silver Singles and or Match.
2. Have nice photos. At least one that shows your face and one that shows your full body. Think about having a pro take photos.
3. Don’t limit yourself any more than you have to. Profiles that have long lists of people who should not respond. I am sort of turned off by profiles that go:, no one over 20 miles, college graduates only, no one shorter than 6 feet, no smokers, no one who voted for Trump, etc, etc, They strike me as someone who would be a PITA.
4. Be active in contacting people you might be interested in.
5. Spell check your profile info. Typo’s can make you seem stupid. A well written profile can help a lot.

A couple of years ago I saw a headline on MSN that read something like “12 tips for great success on dating sites. I thought oh, great I may get some good ideas. It was the stupidest thing I ever saw and would do more harm that good, They went something like 1. Lie about your age, 2, Photoshop your photos or use old photos. 3 Lie about your income. 4. Lie about your education. I think that is terrible advice. It may get you some first dates you would not get otherwise but the real you will prevail and you will just end up wasting time and disappointing yourself and the person you meet. Being hones pays.

Stay away from “ bad boys”. Look for the decent human being who will give as well as take. Stay away from the selfish ones. Stay away from the ultra- traditional macho types. You’ll be his servant, never his partner. Keep some money separate- be transparent about it with each other when you marry, and discuss it beforehand- but you need some financial independence. And be very careful about commingling your retirement accounts. Don’t have a baby unless you can support two of you. There are lots of good guys out there and I hope you meet one, and look at this and laugh. But don’t be foolish and throw your independence away before you know he has your best interests at heart. And that takes time. My advice anyway

The first words that come to mind are “This too, shall pass.” It’s probably an old biblical expression—the Catholic part of my past. But being that Love is my number one value, and I will always follow my heart in all things, I think I can safely say, I’m an expert at falling in love. That also makes me familiar with falling out of love or unrequited love.

Your first lover will feel like it will last forever, and know that you will be disappointed. And you will be sad, and cry, and think that your whole world has fallen apart. But that’s not the case. I promise that you will love again.

I wish that you experience the most incredible highs in life—and learn to wait it out, and let it pass when you hit the lows. But always, always, smile and be happy inside your heart. Because no matter how dark the days and nights might seem, this too, shall pass.

Ah, well, actually, I've never succeeded in online dating but my best friend has. Hmmm, my best friend is a dating app lover and she found her present husband on CougarD. Yeah, maybe you don not hear this dating app, but she feels it is a more comfortable and safer app. I used it as well when I'm single one year agao. Ok, it's not my type~. She tried Tinder, Bumble, Zoosk, etc. before using CougarD, but she always felt something strange and insincere, and then she start trying other apps. She met CougarD accidentally when swiping on tiktok, and she tried it and finally met her present husband. I know little about their online dating but they're quite good with each other.

I don’t know if it is the best advice, but I had made a large group of friends of both sexes so my relational loneliness was resolved, and I also worked on healing family-of-origin wounds and becoming a more thoughtful, patient person. I also prayed and waited for a man whose character I was confident in instead of just latching on to the first man who came along. We’ve been happily married for over 25 years, now.
Just a word of warning; sexual activity before marriage short-circuits the getting to know you process and things you should’ve talked about as a couple don’t get discussed. Basically it turns Mr. Dramatic Bad News into my boyfriend who I fight with all the time.

Speaking just for myself, I would be very trepidatious about dating a guy that was much younger. It seems creepy to me - not that the young man is creepy, but I would feel creepy. Age gives you a lot of perspective and experience, and when you're young it's easy to be manipulated because you just don't know as much as someone who’s older. Also, if I saw a younger guy and he was being flirty, it would be flattering but I would be like ‘This isn't serious,’ like, ‘That's cute.’ The end.

With that said, there are enough older women out there who are quite up for having flings and so on. So it really depends on the person. I guess you can just start talking to them, and if the conversation goes somewhere, ask them to go for a coffee or something.

Number one: On dating sites.

If you want to meet random single (or adulterous) women in person, then you have to go to where there are a LOT of them. It is about numbers. The most numbers are going to be online, but if you insist on in person, then if you are white, you should go to Southeast Asia. Philippines, Thailand, Indonesia, Vietnam, and other countries are FULL of women who dream of marrying a white man. You can literally trip over a woman before you get out of the Manila airport who would date you if you asked her.

I have heard Colombia, Costa Rica, and Venezuela are also good places to go to randomly meet single women.

Vainamoinen Leisti summed it up perfectly. Here’s something I wrote to a woman who asked what I’d tell my younger self about dating and marriage that ties in well with that:

I love this question! I wish I had the right kind of people around me to ask this to when I got married, but since I learned the hard way here’s what I know now is the most important thing I’d tell my newlywed self:

Your husband is NOT a mind reader, Danica! He also can NOT be expected to remember everything you say or “know” what you want or need in every given moment. So, Danica, you need to learn to communicate, communicate, communicate!!!! Speak your truth and your perspective with love and respect, give him the space to do the same, keep the main thing the main thing, and keep working on seeing the good and the positive and the cute little things so they will become the big, wonderful things.

And another thing, Danica: it’s okay to ask advice from people you trust, people who have gone through some go through, but at the end of the day it’s your marriage and your relationship and your way of doing things — together — that matters. No one else can or ever will walk in your exact pair of proverbial shoes, so never let someone angry or miserable in their marriage give you “good” marital advice.

Help him keep his crown on straight without making him feel bad that it was crooked, and he’ll do the same for you, Danica.

Always remember and never forget, you can’t get mad at him for not knowing something you didn’t tell him!!

And most importantly, Danica, you matter too, so don’t go lost in all the newness, don’t hold everything in if you have something to say (say it, but be nice about it), and never, ever feel like “this is just the way it is. Nothing will ever change, so I’ll just keep doing what I’m doing to survive.” There is ALWAYS a way for things to get better…ALWAYS! It may not look like you want it to, but God will surprise you if you let Him do what He knows will work best.

The problem is not inherently in the numbers. Too often, the problem for decent guys is to let their decency show without coming off as dull or boring. Who said a decent guy couldn't have a spark in his eyes ? Showcase the best of you. If you don't know what that is, ask people you can trust and who know you a little. I know I may not look it (because people have so many preconceived ideas) but I myself falls more in the category of decent girls than people realize. Result ? I get all kind of troubles because some people assume someone like me has to be a “bad person” one way or another… On sites when only pictures count, I had to actually tone things down compared to what a genuine picture of me in everyday life mode would be like… People don't understand the concept of “ living in a tropical climate/wearing less clothing than in colder climates=not necessarily a slutty person” right away. On sites like OkCupid, I get to tell people who I am (at least a little) and they get to make up their own mind based on my words as well as the rest. Some will find me “too complicated”, others will like my sarcastic streak. At the end of the day, I am not trying to be anyone else but me and people who have what it takes to potentially click with me can see that. Be yourself and open-up.

How would any men trust them?

There are already dating sites where all the contacts from women are bots, designed to get them to pay the premium service fees.

There are already sites so overrun by scammers that you can’t trust anyone contacting you. You have to treat them like a fish and play with them before they reveal which of the scammer playbooks they’re running.

You’re idea doesn’t work.

What would be better would be teach women it’s okay to make the first move, both on dating sites, and out in the real world.

And on the dating sites, use an initial contact vetting tool, so both have to agree they like each other’s profiles before any message can be sent at all, in either direction.

Sure, women get bombarded by some men, but not all of them.

But when men get contacted by women, most of the time they are fakes out to scam them.

The dating site system is broken. Until they can keep fakes off their sites, nothing can really be done to make dating sites safe for anyone. [It can be done, the sites simply won’t.]

The best I can think of is eHarmony. I gave it a try for a whole year. During my first few months, the site had lots of good features. But it started deteriorating after my 3rd or so month once they removed their mandatory questionnaire.

On eHarmony, you have better chances of receiving replies from people who actually have active subscriptions (who can actually see your messages). EHarmony only sends its users a few new matches a day. Users are only allowed to message and be messaged by people whom the site has paired them up with. That way, nobody is getting a flood of daily messages. The odds are not stacked in any gender’s favor.

The downside is that eHarmony is expensive. So you tend to get a lot of profiles with inactive subscriptions belonging to people who can’t even see your messages if you send them. However, I must warn you that I have not sent out that many messages on there. So I can’t say what your chances of receiving replies would be like. The very few messages that I actually sent, received no reply either because the person was uninterested or couldn’t see it due to an inactive subscription. I did not send out that many messages because a lot of profiles did not provide very much information (like answers to profile questions) for me to decide whether they’d be worth messaging.

It can be difficult to know if a dating site has real women, as some sites may use fake profiles or bots to artificially boost their numbers. However, there are some steps you can take to help determine if a dating site is legitimate and has real women:

Check the site's reputation: Look for reviews of the site from reputable sources and read what other users have to say about their experiences with the site. If there are a lot of negative reviews or complaints about fake profiles, it may be a red flag that the site is not legitimate.

Look for verification processes: Legitimate dating sites often have processes in place to verify the identity of their users. This may include requiring users to provide identification, linking social media accounts, or conducting background checks. If a site does not have any verification processes in place, it may be more likely to have fake profiles.

Look at the profiles: Take a close look at the profiles on the site. Do they seem too good to be true? Are the photos of professional models or celebrities? If so, it's possible that the site is using fake profiles to lure in users. On the other hand, if the profiles seem more authentic, with a range of photos and detailed information about the user, it may be more likely that the site has real women.

Look at the messaging patterns: If you start receiving messages from a lot of women as soon as you sign up for the site, it may be a red flag that the site is using bots or fake profiles to generate messages. If the messaging patterns seem more organic, with messages coming in at a more natural pace and from a range of different users, it may be more likely that the site has real women.

Use caution: No matter how legitimate a dating site may seem, it's always important to use caution when communicating with new people online. Take things slowly, look for inconsistencies in profiles and messages, and never give out personal information or send money to someone you've only just met online.

Nevertheless, there is no foolproof way to know if a dating site has real women, but by following these tips and using caution, you can increase your chances of finding a legitimate site with real users.

And one of such legitimate dating site is the one on my profile Caroline Robin, you can never go wrong

I lived near a large city (Detroit) and joined a suburban ‘community theatre’.. all voluntary, non-profit - we put on 5 plays a season (not in the summer). I was purely a ‘techie’. Newly divorced, had some minor sewing skills, but liked the social atmosphere of close to 400 members, ages 18 on up - all walks of life for their ‘day jobs’. I was busy as many evenings as I wished to put in and on week-ends, working backstage, painting theatre flats, sewing and devising costume schemes, working backstage during shows - going to a lot of parties, and dating my brains out. My husband was a teacher (like myself)- same age, and found out we grew up 2 miles from each other. It was pretty whirlwind once he asked me out and we’ve been married 33 AMAZING years.