I've never been with anyone, so I went on a dating app and matched with someone I thought was cool. To be honest, I didn't expect to hook up with him so soon, but the date went really well.

My date is more experienced, but he's really nice. Then, he showed me some ropes. I was shocked. But once I got over the initial shock, I was able to enjoy a good time and feel like I could experience more in the future.

Also, in order to discover your sexuality, you have to experiment, often with several people. Hook-up with different people on dating apps allows you to experiment with different genders, or even just different sexual preferences, without having to commit to one person.

Well, we all experience things in our own time when we feel ready. lol

For one thing, by being realistic. If you are an out of shape 60-something, 23 year old models are not interested in you. If you are attracting interest from people who look remarkably good, but who live in a different country or a diferent continent, it’s unlikely to be a genuine date.

Luckily, it’spretty easy to weed out the scammers, they actually deliberately make it easy by using dodgy English and illogical stories. “Am an honest man looking for the love of my life. Am an IT consultant but don’t understand Tinder, can we talk on Facebook/email?”

Ask questions. If they say they are local to you, ask something that requires local knowledge.

I find starting a conversation with “What’s the craic?” immediately weeds out all the non Irish.

Arrange to meet as soon as possible. Coffee or a drink in a local cafe or bar is best. Scammers won’t turn up. They will have a sob story about having to rush to a dying relative in hospital and worry about the hospital bill. Yes, they’ll say this even if they are claiming to be in Dublin or London.

I either get very young men who only want sex, and think it is easy to get from an older widow…most of these men are very very cute and I couldn’t have had them if I were their age…or, I get lots and lots of scams…guys or gangs who want to extort every last penny from me. They don’t need to score a lot, because they are talking to many women my age and if everyone gives them even a little, they will score a lot.

There are a few widowers on there who are naive and still in love with their wives, and don’t really want a relationship anyway, so I don’t even know why they are on there…just lonely I guess. I find them rude, wanting me to fill in for their wives in every way but the real way. They want companionship and sex with no strings attached. Sorry, but if that’s what I wanted, I’d rather go back to the thirty-somethings again. At least the sex would be good. If he’s not offering a full relationship, I’d rather have a shallow one with a young man, than a real one with a widower my age….late sixties/early seventies. They only want a nurse or a purse anyway.

1. Find the right site(s) that work for you. Trying to meet someone on Tinder probably won’t work. Try Ourtime, Plenty of Fish, Silver Singles and or Match.
2. Have nice photos. At least one that shows your face and one that shows your full body. Think about having a pro take photos.
3. Don’t limit yourself any more than you have to. Profiles that have long lists of people who should not respond. I am sort of turned off by profiles that go:, no one over 20 miles, college graduates only, no one shorter than 6 feet, no smokers, no one who voted for Trump, etc, etc, They strike me as someone who would be a PITA.
4. Be active in contacting people you might be interested in.
5. Spell check your profile info. Typo’s can make you seem stupid. A well written profile can help a lot.

A couple of years ago I saw a headline on MSN that read something like “12 tips for great success on dating sites. I thought oh, great I may get some good ideas. It was the stupidest thing I ever saw and would do more harm that good, They went something like 1. Lie about your age, 2, Photoshop your photos or use old photos. 3 Lie about your income. 4. Lie about your education. I think that is terrible advice. It may get you some first dates you would not get otherwise but the real you will prevail and you will just end up wasting time and disappointing yourself and the person you meet. Being hones pays.

It's better than ever that people over 60 are looking for love. With the Internet, you can meet mature singles anywhere in the world! There are many online dating sites for older people to choose from. There are so many online dating sites for seniors to choose from.

Popular dating services for the elderly range from the mainstream, such as Match and eHarmony, to niche sites such as Silver Singles, which specializes in people over 50.

eHarmony is the best dating site for people over 50 because their unique matching technology is based on scientific research. It uses more than 20 compatibility dimensions to narrow down matches -- more than any other online dating site.

You can also try Hookoo. it's a highly advanced dating site for people of all ages. There are a lot of things to love about this site and a lot of reasons for people to choose it over and over again.

I thought, heh, what a good idea it would be to go on an internet dating site, so did just that about three years ago.

These are my experiences:

First of all, the ‘ONLY $18.50 a month,’ is not taken out of your credit card once a month. Oh, no. You find that a six month’s payment is swiped out the moment you give your information. And you try getting that back if things go south. OMG! Forget that. And worse, you find yourself on the old roll-over system immediately.

The photographs people provide are usually about five years old, so if you don’t mind what someone looks like you are in luck. The best part is when you keep getting little red hearts and winking emojis. That’s very exciting, and I remember rushing home every day, switching on my computer, and waiting with baited breath for all my little red hearts and blinking emojis to pop up. But, oh, dear, when you reply to these men, whose photos are five years old, you suddenly find that they have no interest whatsoever in getting to know you, all they want is a date. Obviously, they don’t want to waste a lot of time if you are not Brittney Spears.

So off I went, my safety precautions strictly in place: main one being to take your own transportation. You would also be advised to take a Mace spray, a very loud whistle and a hatchet if you really get into hot water. But a cell phone will do.

Guy No. 1:

There I was, on time, waiting patiently in the pre-arranged restaurant. Hmm! five minutes, ten minutes, fifteen minutes later Guy No. 1 strolls in, cheerfully rubbing his hands together. Personally, I am not keen on Hawaiian shirts, and this one was size XXXXXL and had brilliant flowery motifs all over it. He was definitely not as slim and handsome as his five year old photo.

I thought the rubbing of the hands together meant that an apology was on the way - NO. When he finally edged his ample bottom into the seat opposite, he took a deep breath and began his hour long monologue of how wonderful he was, and how he had been everywhere and done everything. After about ten minutes, I was nodding off. Finally, up at the cash register, he glanced in my direction and said, ‘Oh, your profile says that you have traveled”. I paid for my meal and went home.

Guy No. 2:

I am quite reasonable when it comes to most things, but tardiness is not something I suffer gladly, and Guy No. 2. was half an hour late. ‘So sorry,’ at least he was sorry. ‘I got completely lost. Went to ……. instead of …….., then thought that if I went round ……..but, when I went round …….. I realized I was on the wrong road’. Me listening, nodding indulgently, my poor stomach past the stage of rumbling.

When we got into the restaurant, the first thing Guy No. 2 said, was, ‘I have to apologize,’ hand up to his mouth, ‘I am waiting for my bottom teeth to arrive. I thought they would ….…. but ……. and now I have to………. but you don’t mind do you?’ big toothless grin.

Nice meal, I paid for my share, then we went for a stroll in the park. I decided that it couldn’t be too bad going for a two mile drive with a guy who didn’t have any teeth. He was a non-smoker, it said in his profile, and the fact that his car reeked of cigars was a - mistake, ‘I air it out every night……and only smoke the occasional cigar’. So twice around the ducks, and he said, ‘Er, would you……..would you like to come back to my place?’ What! He reluctantly took me back to my car and waved goodbye.

Guy No. 3:

If you think photos that are five years old are bad, this guy’s photo must have been of somebody else altogether. He was short, not tall; gray, not blond, and was perhaps the ugliest man I have ever strolled down the street with.

Even before we got to the restaurant, he began his monologue. I began to think Mr. Hawaiian and Mr. Toothless were quite good company compared to this guy. By the time we had our ‘Bargain Plate of Chicken Wings’ down us, me covered from nose to chin in red sauce, I knew everything there is to know about dog training. I was told about the impossible Husky pup that he had taught to Come, and the wayward Dachshund that he had got to Sit, and the spotted Great Dane that he had, single-handedly, taught to walk in a straight line…… Yawn, yawn!

I finally got my money back and decided to join a nunnery.

I'm not a senior woman myself, but someone close to me who lost her partner 3 years ago has been trying senior dating sites. She often says she doesn't want to date again, but sometimes feels lonely, so she registered an account on SeniorMatch. The other day, she mentioned meeting a man who seemed healthy and had a great sense of humor. She said she wanted to keep talking to him and see where it goes.

I think it can be challenging for older people to find a new partner, but I'm truly happy for her and wish her the best. After all, no one wants to spend the rest of their life alone. It's heartwarming to see her taking steps to find companionship. While the process might not be easy, it's inspiring to see her open herself up to new possibilities. I hope she finds the connection she's looking for, whether it's a deep friendship or a romantic relationship. Everyone deserves a chance at happiness, regardless of age.

As late as the 90's into the early 2000's, dating was a very mild, slow burn, if you will. Conversations, dinner and a movie dates, phone conversations etc.

Today? You want your Grandpa on Tinder? You want your Nanna receiving dick pics? God bless them if they can navigate their way through online dating. However, I have to imagine the depravity (by their standards) would be overwhelming.

While there are sites geared towards seniors, it doesn't mean they're not exposed to situations that may be difficult. There are pervs online specifically looking to f*ck “Old ladies” because its fetishized. There are also sugar babies online willing to entertain your PawPaw out of his retirement income.

It's not that I am against seniors dating online. I am against “online” having access to seniors. If you get what I am saying.

I have used dating sites and met a few people, but nothing really worked out. I decided to go back on Match and try again after a year or two. There are a lot of attractive women, but after a lot of searching they all seem to run together. I made some smart-ass comment to a woman, and she says, Ooohhh! I have to meet you. So I did. We met for dinner, went for a walk and after some passionate kissing things took off. She is a nurse for a hospital and a belly dancer. she has a wild side, But also a homebody domestic down to earth country girl side. Totally honest with good values and will tell you what she thinks! We discovered we had great chemistry. We ended up at a hotel a week later. Next date was dinner at her house, (Which I didn't stay the night) and the next day hiking in a canyon and ended up having sex in the great outdoors in a rock overhang. Before we left, she went down on me in the car and vice versa, Some guy drove by in a jeep and was craning his neck to see what we were up to. He got quite a show. lol! A few weeks later we went to a clothing optional hot spring. We got a hotel and had a romantic carnal infused weekend. The hot spring is her place. She would go by herself, because her ex-husband never would. She invited me and it was on my bucket list. We have been together for 5 months and are getting engaged this fall and married in the spring. You just know when it works. I feel really lucky. She is perfect. No doubts about anything. Best of all, she feels the same way.

In the bustling city of Melbourne, Australia, lived Evelyn, a vibrant senior who found herself drawn into the enticing world of online dating. Widowed for years and longing for companionship, Evelyn eagerly embraced the opportunity to connect with new people and explore the possibilities of love in her golden years.

With her daughter, Sarah, juggling a demanding career and barely able to find time to visit, Evelyn turned to the digital realm in search of companionship. Delving into the world of online dating apps, she soon found herself swept away by the charm of a suave gentleman who claimed to be a retired pilot.

As their online relationship blossomed, Evelyn found herself entranced by his smooth words and promises of a bright future together. However, as their connection deepened, subtle warning signs began to surface – vague excuses for not meeting in person, frequent requests for financial assistance, and a reluctance to share personal details.

Concerned about her mother's newfound romance, Sarah grew increasingly worried about the potential risks of online dating for seniors. With reports of scams and fraud targeting vulnerable individuals, Sarah feared that her mother might fall victim to deception and financial exploitation.

Determined to protect her mother from harm, Sarah decided to take action. Installing MoniMaster Pro on her mother's phone, she hoped to monitor their conversations and uncover the truth behind her mother's mysterious suitor. With its powerful features, including message tracking and real-time location monitoring, Sarah embarked on a mission to unravel the web of deceit that threatened her mother's safety.

As days turned into weeks, Sarah's suspicions grew, fueled by the discovery of alarming messages and suspicious phone calls. With each revelation, Sarah's fears were confirmed – her mother was being manipulated by a cunning fraudster intent on exploiting her vulnerability for financial gain.

Armed with irrefutable evidence of the scam, Sarah confronted her mother, revealing the truth behind her online suitor's deceitful facade. Despite initial disbelief and heartache, Evelyn eventually came to terms with the harsh reality of the situation, grateful for her daughter's intervention and the unwavering support of MoniMaster Pro.

In the end, Sarah's decision to install MoniMaster Pro proved to be a lifeline for her mother, saving her from the clutches of a cunning fraudster and protecting her from the potential risks of online dating. With its vigilant monitoring and unwavering support, MoniMaster Pro had empowered Sarah to safeguard her mother's well-being and ensure her safety in the unpredictable world of online romance.

I have three friends who met their husbands/wives on an internet dating site and are happily married. I think that if you are honest in who you are and what you are looking for, you can find a good match eventually. The guys tell me that many of the women they dated wanted sex on the first date so that is a good thing since many retired people are widows or widowers and have not had sex in a very long time.

However, I live in a very large retirement community of almost 150,000 people. There are 10 women for each guy since husbands tend to die before their wives. For men it is very easy to meet women for sex or a long term relationship. We have 2,000 clubs/activities including single clubs, so it is easy to meet people in person. It saves a lot of time weeding out the bad ones like you need to do with dating sites. Plus everyone you meet lives locally so no far traveling involved. Since this is a 55 and over, no worry about grown kids still living at home either.

For those who find themselves living among younger people, dating sites are a blessing. Otherwise meeting people in person is better if that is an option.

What is your experience in senior online dating?

Well, one of the toughest things to address is acknowledging that we are now the friggin’ seniors.

For those of us who have exited long marriages or exclusive relationships of decades, it’s a rude awakening to disccover that online dating is the prime method of meeting new friends. Studies show that most relationships these days begin with intros from friends and family, meeting in a bar and online dating. Cold approaching someone in a bar is not for the weak of heart, nor is online dating.

It’s a competitive sport - you against all those other sad sacks trying to a) grab the attention of the most attractive persons on the other side of the fence and b) sustain that attention and ramp it up sufficiently that both parties feel the need to meet and confirm first impressions. It can be brutal on the ego for both sexes.

I have had success in meeting fine women online, but it takes a real effort.

You first must choose which site to focus on - free or paid. And the “free” ones often withhold some features only available to “enhanced” members.

For women, they must be on their guard against the usual plague of predators, who want nothing more than notches on their bedpost. And the most attractive women get an avalanche of attention from men - the top 10% of women get 90% of the correspondence. That can be overwhelming and to cope, women may reject men who might be quite perfect for them, but never learned how to effectively communicate online.

Senior women who are new to the business routinely enter scared, naive and shocked at the raw and unfiltered tripe that some men send out, including pictures of their privates. They just don’t get it. Still, one can’t escape the possibility that such lewdness may strike a chord with some lonely women who are just looking for one thing. Not sure if this graic approach ever works, but desperate men do desperate things. But there’s no doubt such a primitive caveman will get blocked by most women and banned by most sites - and rid the recipient women of their initial naivete.

One would be shocked at how many men flounder in introducing themselves to new women online. They don’t have a clue and blunder into serial rejection city. For men, who don’t have as many support systems, it can be crushing, which is why studies show that over 80% of men new to online dating give up after 3 months of failure to find a match.

Men need to learn what works at each stage of the encounter, since they are the ones who typically initiate the engagement. Even in 2018, women are taught to be the receptacle, not the initiator of communication, which is so 1950’s.

Women must be careful online and take precautions. They suffer from trusting too soon. I’m still surprised at how many don’t set up a new gmail account strictly for online dating correspondence, since the steps are usually 1) connect with someone online, 2) move to your personal email and 3) set a date for the first meeting. Those ladies who blithely hand out their personal email addresses with identifying details (often first and last name!), or landline numbers are just sitting ducks for the bad boys, who can do reverse searches on the phone number to get the name and address. I recommend that ladies set up a non-identifying email account and funnel men of interest to that. Women have told me horror stories about getting this wrong.

Whether you are a senior male or female, you will find many online who will judge you not on your pictures or interests or education, but strictly on your age. No matter that you’re athletic and ran or worked out for 35 years, no matter that you have nothing in common with your chronological cohort, or that your mind is agile and youthful. Ageism is alive and well with senior online daters.

So, there are many obstacles to finding THE ONE online, but if you persist, have a good idea of the person you seek, learn as much as you can from those who have succeeded in finding true love online, you, too, can beat the odds. But you must remain optimistic and adapt.

One important thing to remember - A massive study done with OK Cupid in 3 American cities concluded with a brilliant summary of online dating:

We are all 8’s, chasing after 10’s, being lusted after by 6’s.

That pretty much sums up the challenge.

Good luck, Pamela!

There are a number of sites that specialize in older people. I joined 1 or 2 when I was new to the online scene and met a couple guys there. I call them “old lady sites,” because the guys on there were too conservative (and generally too old) for me. On one hand they wanted to go on dates to get better acquainted before having sex; on the other, they wanted to know if I could “host” (have sex at my place). For the coup de grace, the sites wanted too much money.

I finally put most of my “dating” effort into SilverDaddies ($50 per year, and a gathering place for older men and the young men who admire them), and CraigsList personals, which at the time were a cauldron of all sorts of sexuality (now defunct). I’ve since added Growlr and Grindr (which I jointly call Gr***r). Growlr is good for sending “Shouts,” or Eblasts, which are an inexpensive way to reach out to like-minded guys in your area. There are lots of younger guys out there willing to fuck old men.

The biggest risks in using Gr***r (much less so with SilverDaddies, whose byword seems to be “quality over quantity”) are guys who make appointments and don’t show up, or guys who cruise by and decide you don’t even rate a hello, a major buzz kill if you drive to a remote site. I’ve had 2 occasions, out of hundreds over the last 3 years, of guys stealing petty cash — $100 or less (one of them fucked me 3 times in novel positions, so I suppose I got my money’s worth). One guy took $150 to buy Xstasy and coke and never came back — tuition money for me in the school of the street! (Never advertise that you’re interested in drugs, even 420 and poppers, as you tend to attract a bad element.)

I don’t believe in long back-and-forths by Email, but you need some conversation to get a bead on your correspondents. If ANYTHING strikes you as off, or weird, or inconsistent, either terminate the conversation or go for a meeting at Dunkin’ Donuts.

This is a great question!

For the purpose of this question, I’m going to define “seniors” as people 65 and older. Now, let me check my Tinder!

Let's see what we find.

Not much!

I saw a lot of profiles of women in their fifties, but no one in their 60s. Let's try Bumble.

Nothing!

Maybe I'm defining senior too narrowly? Let's try 60 years old and above.

… still nothing.

If I broaden it to 55 and above, there is one profile within a 100 mile radius of where I am.

So, I’m sure this doesn’t come as too much of a surprise. The demographics of dating apps skew young. There is still a fair number of profiles of women in their 50s, but they become few and far between above age 55.

Beware, scammers like to hang out on dating sites. They will have a dating profile that tells you they are someone they are not, including a fake profile pic. Be especially wary if the pic is of an very attractive person who doesn’t seem to fit the profile age. Since age is one of the pieces of profile information you are typically asked to include in your application to the site, a scammer can easily pick out prime looking targets. So some advice if you are a senior and are using dating sites (nothing wrong with keeping the blood moving seniors):

1. Keep your profile information to the bare minimum. You can always add if you don’t get many likes.
2. Don’t communicate with them outside of the site message services until you feel very comfortable with the person you have been matched with. Ask for and verify their out of site connection numbers before supplying your own,
3. Avoid anyone who may say they are serving in the military based overseas. This is probably a big lie and these are your famous “romance scammers” often.
4. When you do make off site connections and feel comfortable enough to meet that person, do so ASAP (hey you’re a senior and the clock is running down).

Most people on these senior dating site are genuine, some a little too genuine (if you get my drift). Be wise, be aware, have fun, and be safe!

I answer this as a senior senior citizen. I lost my wife after 52 years of marriage. This loss causes intense loneliness. As I wrote in a book I Co-authored on using dating sites, “The issue with loneliness is that it can be felt as a fleeting desire for companionship as well as a strong driving need for a relationship. The latter can and will put you into a situation that can end in disappointment. If you have decided you have been alone too long, then you can either hug your cat, or get a grip and move on.

Let me digress for a moment. Believe us when we say loneliness is a powerful driver. After months or years of having some one in your life is, for want of a better term, addicting. Both of us felt this loneliness acutely and in truth is a reason why we made mistakes.”

The way to protect themselves is move slowly and make Due Diligence your best friend.

As we wrote ask your self at least these questions:

Am I really finished grieving my loss? This loss can either be a result of death or divorce.

Am I really looking for a lasting relationship or do I just want sex?

Am I being careful and self protective?

Do I understand that the relationship I seek is something I want-not need?

Am I ready to risk?

Obviously there is a lot more to answering your question but this is a start.

Ah, well, actually, I've never succeeded in online dating but my best friend has. Hmmm, my best friend is a dating app lover and she found her present husband on CougarD. Yeah, maybe you don not hear this dating app, but she feels it is a more comfortable and safer app. I used it as well when I'm single one year agao. Ok, it's not my type~. She tried Tinder, Bumble, Zoosk, etc. before using CougarD, but she always felt something strange and insincere, and then she start trying other apps. She met CougarD accidentally when swiping on tiktok, and she tried it and finally met her present husband. I know little about their online dating but they're quite good with each other.

Yes and you are more likely to find someone by activity searching.

That said

• On the down side the older demographic are under represented in the newfangled computer dating world (I’ve done some searches for my mum).
• On the up side those you do find are liable to be a bit more ‘with it’ and engaged.
• I think you should supplement your search by joining evening classes, socialites and the like. “Oh go out and meet people in real life” is an often parroted cliché, but I think it holds some truth for the older generation who
• a) may not think of online dating
• b) are liable to be retired and have the time to do that sort of thing.

I am hard pressed to recommend a niche ‘older persons’ dating site, I am very suspicious of the small sites, do not use any site that expects you to pay to see incoming messages, once they have your money they have little motivation provide a service(1). Also sign up with a blank male profile and see if anyone contacts you (a classic way to sucker people into subscribing).

The only sites I can personally recommend are Plenty of Fish and OKCupid as both have a free level of service that keeps the site honest.

(1) the dating industry is a strange one. A successful dating site haemorrhages users as they find partners. A profitable dating site has to recruit more users to replace losses they can be done via word of mouth success or the use of big empty promises.

Anyone who is slim build and not terribly fit/strong regardless of age/sex is advised to be sensible about where they meet people - choose a public space rather than a dimly lit Park or a out of the way pub up an alleyway, no matter how nice that pub looks in daytime, you do not want to invite trouble into your life as some people get drunk BEFORE they meet you for a “Date/social drink”.

Who & what people are looking for on dating sites varies enormously from people who want to run wild & free and find a partner who also likes Extreme Sports, to someone who might be older (or injured/born disabled) who’s looking for a more sedentary companion. Society is infested with people who practise deception so all are advied to do everything they can to establish the NATURE of whoever they meet. My advice is that you pay a lot of attention to how much the person you meet, drinks, and especially pay attention if they’re texting anyone else or taking more than one phone call during your Date. I once met up with someone who spent the entire time replying to texts, it wasn’t exactly an enjoyable “date” - years later I discovered that this individual or their supposedly Later Met partner had actually abused my home address by setting up a Life Insurance policy in their name claiming them to own/occupy MY home! (This was proven to me face to face by a member of Bank Staff to whom I shall be eternally grateful for proving to me that I wasn’t ‘going mad’, and I wasn’t wrong); What the person had been doing was sending feedback to a 3rd party that I was till in the pub, presumably the texts were going to the person I later found out had robbed her employer of £25,000 Takings before the two of them emigrated to the USA in presumably financed by the Fraud Proceeds of a Life Insurance Payout after they faked the death of one or other of them. (You’ve probably guessed that I stopped dating a long time ago!) Older people using dating sites can be more prone to this type of Fake Date scenario, and younger people might be more prone to being overcome by a drunkard who loses control of themself. I’d advise anyone to take a friend with them if they can who can sit/stand at a discreet distance on the first Date & help make sure nothing untoward happens.

Whatever you do - do NOT go to someone’s house (or to a party at their friend’s house) until you’ve met and chatted with someone several times. Make sure your phone is charged before you go out and has credit allowing you to make at least half a dozen calls. Tell your family members or close friendswhere you’re going out to and when you’ll be back. Websites will usually issue similar Good Practice advise to people regardless of their age/Dating aims.