What are the key features that make certain dating sites stand out as the best for older women seeking relationships?

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Timothy Ellis Author · Answer

How would any men trust them?

There are already dating sites where all the contacts from women are bots, designed to get them to pay the premium service fees.

There are already sites so overrun by scammers that you can’t trust anyone contacting you. You have to treat them like a fish and play with them before they reveal which of the scammer playbooks they’re running.

You’re idea doesn’t work.

What would be better would be teach women it’s okay to make the first move, both on dating sites, and out in the real world.

And on the dating sites, use an initial contact vetting tool, so both have to agree they like each other’s profiles before any message can be sent at all, in either direction.

Sure, women get bombarded by some men, but not all of them.

But when men get contacted by women, most of the time they are fakes out to scam them.

The dating site system is broken. Until they can keep fakes off their sites, nothing can really be done to make dating sites safe for anyone. [It can be done, the sites simply won’t.]

Franklin Veaux · Answer

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So if you’d like to help keep this from happening, when you see questions like this, feel free to write answers describing what a scam fake dating sites like Dateglows are.

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So when people do a Google search for things like what are the best senior dating sites, they’ll find search results like “Dateglows is a scam dating site run by a spammer, so if you’re looking for a legitimate senior dating site where you can find the woman of your dreams, avoid the scam Dateglows site, it will steal your money and you’ll end up talking to fake profiles.”

And when people do searches like “is Dateglows a scam?” they’ll find this answer.

If we all work together whenever we see Quora spam designed to flood Google with scam sites like Dateglows, we can make the spam brand names like the scam Dateglows fake senior dating brand absolutely radioactive.

Oh, and link for your block/mute/report convenience.

Sara Angell · Answer

When I was 16, I dated my manager who was 26. I thought it was great because he had access to alcohol and invited me to manager-only parties where I could practice being an adult. I felt special.

When I mentioned my much older beau to my family, they shrugged it off as it wasn't so much frowned upon in their generation.

The relationship quickly fizzled due to differing interests. When I was 18, I had just broken up with my boyfriend and my manager approached me again and asked me if I would like him to accompany me to the prom. I politely declined.

A 28-year-old man going to the prom?

I started thinking, “Is there something wrong with him?”

Why would an older man want to date me?

We never had sex, so he wasn't looking for that.

Then I began piecing things together….maybe I had overlooked his serious Star Wars and Kiss dolls toy collection. Or the fact that he still lived with his parents. Or his inability to date someone his own age.

I am still friends with this man who is now 48. He has moved out of his parent's house. He still has a house full of toys and he still hasn't been in a meaningful relationship with anyone. He has stated he will never have children.

He was just immature and related to younger females. This is one reason older men date younger women.

I know those who are educated in biology and psychology love to cite the reason for older men dating younger women as having a biological purpose. Younger women are fertile. Older men have resources. Thus, these young women want to procreate with men who can support their offspring. This simple explanation neatly wraps up all cases of age gap dating as a biological drive for procreation and survival. Biology and psychology are just figuring out that the younger fertile woman and the older provider man explanation doesn’t really make sense because both sexes are choosy about long-term mates because both sexes contribute more than just an egg and a sperm.

If you take into account that women well into their late 30s and early 40s can still have babies, then a 60-year-old man lusting after a 40-year-old woman might make sense too from a biological explanation. This could be a second reason.

However, most 60-year-old men aren't looking to start new with raising a family. A man who is in his 50s and 60s and is looking to date a much younger woman in their 20s-40s is looking for a caretaker. Most men have had women who worked, raised children, cooked, cleaned, and felt an obligation to take care of their men. They want someone young to continue to care for them. This is reason number three.

The greatest age gap area is between a 40–50 year-old man and a 20-year-old woman. The men have something to prove to themselves as they are most likely divorced with a mid-life balding crisis. The women are most likely facing the realities of how difficult it is to be an adult and any man who is well established financially might entice them to consider an adult life free from all responsibilities. Will they bear his offspring? Sure they will. Will they have to work? Probably not. Win. Win. This is reason number four.

Wealth will allow more opportunities regardless of your age or gender. Traveling and interacting with people all over the world increases the chances of running into someone you might fall in love with regardless of the age. Rich men have more contact with beautiful women. Some of these women are young and some are not.

* Jeff Bezos’ ex-wife is 52-years -old. His new girlfriend is also 52-years-old. Jeff Bezos is 58-years-old.
 * Mark Zukerberg from Facebook is 38-years old. His wife is 37- years old.
 * Warren Buffett is 91-years old. His wife passed away in 2004, but she was only four years younger than him. His second wife is sixteen years younger than him.
 * Bill and Melinda Gates, although now divorced, had a ten year age difference.
 * Elon Musk’s first wife was two years younger than him. They married when he was 28-years-old. His second wife was fourteen years younger than him. His ex-girlfriend Grimes is sixteen years younger. His current girlfriend is twenty-one years younger.
But let’s be honest, Elon is the outlier in more ways than I can write about here. Instead of Kiss Dolls, he owns toys like Teslas and Twitter, and while he might be smart, I would argue that his maturity is questionable. He is a perfect example of reason number four.

This explanation of age gap dating has changed. If you asked me 100 years ago, my answers would be completely different as they will be 100 years from today.

If you take into account the time, culture, place, and situation, you will find that not one explanation provides a conclusive and definitive answer to your question.

*UPDATE for those that cannot handle the previous response.

Younger people are more beautiful in general. I find younger men more attractive than men my age.

But here is the thing men…Young girls are not lining up to get with middle-aged men. Sure sometimes it can happen, but not often.

And I am sure I speak for many young women when I ask you to back off. If a women is significantly younger than you and has an interest in you, she will let you know. There is no need to pursue her like a creep. Because creepiness, regardless of age or looks or socioeconomic status, is never attractive.

Bella Nazaire · Answer

The problem is not inherently in the numbers. Too often, the problem for decent guys is to let their decency show without coming off as dull or boring. Who said a decent guy couldn't have a spark in his eyes ? Showcase the best of you. If you don't know what that is, ask people you can trust and who know you a little. I know I may not look it (because people have so many preconceived ideas) but I myself falls more in the category of decent girls than people realize. Result ? I get all kind of troubles because some people assume someone like me has to be a “bad person” one way or another… On si

The problem is not inherently in the numbers. Too often, the problem for decent guys is to let their decency show without coming off as dull or boring. Who said a decent guy couldn't have a spark in his eyes ? Showcase the best of you. If you don't know what that is, ask people you can trust and who know you a little. I know I may not look it (because people have so many preconceived ideas) but I myself falls more in the category of decent girls than people realize. Result ? I get all kind of troubles because some people assume someone like me has to be a “bad person” one way or another… On sites when only pictures count, I had to actually tone things down compared to what a genuine picture of me in everyday life mode would be like… People don't understand the concept of “ living in a tropical climate/wearing less clothing than in colder climates=not necessarily a slutty person” right away. On sites like OkCupid, I get to tell people who I am (at least a little) and they get to make up their own mind based on my words as well as the rest. Some will find me “too complicated”, others will like my sarcastic streak. At the end of the day, I am not trying to be anyone else but me and people who have what it takes to potentially click with me can see that. Be yourself and open-up.

Erin Wood · Answer

TBH, I think the thing about online dating is totally based on luck. There are really some best and worst people. But, I do meet some really nice people on dating apps.

So, I was traveling in a town in Europe. Then, I started swiping the HOOKOO hookup app. I wasn't expecting anything, cuz the app does not have many users. Then, I saw him, with curly hair, and a big smile. Then, I just messaged him. It all happened so suddenly. He had me hooked out of nowhere. We flirted online for a while and finally decided to meet. He seemed shy, but I didn't mind because as an extreme extrovert, I like the spotlight on me. The date went well and we slept during the time I was there., We have the best time together, cooking, reading, and swimming. It was such a wonderful time. We still play games together till today.

Well, many people who are considering online dating would be interested in statistics on the success rate of online dating. In a study conducted by Statista, it was found that 17 percent of online daters ended a long-term relationship after meeting someone online. In addition, the survey found that almost one-third of respondents knew someone who had met their partner online. So, give it a try.

Frances · Answer

Doulike

While now not completely for older men and more youthful ladies, Doulike is popular among mature individuals searching for serious relationships. It makes use of a detailed persona check to match users based on compatibility, catering to folks who are seeking out extra than only a bodily connection.﻿

Seeking

Seeking is thought for its technique to connecting successful and rich individuals with more youthful companions. It's regularly used by those seeking mutually useful relationships. The platform emphasizes transparency and honesty in profiles and interactions.

EliteSingles

EliteSingles goals specialists and lecturers looking for severe relationships, and it often attracts older men and more youthful women. The web site makes use of a sophisticated matchmaking algorithm primarily based on personality trends and lifestyle selections, aiming to attach humans on a deeper degree.

Each of these websites has its specific method and audience, supplying extraordinary experiences for those inquisitive about age-hole relationships.

Elena · Answer

I’m over 50, divorced, and my kids are grown, so I decided to try SeniorMatch [ https://linktr.ee/seniorfriends ]. It’s been pretty good so far. The site’s easy to use, and it’s nice to connect with people my age who are looking for real connections, not just casual stuff.

It’s not super fast-paced, and some profiles could use more details, but overall, I feel like it’s a solid option for meeting people in the same stage of life. If you’re looking for something meaningful, it’s definitely worth checking out!

Peter Christie · Answer

From my experience and being a male over 40 none of the dating site are anything but fakes and scams. I lost my wife to cancer many years ago, I am open to an honest woman but the brakes are applied as I live in Australia which seems to be on another planet.

Randy Ceels · Answer

Listen Up! Men are not brain dead. Neither are women. For example, take a fifty year old dude who goes on that BedWeGo that everyone used these days to find someone to mess around with in the bedroom. He finds himself a twenty nine year old women who is interested in him. They go out for some drinks, a nice dinner, perhaps some dancing, and then back to his or her place for some hanky-panky. They get along decent enough and what was supposed to be a one night thing turns into a full time thing. (this happens all the time on BWG)

Now at this juncture, the man, deep down inside, realizes that he

Now at this juncture, the man, deep down inside, realizes that he is one darn lucky fellow. The women, deep down inside, concludes that although her new man has a few extra ponds around the midsection and can’t get it up with out a blue-pill, his maturity and bank account are certainly things that can make her life much easier than dating a much younger, more muscular, immature man with little to no money.

It is all about what a person can tolerate that determines how many years is too much when talking about age differences in couples. What are we going to benefit from being with a man 20 or 30 years older. What are we going to miss by not dating within your own age group. It is not the age that matters, but rather what you, he, and she bring to the table and what we can tolerate.

That is why places like BedWeGo are great for finding younger women to date or just hook/up with because younger women are in fact on the prowl for older guys.

OkFun App · Answer

A good dating site should prioritize user safety with robust privacy features and verification processes to prevent fake profiles. It must offer an intuitive, user-friendly interface that makes browsing and communication seamless. Matching algorithms should be based on compatibility, using detailed profiles or interests for more meaningful connections. Communication tools, such as messaging or video calls, should be private and secure. Lastly, a diverse and active user base ensures more chances to meet compatible individuals, along with responsive customer support for any issues.

Mansour Ansari · Answer

As an older dude who's seen a bit of life, let me spill the beans on why some older guys go after much younger women. So, I say, it's a mixed bag, really. For starters, there's this whole thing about feeling young again or being taken care of – it's like finding a fountain of youth in someone else's company, making them feel all refreshed and alive. We know it doesn’t work! but some men insist on trying it anyway. Then, there's the ego boost. Yeah, having a young partner can sometimes be a status symbol, showing off to the world like, "Look at me!" It gets pretty hilarious, comic, especially when it's so obvious.

Now, about that iconic red sports car – come on, it's almost a cliché. What's the point of cruising in a flashy car if you don't have a young chick by your side? Imagine an older, not-so-in-shape guy with a young partner in the passenger seat versus him alone in an old Buick Skylark from '75. What are the odds of the young, attractive females sticking around without the allure of that cool red sports car? Pretty slim, I'd say.

And let's not skirt around the topic of physical attraction. It's hardwired into guys to keep looking, no matter their age. That part of them never hits the brakes.

So, this goofy dude doesn’t exist. Here is the prompt to create this with that good-looking Instagram model.

Prompt to Midjourney AI version 6 Alpha: /Imagine old man driving a modern red sports car with no top; there is a beautiful young Instagram model in the backseat sitting behind him, she is smiling at the camera, and the old man seems happy; speedy scene --s 750 --v 6.0 --style raw

Gawain Hill · Answer

Yes, I forgot what it's called not many people use it and some of the women even have things like “I won't message first” on a site that explicitly states that only women can initiate contact!

Anonymous · Answer

A woman should behave as she normally does. Online or otherwise. If she prefers men to do all the work when dating, continue to do so. Eventually a man that likes the chase will approach. But if a woman is confident and normally forward, she should contact a man she likes. There is no harm in correctly representing her personality. Being honest about yourself and your personality is preferable. The last thing you want to do is attract the wrong kind of person.

The woman I happily call my wife contacted me first when online dating. As it happens, I am not in the least attracted to meek women. Fo

The woman I happily call my wife contacted me first when online dating. As it happens, I am not in the least attracted to meek women. For me, long gone are the days where a woman was only useful to keep a house while I work all day. I find that sort of thinking ignorant and underestimating. By the same token, I have higher expectations of the women I spend my time with. Misrepresentation ended more than one date. A person should never try to fake ANYTHING in order to impress someone.

Be yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

Unfortunately no, I don’t think. Online dating is indeed stacked against guys in that way. Women rightfully complain about it for other reasons, but it’s actually stacked in their favor as far as constantly having new guys to choose from. Online dating tends to bring out the superficiality in people, without real-life interaction. This means that a lot of women (and men, of course) will miss meeting someone amazing because they “swipe left” too easily.

But I’ve managed to find awesome people in the past — it just takes patience and trying not to get discouraged with humanity (not easy with onli

But I’ve managed to find awesome people in the past — it just takes patience and trying not to get discouraged with humanity (not easy with online dating, for sure)!

(EDIT) You weren’t asking for this kind of advice, but just in case: Make sure you have an interesting and unique profile (rare with both men and women), and be smart, intriguing and respectful with the messages you send.

Anonymous · Answer

It likely has more to do with attraction. Women generally don't respond to those they aren't attracted to, unless out of boredom. If less attractive women are responding, it means that the more attractive women just aren't interested, or they have better prospects. One could theorize that the attractive women are getting more messages, and from more attractive men. However. Honestly now all a woman has to do is have a pulse and she's flooded with messages on those sites. But many of those messages will be from guys she has no attraction to. The only flaw in the theory that less attractive women getting less messages are more likely to respond is that they still need to be attracted to the guys messaging them.

Caroline Robin · Answer

It can be difficult to know if a dating site has real women, as some sites may use fake profiles or bots to artificially boost their numbers. However, there are some steps you can take to help determine if a dating site is legitimate and has real women:

Check the site's reputation: Look for reviews of the site from reputable sources and read what other users have to say about their experiences with the site. If there are a lot of negative reviews or complaints about fake profiles, it may be a red flag that the site is not legitimate.

Look for verification processes: Legitimate dating sites often have processes in place to verify the identity of their users. This may include requiring users to provide identification, linking social media accounts, or conducting background checks. If a site does not have any verification processes in place, it may be more likely to have fake profiles.

Look at the profiles: Take a close look at the profiles on the site. Do they seem too good to be true? Are the photos of professional models or celebrities? If so, it's possible that the site is using fake profiles to lure in users. On the other hand, if the profiles seem more authentic, with a range of photos and detailed information about the user, it may be more likely that the site has real women.

Look at the messaging patterns: If you start receiving messages from a lot of women as soon as you sign up for the site, it may be a red flag that the site is using bots or fake profiles to generate messages. If the messaging patterns seem more organic, with messages coming in at a more natural pace and from a range of different users, it may be more likely that the site has real women.

Use caution: No matter how legitimate a dating site may seem, it's always important to use caution when communicating with new people online. Take things slowly, look for inconsistencies in profiles and messages, and never give out personal information or send money to someone you've only just met online.

Nevertheless, there is no foolproof way to know if a dating site has real women, but by following these tips and using caution, you can increase your chances of finding a legitimate site with real users.

And one of such legitimate dating site is the one on my profile Caroline Robin, you can never go wrong

Amy Oakes · Answer

They pretty much ask right from the get-go “when can i come to your house and fuck you.” Like no date. No checking each other out to see if we like each other. What if I'm a catfish? Do they have zero standards? It makes them seem pretty desperate.

Its not like i require 5 dates and a promise if marriage before we fuck. I just want to meet face to face for a slice of pizza and a coffee first lolol.

Anonymous · Answer

The best I can think of is eHarmony. I gave it a try for a whole year. During my first few months, the site had lots of good features. But it started deteriorating after my 3rd or so month once they removed their mandatory questionnaire.

On eHarmony, you have better chances of receiving replies from people who actually have active subscriptions (who can actually see your messages). EHarmony only sends its users a few new matches a day. Users are only allowed to message and be messaged by people whom the site has paired them up with. That way, nobody is getting a flood of daily messages. The odds are not stacked in any gender’s favor.

The downside is that eHarmony is expensive. So you tend to get a lot of profiles with inactive subscriptions belonging to people who can’t even see your messages if you send them. However, I must warn you that I have not sent out that many messages on there. So I can’t say what your chances of receiving replies would be like. The very few messages that I actually sent, received no reply either because the person was uninterested or couldn’t see it due to an inactive subscription. I did not send out that many messages because a lot of profiles did not provide very much information (like answers to profile questions) for me to decide whether they’d be worth messaging.

Anonymous · Answer

I am an older woman who occasionally dates younger beautiful men. It makes me feel young and beautiful. They're fun and full of life and dumb ideas. I have all the control and experience and I like that. I have also dated older men. And they like me on their arm for the same reason.

Erin Ro · Answer

Speaking just for myself, I would be very trepidatious about dating a guy that was much younger. It seems creepy to me - not that the young man is creepy, but I would feel creepy. Age gives you a lot of perspective and experience, and when you're young it's easy to be manipulated because you just don't know as much as someone who’s older. Also, if I saw a younger guy and he was being flirty, it would be flattering but I would be like ‘This isn't serious,’ like, ‘That's cute.’ The end.

With that said, there are enough older women out there who are quite up for having flings and so on. So it real

With that said, there are enough older women out there who are quite up for having flings and so on. So it really depends on the person. I guess you can just start talking to them, and if the conversation goes somewhere, ask them to go for a coffee or something.