There are plenty of men in their 50s who want to date. For those, a woman in her early 50s is desirable.

The main thing is to look like someone it would be fun/interesting/attractive to date. That means, have photos of you doing something. It does’t have to be something he does, just an indication that you are healthy enough to be active. So I have photos of me skiing, at a science fiction convention, photos of my BDSM stuff.

It’s fine to be specific about what you are and are not looking for, but try to avoid whinging. No rants about how there are no good men out there, that the internet is full of scammer and anyway, all men are bastards.

Personally, things that make me cringe in a profile is stuff about how much they love god, how they chose their lover by her star sign, etc. Anything that indicates an incompatible view of politics is a red flag. But it works both ways, they should read my profile and realise we are not suited. The point of your profile is to narrow the field down to potential dates, not to attract everyone on the internet.

Easy. By being efficient providers. Having a sound economic position is the ticket for getting attractive young women as decorative companions.

I'm not that old, but I'm definitely not young anymore. I'm 54 and I've been single for 5 years after getting divorced at 48. During this time, I dated a lot of attractive women, usually ten years younger. I always had fun as long as I didn't hesitate in paying for everything and having fun.

But as soon as it became clear that I wasn't up to support permanently a non-working-high-maintenance-model (usually mother of one) about to get ripe, the relationships came to an end.

It's funny to see in social networks their lives today, full of lavish vacations with guys who look exactly like me, but more willing to burn their hard earned reserves.

The hard truth is that men are the only humans who are never loved unconditionally. Men are loved as long as we're good suppliers. Period.

Very much so. I think it has to do with a man being well-adjusted sexually. I really enjoyed masturbating before I married, and thrill with sex for our 36 years of marriage, so I seemed to enjoy the female nearer my own age. Dating when I was masturbating and now having sex with my wife all these decades, it was the female form of that time of my life that I was attracted to. Now approaching 60, and it may seem very strange to you men who might read this, I really like women who look older. If they are shaped like my wife, oh boy, it gets me going and all I can think about that day is getting with my wife that night! I can’t imagine having sex with a 25 year old woman. But, I sure can with a 60 year old woman, wrinkles, and all. My gosh, they’re so soft.

My advice to young men: get married & stay married! Sex is great in your 20s, but it really does get better and better every decade you are with the wife of your youth. Because you’ve had sex with her thousands of times, she will know you so well that only she will know how to sexually please you like no other woman on the planet will ever be able to do. No 25 year old woman could please me like my wife can.

Most men probably already know the truth of what I just said.

In my opinion, older men represent the ideal mate for many younger women. Attraction doesn’t work the same way for men as it does for women. That’s to say, men are least attractive to women when they are in their early 20’s. Maybe not physically, but certainly as someone with which to build a stable relationship (coincidentally, this is why you shouldn’t worry too much about dating success in your 20’s).

A man that is graying, is in decent shape, and has money to throw around is dangerous in the dating game in a way that a young man is not. You may literally find yourself up against Batman.

(The one and only. Image source: Newsweek)

I recently married a woman 20 years younger; I was not on any dating or social media hookup sites.

We were both attracted to each other when we first met at a service conference for like minded people. We discovered we shared the same values, principles, and morals.

We were both driven and passionate about our work. There was a big physical attraction at first sight, and looking each other in the eye and being open and honest about what matters got the first date.

I am financially secure but not financially wealthy. We were both on fairly equal terms financially, but I could provide her things money can’t buy like Honesty, Integrity, Courage, Faith, Humility, Awareness, and Service.

I am a combat veteran and have lived abroad for 20 years so I could offer her a world view, wisdom, experience and especially provide a strong, positive, masculine influence for her boys 12 & 14.

I am physically fit, spiritually strong, and morally straight, I do not drink alcohol or use drugs. My wife is attracted to that. Our intimacy is beyond amazing.

My loneliness motivated me to be the best man I can be. This is my advice to men seeking a good mate:

• Wake up early and train in the gym at least 5 days a week.
• Morning routines and daily discipline is critical to good health and wellness.
• Eat whole, healthy foods and refrain from alcohol and drugs.
• Volunteer in your community. I met my wife as a volunteer. Every great thing in my life has been a result of service to others.
• Attitude of gratitude.

how you get attention from older men is by dressing up super sexy as you can like this for example. This can get the men attentions

Yes, old men like me think older women are attractive. One 68 year old lady finds ME attractive. I’m shocked. Men my age should look in the mirror. I’m old enough to be a young woman’s grandfather. I view young women as kids. What on earth would a younger lady see in old man besides money?Susan Sarandon is 70 years old. The lady I see looks like her. She won’t let me insert her picture: I’d love to.

I know many women over 65. They’re funny, smart, and caring. Most have more wisdom in their little finger than I do. I think a few are crazy but funny.I’m the most flawed man on the planet so I’m grateful ANY woman gives me any attention.

One old man used to send me suggestive pictures of younger women. He says “see what we’re missing?” I laughed and said it’s great if he likes looking at “eye candy.” He doesn’t send pictures anymore. I’m old enough to want to know the “inside” part of a woman, not the “outside.”

I was young in the 1800’s. I did ‘see” women my age. Some were lovely, some, not so much. Even in my youth, I wanted to be with intelligent women: they’re very sexy.

Do’s

Embrace specificity. If you’re looking for someone who wants to travel the world with you, say so. If you want to sit on the couch watching ESPN all day, say so. There are both kinds of people out there. Don’t say vague stuff like “I’m funny and I want someone to laugh with.” I’ve rarely read a funny bio.

Don’ts

No physical requirements whatsoever. Zero. Zilch. Nada. You’re already going to be exchanging photos, so don’t risk turning the other person off by stating you’ll only date people ten years younger and below (women do this too), slim, etc. (or tall, muscular). This screams superficial.

Make sure you are educated, successful in your own business, and have a well-honed body.

With all of that - make sure your personal hygiene is impeccable - and your teeth in perfect condition - nails and toe nails well-groomed and no hair sticking out of your nose and ears - and, some women hate too much body hair - so get waxed on your back, for sure.

Wear a soft nice cologne - and make sure your clothes are not polyester - and always clean and pressed - and knowing how to cook would be a huge plus!

While having your own expensive abode, you will also be excellent at knowing how to clean all rooms, including the bathroom - always making sure to put the seat down and cleaning the toilet(s) clean.

You will also know how to maintain the house inside and out as well as keeping the yard well-groomed as well.

Oh… and make sure you enjoy eating out at fine restaurants and going to live theater and ballet and opera and museums and travel in and out of the country - first class - by private jet or yacht - both with crews that work for you.

Alas, a bonus would be if you want or don’t want children, depending on the woman you’re eyeing.

I think that’s it … all of the above should get a few females interested in you. Unless, of course, you have a lousy personality and no sense of humor and watch tv sports 24/7. If you are a gambler, stay single.

That should do it. Good luck!

It’s difficult to speak in generalizations. Most of the things that will determine the success or demise of your relationship don’t hinge on how generally attractive either of you is, and the bulk of the general suggestions I would give someone are identical no matter who they’re dating. Never take the other person for granted. Always be working on yourself, always be reinforcing your connection with her, always trust her, and always talk about the things you least want to talk about. I guess I’ll share a few things that are perhaps more important if your partner is exceptionally generally attractive, but all three are things you should be applying no matter what.

It is important to be trusting. When lots of other people want to sleep with your girlfriend, it’s even more important.

There will never be a shortage of men who will want to sleep with your girlfriend. If she wants to cheat on you, she will. If she doesn’t, she won’t. Some men, acting out of insecurity, try to limit how much their girlfriends are allowed to talk to other men, or they’ll try to intimidate other men into not flirting with their girlfriends. This is counterproductive. Not only is it impossible (and exhausting) to monitor your girlfriend at all times, attempting to do so will rightly cause her to resent you, destroying your connection, the very thing she has with you that other men can’t offer and thus her main reason not to cheat. The very controlling behavior you practice to keep her from cheating encourages her to cheat. The more freedom and respect you show your girlfriend, the less likely she will be to cheat on you, because she’ll genuinely enjoy being with you. She’s always had the option to sleep around with all the guys she wants. She has chosen a monogamous relationship with you instead. Trust her to behave consistently with her own desire.

While far from universally true, some exceptionally beautiful women are accustomed to getting whatever they want whenever they want in exchange for nothing more than their company and smile. They are not accustomed to negotiating and are quick to deliver ultimatums. You must be willing to say “no” to her even in these circumstances and you must be willing to reject her.

One of the struggles in the early stages of dating someone very generally attractive is that as a new romantic partner, you are infinitely replaceable. Often times the less attractive person feels obligated to invest a great deal more into the relationship to compete with the infinite other options. The power dynamics of a lot of such relationships are thus prone to being extremely lopsided in favor of the more attractive person.

It is always important to consider your girlfriend’s point of view and to try to compromise on things. Compromising does not mean acquiescing to everything she ever asks for, especially if it’s unreasonable or unhealthy for you to do so. It means arriving at the most mutually beneficial arrangement possible. She has to care about your feelings too. You are not her servant, and if she treats you like one because she knows she can replace you with ease, you need to recognize that not being in a relationship with such a person is preferable to being used, no matter how beautiful she is or how envious your friends are. You must be willing to say “no” and leave if necessary.

If she is absolutely unwilling to tolerate someone setting boundaries with her, then unfortunately, yes, doing so will mean the end of the relationship. She will leave you and find someone she can more easily manipulate. Accept that you’re better off this way. It is better to be with someone who respects your boundaries and cares about your feelings than with someone who offers you nothing but physical beauty and slightly elevated social status. Respect your girlfriend, but not at the expense of respecting yourself.

Her beauty will not last forever. It should not be the primary thing you like about her.

The older you get, the more you’ll appreciate just how much people change. If you compare the most attractive people in your high school class to the same group of people ten years later, you’ll find a lot of differences in who the “hottest” people are.

Don’t underestimate the influence of time. If you’re looking for a long-term partner, you have to be thinking in the long-term, and that means accepting that some day she’s not going to have the looks she has today. Prioritize the qualities that are most important for a successful relationship. Does she communicate well? Is she honest and up front about her feelings? Do you have fun together? Do you fight in a healthy way? Do you smile when you think about her? These are the things that will make you happy in the long-term, and it’s important to not let physical beauty keep you from answering these questions honestly and objectively.

I think that’s it. Thanks for the a2a.

First of all, you mentioned that you were attractive. Assuming you are referring to looks, saying you’re attractive already turned me off…but I digress. Attractive isn’t just looks, it’s attitude, confidence, and the ability to communicate: intelligently and respectfully.

Someone asked a similar question and here was my answer:

As an older woman who is constantly approached by younger men, I can say that I appreciate the “cold” approach. If it means, that you respectfully flat out say that you are interested in getting to know her and would like to chat or take her out on a date. We are flattered and also impressed. The young man shows confidence in himself, knows what he wants, and goes after it.

Most older, mature women have “been there and done that” and don’t want games, ambiguity, or mixed signals. Most men who approach women (in general) with honesty and straight forwardness usually get the girl. Try not to “impress” or boast. Be your authentic self. While saying she’s “hot” is cute, try to use another word when you are complimenting her: beautiful, pretty, good-looking, or gorgeous. Do NOT use words like: hot, sexy, etc. LOL…good luck!

My suggestion would be to use recent photos, and select a variety of pics that show you as you are. Try not to only have selfies, or pics of you with your dog in every photo, or you drinking alcohol in every photo, or all group photos of you and your girlfriends (how are guys supposed to know which one is you?). Mix it up. Include full body shots, show activities and interests if possible. If your interests centre around time with your dog, and drinking alcohol with your friends, then this could be a challenge! And for me, heavy make up in every photo was an instant ‘no’.

I think that rather than list out what you’re looking for in a man (you will probably find that hundreds of men will message you regardless of whether they match your list or not), provide a couple of points about yourself and what you bring to the table (the same advice would apply to men’s profiles too).

Do you mean to attract female models? If so you ideally need to have male model looks, be tall, and have a muscular ripped bod, that's basically it. Feminists won't tell you this but it's just true. If however you are a female model then men will want you no matter what. You can make the worst profile in the world but many men will still want you like crazy. You will be overwhelmed with messages regardless and have an abundance of choice.

The only problem is, the vast majority of men will just want you for one thing, sex. It's best to try and look as natural as you can and not showing any legs or clevege. This may null out some of the men who just want you for one thing, but still not all. It can be very hard to find true love as a female model, despite what others say. Finding intimacy is however at your fingertips. Tinder is probably not the best app to use if you are looking for a serious and meaningful LTR.

Be clear about what you’re looking for. Are you looking for the love of your life, an indefinite relationship but not necessarily forever, to expand your social circle, a friend with benefits, or just a one-off hookup? Say which of these possibilities you’re open to on your profile; it can save wasting time.

Tell the truth. There’s no point lying about about your hobbies and saying that you’re super into exercise when you’re a couch potato, because then you start dating an exercise freak, and either have to start exercising to keep up and nearly kill yourself, or they’re annoyed to discover that you lied to them. If you don’t exercise but really wish you did, I find that people can find it quite endearing to be brutally honest: “I don’t exercise nearly as much as I would like, so if you’re into fitness, I’d love you to help motivate me to exercise more.” But very few people find deception endearing.

Likewise, lying about your age, relationship status (saying that you’re single when you’re not), level of education, weight, and so on, seems to be common, but is really self-defeating.

People who are interested in the profile you’ve created with false information aren’t attracted to you; they’re attracted to a fake person you’ve created, and you’re hoping their attraction to that fake person will translate to you. But now when they meet you, they’re not only battling the disappointment that you’re older / less educated / actually married / heavier than they had been lead to believe, but they also know that you’re a liar. That’s an uphill battle you’re now fighting!

I can’t help thinking that it would have been much easier to create a positive impression if you’d just shown them who you really are to begin with.

Profile pictures.

1. Have some. Lots of people seem to avoid putting pictures on their profile, I think from the misguided view that they’re afraid of rejection. Not putting any pictures on your profile, or just putting pictures of objects, is the number one mistake I see people making.
   
   Of course people want to know what you look like - you’re virtually guaranteed that everybody is going to just flick past your profile if there are no pictures of you on it. If you put pictures of you on it, sure, you may not be many people’s cup of tea, but you are going to be somebody’s - without pics, nobody knows! Even that somebody whose type you are has no chance of finding you without the pictures being there. If people looking at your profile aren’t interested in you, give them the chance to find out now and reject you without you ever even having to know, rather than having to suffer the hurt of having them reject you to your face.
   
   People are going to reject you - it’s part of the game. Just as you are going to reject others - the vast majority of them! So let them do it in the least painful way possible - without you ever having to even know about it.
2. The absolute best strategy is to put some flattering but realistic pictures of you on your profile. They shouldn’t be of you 20 years ago and looking so incredibly awesome and well made-up that your friends would barely recognise you. None of them should be more than, say, 3 years old. They should all be very recognisably you, so that when the person meets you face-to-face, there’s no surprise.
3. Some should be casual and some more dressed-up, so that people see you in a variety of contexts. Some photos of you engaging in your favourite hobbies, such as sports or cooking or playing a musical instrument, are great to further give an impression of who you are.
4. Don’t only use group pictures of you with your friends - it can be too confusing for viewers trying to sort through a heap of group photos figuring out who the common person is and which one is the person whose profile it is. Use them sparingly, and if there’s any doubt - eg if there are multiple people of broadly similar appearance such as multiple men with dark hair and beards - then crop group pictures to highlight you.
5. Pay attention to backgrounds. It’s astonishing how many people post pictures with horrible backgrounds - messy bedrooms with clothes strewn everywhere, and I’ve even seen a filthy toilet in the background. Ugh! Don’t send the message that you’re a slob - unless that’s the signal you want to send, of course.

Hobbies and interests. List some of the things that you enjoy doing in your spare time. Not things that you dream of doing, but actually do. You could also say that you dream of doing certain things if you want, but make it clear that they’re things you dream of doing, otherwise you’re being misleading again.

Dealbreakers. If you have dealbreakers, such as wanting kids, or smoking, or religious beliefs, then state them, to save both of you time. Make sure they really are dealbreakers, though. If it’s just a strong preference, make that clear, so that you don’t deter Mr/s “Otherwise Perfect” from contacting you.

Inject Your Personality. If you have a sense of humour, then show it in your profile in the way you describe yourself. If you’re a cynic, then use cynical humour describing yourself. If you’re bubbly, be bubbly! And so on. One of my profiles includes this paragraph, which I think probably gives you a feel for me:

‘I don’t do outdoors (maybe if there's awesome WiFi), I don't think motor sports are sports, I prefer not to camp, and I only exercise in the bedroom. I love five star hotels, air-conditioning, intelligent people, social justice, reading and writing, Netflix, and have difficulty turning my brain off.’

Regularly review your profile. Every now and again, review how well your profile seems to be working, and what kinds of responses you’re getting, and tweak it. Maybe you’re finding you’re more compatible with a particular age group, and want to tweak your profile to more specifically target that group. Perhaps you have an exciting new hobby that you want to mention, or a new TV series you’re really into; you never know what things might spark a connection with somebody new.

Online dating presents a number of amazing opportunities to connect with like-minded people and potential romantic partners. but some seniors may be intimidated by the idea of online dating, the truth is , it’s very easy to get started.😄😄😄

1. If you’re dating, you will need smart, freshly washed clothes, a good haircut, and fresh breath: this assumes you want to succeed.
2. We all have stories, so just don’t let your past story take over.
3. Learning to value yourself even when she/he turns you down. And try to enjoy the dates, even when they lead to nowhere.
4. You may be looking for another settled relationship. Part of being a senior single is staying open to what’s possible, here and now, learning to embrace surprises, and don’t forget to be gracefully flexible.

Attraction is a biological process.

It's emotional, not intellectual. Or, maybe I should say that a woman can become intellectually attracted to you, but emotional attraction has to happen first.

All too often, I see men attempting to "convince" a woman that she should be attracted to him. But, attraction doesn't work that way. From a brain perspective, when attraction works, it starts in the reptilian brain, deep within the center, and slowly radiates out to the frontal lobe. When a man tries to intellectualize a woman into being attracted to him, he's approaching the process in reverse, and trying to drive attraction in from the frontal lobe backwards into the center. That doesn't work.

So, what sparks attraction in the reptilian brain? Simple: when she observes traits in you that are highly correlated with good genes.

So, What Do Women Want?

It’s 11pm at the Comic Strip in New York City. We’re gathered around, celebrating our friend Brian McFadden’s inaugural appearance on Letterman. Little did we know, he was about to ponder that same question: “what do women want?”

Here he is on Letterman:

To guys, this makes absolutely no sense. Men think liking a woman is a logical choice, an instantaneous decision that comes down to “I want to have sex with her.” Women, however, have a laundry list of traits they are looking for in men; Simply put, women don’t want what you want. I know that’s a gross oversimplification but, really, it’s just not that far off. Women appear like they’re not logical and, gauged by men’s standards, they aren’t! But here’s the thing: you’re not as logical as you may think either. As you’re about to find out, we’ve all been shaped by evolution and, as any evolutionary biologist will tell you, acting in the interest of our genes is rarely a logical process.

It All Starts Within

Think about a moment when you first became attracted to a particular woman. You’re walking down the street, a beautiful woman walks past, and either you’re attracted or you’re not. You don’t logically assess whether or not she’d be a good mate. Instead you feel a visceral desire to be with her -- or you don’t. There’s no logic involved. In fact, most of the thinking seems to have been done for you. Attraction is below your awareness. Attraction isn’t a choice. And in many ways, you’re at the mercy of your genetic makeup, and what millions of years of natural selection has deemed best for the species.

Women are the same way, and if you don’t understand women or what they want, it’s because natural selection has shaped men differently than women. This answer is about deciphering what women actually want, as dictated by their genes. Once you understand that, women will become less of a mystery.

Evolutionary Foundations

Darwin’s theory of natural selection can be broken down into three supporting pillars: variation, inheritance, and selection. Here’s how this works; Life exists in many variations — from the elephant’s trunk to the peacock’s tail — and these variations fuel evolution. They are evolution’s raw materials. Some of these variations are inherited, passed down from one generation to the next. Over generations, as one successful variation after another accumulates, a new species is formed. Some of these variations are selected for, and are successful, while others are not. So what makes a successful variation? In the human species, evolutionary success can be defined as:

• Living old enough to reproduce.
• Finding and having children with a mate who has strong genes.
• Having enough children to carry on a lineage, but not so many that it becomes a burden.
• Having children that survive long enough to reproduce.

If any of these things don’t happen, your distinct genetic makeup, and all the variation contained therein, dies out. You become an evolutionary dead end.

Now, obviously, this is bad for your genes. And your genes have evolved complex mechanisms for making sure this doesn’t happened. Sexual preferences, over time, have become hard-wired into your brain, so that there’s always an evolutionary autopilot, running in the background, attracting you towards the best mate possible. One of the ways your evolutionary autopilot works is through what are called Evolved Psychological Mechanisms (EPMs for short).

EPMs often take the form of fears or preferences. It’s no coincidence, for example, that almost all humans are terrified of heights, snakes, and public speaking.

Becoming “Mr. Right”

Unlike men, women’s success in mating and reproduction isn’t constrained by how many men they have access to, but rather by the quality and quantity of resources those men can provide. Women have evolved to prefer men who have qualities correlated to their ability to provide future resources and overall genetic fitness.

In an ideal world, a man’s qualities would be readily apparent. However, as we all know, men lie. Men will exaggerate their finances, lie about their name, their job, you name it, all in an effort to get the girl. But women aren’t stupid. Over millennia, women have evolved ways to weed out the liars. Women can tell whether or not you’d be a good mate based on what you say, and how you say it. Do things right and she’ll become attracted to you. It’s literally like flipping a switch.

Woman have many more switches than men do, and these switches are also different than the ones men have (another reason most men who think they know what women want are totally wrong). As our friend Brian McFadden said during his bit at the Comic Strip, “to impress a woman you’ll have to compliment her, tease her, kiss her, love her, protect her, listen to her, support her; but to impress a man all you have to do is show up naked and bring beer.” Woman have many switches, men have only one.

For women these switches are also gradual (they’re actually more like dials than switches, but I'm nitpicking). For men, a switch is either on, or it’s off. You either want to sleep with a woman, or you don’t, and chances are you make that decision almost instantaneously when you first meet. Women, however, take time. You must slowly turn her switches on, and they can be easily turned off if you do something wrong.

Women also prefer certain switches over others based on the phase of the interaction you’re in. I've grouped these switches into three categories: attraction switches, which establish your value to her as a mate; connection switches, which establish trust and believability; and seduction switches, which are about letting her know she can be sexual with you. These switches have been verified in study after independent study. They’ve been shown to be linked closely with a man’s ability to devote present or future resources to a woman in modern and many tribal societies.

Flipping these switches will make her feel a certain emotion. So, for example, flipping attraction switches will make her feel attracted to you; flipping connection switches will make her feel connected to you, and so on.

And the best thing about these switches? Sure, they’ll help you get almost any girl you want. But they’ll also help you be a better man. They’ll help you grow and develop as a person.

It’s for this reason that I believe dating and relationships are THE most effective route to personal development and growth.

Next time you’re interacting with a beautiful girl, remember that, deep down and subconsciously, she wants the best for you. And if things aren’t going well, it’s because you’re not living at your best. Maybe you’re supplicating, apologizing for your presence, or not living in the moment. Whatever it is, start living the principles below and you’ll start living the life you’ve always dreamed of. Not just because you’re surrounded by beautiful women, but because you’re developing yourself, and learning to be at your best.

So, what are these switches?

• Emotional Centeredness
• Wealth
  
• Status
  
• Purpose and Passion
  
• Size and Strength
  
• Health
  
• Social Intuition
  
• Humor
  
• Honesty and Congruence
  
• Confidence
  
• Excitement and Challenge
  
• Preselection
  
• Intelligence

Show her that you possess these traits, and she'll be attracted. Period.