I either get very young men who only want sex, and think it is easy to get from an older widow…most of these men are very very cute and I couldn’t have had them if I were their age…or, I get lots and lots of scams…guys or gangs who want to extort every last penny from me. They don’t need to score a lot, because they are talking to many women my age and if everyone gives them even a little, they will score a lot.

There are a few widowers on there who are naive and still in love with their wives, and don’t really want a relationship anyway, so I don’t even know why they are on there…just lonely I guess. I find them rude, wanting me to fill in for their wives in every way but the real way. They want companionship and sex with no strings attached. Sorry, but if that’s what I wanted, I’d rather go back to the thirty-somethings again. At least the sex would be good. If he’s not offering a full relationship, I’d rather have a shallow one with a young man, than a real one with a widower my age….late sixties/early seventies. They only want a nurse or a purse anyway.

What is your experience in senior online dating?

Well, one of the toughest things to address is acknowledging that we are now the friggin’ seniors.

For those of us who have exited long marriages or exclusive relationships of decades, it’s a rude awakening to disccover that online dating is the prime method of meeting new friends. Studies show that most relationships these days begin with intros from friends and family, meeting in a bar and online dating. Cold approaching someone in a bar is not for the weak of heart, nor is online dating.

It’s a competitive sport - you against all those other sad sacks trying to a) grab the attention of the most attractive persons on the other side of the fence and b) sustain that attention and ramp it up sufficiently that both parties feel the need to meet and confirm first impressions. It can be brutal on the ego for both sexes.

I have had success in meeting fine women online, but it takes a real effort.

You first must choose which site to focus on - free or paid. And the “free” ones often withhold some features only available to “enhanced” members.

For women, they must be on their guard against the usual plague of predators, who want nothing more than notches on their bedpost. And the most attractive women get an avalanche of attention from men - the top 10% of women get 90% of the correspondence. That can be overwhelming and to cope, women may reject men who might be quite perfect for them, but never learned how to effectively communicate online.

Senior women who are new to the business routinely enter scared, naive and shocked at the raw and unfiltered tripe that some men send out, including pictures of their privates. They just don’t get it. Still, one can’t escape the possibility that such lewdness may strike a chord with some lonely women who are just looking for one thing. Not sure if this graic approach ever works, but desperate men do desperate things. But there’s no doubt such a primitive caveman will get blocked by most women and banned by most sites - and rid the recipient women of their initial naivete.

One would be shocked at how many men flounder in introducing themselves to new women online. They don’t have a clue and blunder into serial rejection city. For men, who don’t have as many support systems, it can be crushing, which is why studies show that over 80% of men new to online dating give up after 3 months of failure to find a match.

Men need to learn what works at each stage of the encounter, since they are the ones who typically initiate the engagement. Even in 2018, women are taught to be the receptacle, not the initiator of communication, which is so 1950’s.

Women must be careful online and take precautions. They suffer from trusting too soon. I’m still surprised at how many don’t set up a new gmail account strictly for online dating correspondence, since the steps are usually 1) connect with someone online, 2) move to your personal email and 3) set a date for the first meeting. Those ladies who blithely hand out their personal email addresses with identifying details (often first and last name!), or landline numbers are just sitting ducks for the bad boys, who can do reverse searches on the phone number to get the name and address. I recommend that ladies set up a non-identifying email account and funnel men of interest to that. Women have told me horror stories about getting this wrong.

Whether you are a senior male or female, you will find many online who will judge you not on your pictures or interests or education, but strictly on your age. No matter that you’re athletic and ran or worked out for 35 years, no matter that you have nothing in common with your chronological cohort, or that your mind is agile and youthful. Ageism is alive and well with senior online daters.

So, there are many obstacles to finding THE ONE online, but if you persist, have a good idea of the person you seek, learn as much as you can from those who have succeeded in finding true love online, you, too, can beat the odds. But you must remain optimistic and adapt.

One important thing to remember - A massive study done with OK Cupid in 3 American cities concluded with a brilliant summary of online dating:

We are all 8’s, chasing after 10’s, being lusted after by 6’s.

That pretty much sums up the challenge.

Good luck, Pamela!

I am not afraid to say that I have a thing for older women so sometimes when I am logged into InYaPants(just google it if yo0u have never used it) I will do a search for all o fthe over 60 women and there are quite a few on there looking to have some fun with us younger guys. Some though, are looking for a man their own age, so if you are younger just politely ask. Same goes for the older gents out there. Just ask them if they are looking for older, younger, or the same age.

In my opinion, the older the woman, the wilder they seem to be so in regards to this specific question. YES! Seniors use Tnder and other dating apps like IYP’s to get some good ol'whoooopie!

I've never been with anyone, so I went on a dating app and matched with someone I thought was cool. To be honest, I didn't expect to hook up with him so soon, but the date went really well.

My date is more experienced, but he's really nice. Then, he showed me some ropes. I was shocked. But once I got over the initial shock, I was able to enjoy a good time and feel like I could experience more in the future.

Also, in order to discover your sexuality, you have to experiment, often with several people. Hook-up with different people on dating apps allows you to experiment with different genders, or even just different sexual preferences, without having to commit to one person.

Well, we all experience things in our own time when we feel ready. lol

I'm not a senior woman myself, but someone close to me who lost her partner 3 years ago has been trying senior dating sites. She often says she doesn't want to date again, but sometimes feels lonely, so she registered an account on SeniorMatch. The other day, she mentioned meeting a man who seemed healthy and had a great sense of humor. She said she wanted to keep talking to him and see where it goes.

I think it can be challenging for older people to find a new partner, but I'm truly happy for her and wish her the best. After all, no one wants to spend the rest of their life alone. It's heartwarming to see her taking steps to find companionship. While the process might not be easy, it's inspiring to see her open herself up to new possibilities. I hope she finds the connection she's looking for, whether it's a deep friendship or a romantic relationship. Everyone deserves a chance at happiness, regardless of age.

Beware, scammers like to hang out on dating sites. They will have a dating profile that tells you they are someone they are not, including a fake profile pic. Be especially wary if the pic is of an very attractive person who doesn’t seem to fit the profile age. Since age is one of the pieces of profile information you are typically asked to include in your application to the site, a scammer can easily pick out prime looking targets. So some advice if you are a senior and are using dating sites (nothing wrong with keeping the blood moving seniors):

1. Keep your profile information to the bare minimum. You can always add if you don’t get many likes.
2. Don’t communicate with them outside of the site message services until you feel very comfortable with the person you have been matched with. Ask for and verify their out of site connection numbers before supplying your own,
3. Avoid anyone who may say they are serving in the military based overseas. This is probably a big lie and these are your famous “romance scammers” often.
4. When you do make off site connections and feel comfortable enough to meet that person, do so ASAP (hey you’re a senior and the clock is running down).

Most people on these senior dating site are genuine, some a little too genuine (if you get my drift). Be wise, be aware, have fun, and be safe!

I thought, heh, what a good idea it would be to go on an internet dating site, so did just that about three years ago.

These are my experiences:

First of all, the ‘ONLY $18.50 a month,’ is not taken out of your credit card once a month. Oh, no. You find that a six month’s payment is swiped out the moment you give your information. And you try getting that back if things go south. OMG! Forget that. And worse, you find yourself on the old roll-over system immediately.

The photographs people provide are usually about five years old, so if you don’t mind what someone looks like you are in luck. The best part is when you keep getting little red hearts and winking emojis. That’s very exciting, and I remember rushing home every day, switching on my computer, and waiting with baited breath for all my little red hearts and blinking emojis to pop up. But, oh, dear, when you reply to these men, whose photos are five years old, you suddenly find that they have no interest whatsoever in getting to know you, all they want is a date. Obviously, they don’t want to waste a lot of time if you are not Brittney Spears.

So off I went, my safety precautions strictly in place: main one being to take your own transportation. You would also be advised to take a Mace spray, a very loud whistle and a hatchet if you really get into hot water. But a cell phone will do.

Guy No. 1:

There I was, on time, waiting patiently in the pre-arranged restaurant. Hmm! five minutes, ten minutes, fifteen minutes later Guy No. 1 strolls in, cheerfully rubbing his hands together. Personally, I am not keen on Hawaiian shirts, and this one was size XXXXXL and had brilliant flowery motifs all over it. He was definitely not as slim and handsome as his five year old photo.

I thought the rubbing of the hands together meant that an apology was on the way - NO. When he finally edged his ample bottom into the seat opposite, he took a deep breath and began his hour long monologue of how wonderful he was, and how he had been everywhere and done everything. After about ten minutes, I was nodding off. Finally, up at the cash register, he glanced in my direction and said, ‘Oh, your profile says that you have traveled”. I paid for my meal and went home.

Guy No. 2:

I am quite reasonable when it comes to most things, but tardiness is not something I suffer gladly, and Guy No. 2. was half an hour late. ‘So sorry,’ at least he was sorry. ‘I got completely lost. Went to ……. instead of …….., then thought that if I went round ……..but, when I went round …….. I realized I was on the wrong road’. Me listening, nodding indulgently, my poor stomach past the stage of rumbling.

When we got into the restaurant, the first thing Guy No. 2 said, was, ‘I have to apologize,’ hand up to his mouth, ‘I am waiting for my bottom teeth to arrive. I thought they would ….…. but ……. and now I have to………. but you don’t mind do you?’ big toothless grin.

Nice meal, I paid for my share, then we went for a stroll in the park. I decided that it couldn’t be too bad going for a two mile drive with a guy who didn’t have any teeth. He was a non-smoker, it said in his profile, and the fact that his car reeked of cigars was a - mistake, ‘I air it out every night……and only smoke the occasional cigar’. So twice around the ducks, and he said, ‘Er, would you……..would you like to come back to my place?’ What! He reluctantly took me back to my car and waved goodbye.

Guy No. 3:

If you think photos that are five years old are bad, this guy’s photo must have been of somebody else altogether. He was short, not tall; gray, not blond, and was perhaps the ugliest man I have ever strolled down the street with.

Even before we got to the restaurant, he began his monologue. I began to think Mr. Hawaiian and Mr. Toothless were quite good company compared to this guy. By the time we had our ‘Bargain Plate of Chicken Wings’ down us, me covered from nose to chin in red sauce, I knew everything there is to know about dog training. I was told about the impossible Husky pup that he had taught to Come, and the wayward Dachshund that he had got to Sit, and the spotted Great Dane that he had, single-handedly, taught to walk in a straight line…… Yawn, yawn!

I finally got my money back and decided to join a nunnery.

I remember feeling pretty intimidated getting started on Doulike. Putting myself "obtainable" once more after being widowed felt daunting. But I figured I had not anything to lose, so I dove in and created a profile explaining what I enjoyed - gardening, going to museums, touring when I could. The interface became honest.

For absolutely everyone just dipping their feet in, I'd advocate giving a few distinctive apps a try. It can make an effort to discover your groove with the communique style. But don't get discouraged - there are so many superb human beings out there within the same boat, simply seeking out that spark. Open thoughts and vulnerability allowed me to welcome new studies, and eventually, new love into my existence.

This is a great question!

For the purpose of this question, I’m going to define “seniors” as people 65 and older. Now, let me check my Tinder!

Let's see what we find.

Not much!

I saw a lot of profiles of women in their fifties, but no one in their 60s. Let's try Bumble.

Nothing!

Maybe I'm defining senior too narrowly? Let's try 60 years old and above.

… still nothing.

If I broaden it to 55 and above, there is one profile within a 100 mile radius of where I am.

So, I’m sure this doesn’t come as too much of a surprise. The demographics of dating apps skew young. There is still a fair number of profiles of women in their 50s, but they become few and far between above age 55.

There are a number of sites that specialize in older people. I joined 1 or 2 when I was new to the online scene and met a couple guys there. I call them “old lady sites,” because the guys on there were too conservative (and generally too old) for me. On one hand they wanted to go on dates to get better acquainted before having sex; on the other, they wanted to know if I could “host” (have sex at my place). For the coup de grace, the sites wanted too much money.

I finally put most of my “dating” effort into SilverDaddies ($50 per year, and a gathering place for older men and the young men who admire them), and CraigsList personals, which at the time were a cauldron of all sorts of sexuality (now defunct). I’ve since added Growlr and Grindr (which I jointly call Gr***r). Growlr is good for sending “Shouts,” or Eblasts, which are an inexpensive way to reach out to like-minded guys in your area. There are lots of younger guys out there willing to fuck old men.

The biggest risks in using Gr***r (much less so with SilverDaddies, whose byword seems to be “quality over quantity”) are guys who make appointments and don’t show up, or guys who cruise by and decide you don’t even rate a hello, a major buzz kill if you drive to a remote site. I’ve had 2 occasions, out of hundreds over the last 3 years, of guys stealing petty cash — $100 or less (one of them fucked me 3 times in novel positions, so I suppose I got my money’s worth). One guy took $150 to buy Xstasy and coke and never came back — tuition money for me in the school of the street! (Never advertise that you’re interested in drugs, even 420 and poppers, as you tend to attract a bad element.)

I don’t believe in long back-and-forths by Email, but you need some conversation to get a bead on your correspondents. If ANYTHING strikes you as off, or weird, or inconsistent, either terminate the conversation or go for a meeting at Dunkin’ Donuts.

It's better than ever that people over 60 are looking for love. With the Internet, you can meet mature singles anywhere in the world! There are many online dating sites for older people to choose from. There are so many online dating sites for seniors to choose from.

Popular dating services for the elderly range from the mainstream, such as Match and eHarmony, to niche sites such as Silver Singles, which specializes in people over 50.

eHarmony is the best dating site for people over 50 because their unique matching technology is based on scientific research. It uses more than 20 compatibility dimensions to narrow down matches -- more than any other online dating site.

You can also try Hookoo. it's a highly advanced dating site for people of all ages. There are a lot of things to love about this site and a lot of reasons for people to choose it over and over again.

Hi,

Of Course, there are several dating sites are available for seniors.

Dating at a young age is lots of fun and energy but dating at the age of ’50s, 60’s it is different. Dating is not just for young people but also for senior people. Senior dating is also a lot of fun if you do it right manner, but it will take time to get a good partner for senior people in the olden days. But Present days there are a lot of online senior dating sites are available for senior people.

Most popular and commonly used senior dating sites are

• Senior Match
• Our Time
• eHarmony
• Senior Friends Date
• Silver Singles
• Elite Singles

It’s never too late to choose the best senior dating site to get a partner. I suggest Senior Friends Date because it is a free senior online dating site.

Hope this information is useful,

Thanks.

I have three friends who met their husbands/wives on an internet dating site and are happily married. I think that if you are honest in who you are and what you are looking for, you can find a good match eventually. The guys tell me that many of the women they dated wanted sex on the first date so that is a good thing since many retired people are widows or widowers and have not had sex in a very long time.

However, I live in a very large retirement community of almost 150,000 people. There are 10 women for each guy since husbands tend to die before their wives. For men it is very easy to meet women for sex or a long term relationship. We have 2,000 clubs/activities including single clubs, so it is easy to meet people in person. It saves a lot of time weeding out the bad ones like you need to do with dating sites. Plus everyone you meet lives locally so no far traveling involved. Since this is a 55 and over, no worry about grown kids still living at home either.

For those who find themselves living among younger people, dating sites are a blessing. Otherwise meeting people in person is better if that is an option.

Question: Is senior dating doable?

Answer: You bet your sweet bippy it is! (If you are old enough to remember that line from “Laugh In”, you are probably a senior or on the verge of being one.)

I had to start Senior Dating when my wife of many years died. At first it was nearly as difficult in my 60’s as it had been in my teens and twenties. But life is not as intense at every moment when you are 65 as it is when you’re 20 or so. So, there was nervousness, but I could get past it. And when I had a date that was obviously “Let’s not go there again!”, I could call it a “learning moment” and move on.

The toughest part was that while I was obviously a Senior (Check my photo), I had some trouble at first seeing women my own age as desirable. In the Middle Ages or even later, I could have just gone after younger women. While that’s not impossible now, it has lots more drawbacks than it used to. I don’t recommend it.

Eventually I met a woman (Online) who was my age and seemed to be interesting. So we had coffee. And went kayaking. And I fell in love, big time. And realized that women my age could be attractive. Very attractive. “Turn your cell phone off, we’re busy this weekend” attractive.

Practical advice:

Be patient and pay attention to the process, as you stumble into this new version of what you used to do.

Be clear with yourself on what your standards are, and then stick to them. Don’t settle for just OK. (You may find you’re tweaking your standards as you learn more about yourself. That’s OK. You can adjust them to fit an ongoing better understanding of yourself, provided you don’t lower them out of fear.)

Try online dating. Really. “Our Time” is aimed at seniors. I’m sure there are other good sites. Online dating vastly speeds up the first, time consuming, stage of meeting people. (While keeping you at a safe distance.) Once you’ve got some viable options, you still need to do real dates and sit face-to-face with someone for the first time. I crashed and burned on about six actual dates before I met Ms Right. Your mileage may vary.

One more thing. If sex is at the heart of your question, you can have it both ways. If you and your libido are still good buddies, you can find members of the opposite sex who are glad to hear that. And if you want a quiet, friendly, intimate-but-not-sexual relationship, you can find that, too. You will, of course, have to be upfront about which way you want to go at some point.

Good luck!

Anyone who is slim build and not terribly fit/strong regardless of age/sex is advised to be sensible about where they meet people - choose a public space rather than a dimly lit Park or a out of the way pub up an alleyway, no matter how nice that pub looks in daytime, you do not want to invite trouble into your life as some people get drunk BEFORE they meet you for a “Date/social drink”.

Who & what people are looking for on dating sites varies enormously from people who want to run wild & free and find a partner who also likes Extreme Sports, to someone who might be older (or injured/born disabled) who’s looking for a more sedentary companion. Society is infested with people who practise deception so all are advied to do everything they can to establish the NATURE of whoever they meet. My advice is that you pay a lot of attention to how much the person you meet, drinks, and especially pay attention if they’re texting anyone else or taking more than one phone call during your Date. I once met up with someone who spent the entire time replying to texts, it wasn’t exactly an enjoyable “date” - years later I discovered that this individual or their supposedly Later Met partner had actually abused my home address by setting up a Life Insurance policy in their name claiming them to own/occupy MY home! (This was proven to me face to face by a member of Bank Staff to whom I shall be eternally grateful for proving to me that I wasn’t ‘going mad’, and I wasn’t wrong); What the person had been doing was sending feedback to a 3rd party that I was till in the pub, presumably the texts were going to the person I later found out had robbed her employer of £25,000 Takings before the two of them emigrated to the USA in presumably financed by the Fraud Proceeds of a Life Insurance Payout after they faked the death of one or other of them. (You’ve probably guessed that I stopped dating a long time ago!) Older people using dating sites can be more prone to this type of Fake Date scenario, and younger people might be more prone to being overcome by a drunkard who loses control of themself. I’d advise anyone to take a friend with them if they can who can sit/stand at a discreet distance on the first Date & help make sure nothing untoward happens.

Whatever you do - do NOT go to someone’s house (or to a party at their friend’s house) until you’ve met and chatted with someone several times. Make sure your phone is charged before you go out and has credit allowing you to make at least half a dozen calls. Tell your family members or close friendswhere you’re going out to and when you’ll be back. Websites will usually issue similar Good Practice advise to people regardless of their age/Dating aims.