Ha. This should be fun. I’m a 22 years old woman, currently living in university dorm but I have to go back home every weekend. EVERY WEEKEND, NO EXCEPTION.

• Must be home by 6 pm. Uni classes ending late? Impossible. Group task? Don’t need em. Friends? You have family, who need friends!
• No boyfriend. Scratch that. No male friend, male contact whatsoever.
• No part time job. But if you wanna get stuffs, use your own money. So now I do people’s homework for them, and secretly work a mobile job.
• Hijab. Is. A must. No hijab? You gon get slapped.
• No backtalk. You gon get slapped.
• No helping friends. Waste of money, waste of time. But if your bike tire goes flat during the weekdays? Ask your friends! Getting sick and need to go to the hospital? Ask your friends!
• No hobbies they don’t approve of. This, for me, means no dancing, no painting, no acting, no writing fiction.
• No music.
• When going home on weekends, even when you’re deathly sick, you have to do chores and cook. Because that’s what women are supposed to do.
• No social media.
• No cusses.
• Parents choose what clothes I may wear. My taste must mimic my mum’s taste. Yes to all the pink cullottes and flatshoes! Yay, mum, for not knowing your daughter’s taste is tomboyish gothic!
• Before the hijab rule exist, my haircut gets dictated by my mum. Yes, because princess Diana’s cut is still in style, mum.
• No concert.
• No fandom gathering.
• No non-academical competition.
• No psychiatrist/psychologist. Because depression, anxiety and suicidal thought are caused by lack of faith and laziness.
• Most importantly, never be tired. Mum and dad is even more tired than you are!

But I’ve broken all of them and get slapped. Fuck it, if me staying unslapped means losing my sanity, then I will get slapped and do whatever the fck I want.

Im 14 . My parents are like , Want it ? Okay , get it .

Examples?

Me: Dad , can i get a refurbished iPhone 7 Plus for my birthday

Dad: Uh , if i get something diffrent you will not be angry at me?

Me: No problem

September 3 , 2018 (my birthday)

Dad: You need to wait for your gift , don’t be angry …

Me:Okay , dad *sad

September 29 , 2018

Dad:Mark ,come here!

Me :Okay , wait a minute

Dad : Here you are…

Me:Thanks!

Dad : *gentle smile and laugh

Opening a box in giftwrap…

Wait … What? What the f!@k

In the box there was a yellow iPhone Xr . A phone for €700 , given to me for nothing but asking for a refurbished 7 plus .

I love my parents .

sidenote, dad if ur on quora , i love you

1. I can't cut my hair : as an hardcore Muslim , my dad doesn't allow me to cut my hair even if they are damaged
2. I can't show my hair: I have to wear a hijab every where I go .( Have long hair but don't show even a bits of them)
3. I can't choose my own major: I have to do what my parents ask me to do . They want me to become a doctor and are making me choose my career when I am only 14 ( I don't know what I want to be but I am sure I don't want to be a doctor)
4. Can't go outside my house: I just can't
5. Can't gi to the roof or balcony: what if people see me
6. Have to get A+ : else you will be asked to leave school and get married to complete stranger at age 16
7. Can't talk about periods : really?
8. Can't ask for money : not even a dollar without telling what you need
9. Can't say no : even when they are telling you to die
10. Can't close your room door while sleeping
11. Share a room with your parents and 5 siblings
12. Can't say no to social event : have to go to shitty family gatherings even when we are having exams
13. Do literally all house chores:
14. Can't wear clothes of your own choice
15. Can never listen to music
16. Can never have a pet: I wanted to have a cat and my mom thinks it's gross . She always says she won't live where there is a cat
17. Can never tell my mom she is wrong
18. Can never say no to the man your parents have chosen : that's the only way you can be a good daughter or else you will bring shame

This is what my parents do

They haven't really gotten enough education and got married early and are willing us to do what they did as if they are happy

They tell us that our marriage is their biggest responsibility ( not even our education or safety)

They are not strict

They do hit us often but it has come to the point it doesn't hurt anymore

I'm the Parent. She's 11. (Edit: She’s 13 now).

I usually think I am a crap mother. ( Still lol).

1. I allow her to lock her door (at night) but I have a key. (She doesn’t lock doors now because we basically move to a new house with no one with us.)
2. I gave her an iPad (for school) and passed down my old iPhone. But I have Parental Restrictions on wifi and screentime, 3 hours in the morning and 3 hours at night. I also asked her to give me her password for emergency purposes. Sometimes she's fine with this, sometimes not. 😂 (I add some time here because she’s studying AutoCAD with her father after she’s done with her homework.)
3. I allow her to have Snapchat and Tiktok, (EDIT: Oh, she got Instagram also, but I told her to be responsible for posting stuff) and I'm checking it with her sometimes. ( I have these apps downloaded and logged in my phone so I can at least have access and check somethings that might be red flags. I trust my kid but I don't trust others.)
4. I allow her to wear basic make-up (lip tint/lip shiner) because this adds up confidence. (she totally stopped this because it irritates her skin/lips(she said) and just starts scrubbing her lips with sugar and honey)
5. She's not that confident dressing up, so she always asks me what she should wear. But I always tell her that it's up to her and depends on where we are going. Recently she wants to wear a crop top: I found it cute, so I bought it. (Now she’s into big T-shirts/sweatshirts and jogging pants girl.)
6. I allow her to make vlogs on YouTube with our supervision. (She stopped uploading because she said she wants her life now private)
7. She has house chores to do. At first, she thought it was slavery LOL… So we explained WHY she needs to learn the basics. (She enjoy this now I don't know what happened lol)
8. I don't ask her to be at the top (academically speaking) but told her at least she understands the topic. (Still the same, but we told her at least have something for future purposes haha )
9. We already discussed the topic of sex, as schools here in UAE don't usually teach them and what are the consequences if she does it out of the fun. (She recently became an “official” little young lady and we both went to OB-GYNE, so our Doctor basically told her the basic things on how to take care of herself when it comes to “her’ private part and other things.
10. She can pick her hairstyles, but I told her to think twice about hair colors. (Now shes into long hair and bangs)
11. She can pick her gender (Edit1: I meant "sexuality".) (Edit again: What I mean here is that I will never, ever ever get mad at her for whatever sexuality she is or she will be. ) Thanks to the ones who corrected me here. English is not our first language. (Edit2: Still the same :-))
12. She can have a tattoo if she likes, I told her to make sure that she will not regret the design haha (but she hate needles) so I don’t know. (She told me she might in the future)
13. We are born again Christians (not catholic) but I didn’t force her to be one, I told just her Give TITHES, always be kind, share your blessings, love your parents and family, don’t judge and love one another, including LGBTQ” because Homosexuals aren't going to hell for being homosexuals because guess what Heterosexuals aren't going to heaven for being Heterosexuals.
14. Forcing her to SAVE money. (I am a budgeter, zero budgeter to be exact and I have 5-year budget plan ahead and Cash-ONLY spender (well except now COVID-19) and Savings are big deal for us.)

I will add more when I remember other things haha.

So feel free to judge! 🤣

Edit 1: thank you all for the upvotes!

I don’t like my parents at all, but maybe they’re perfectly reasonable and I’m just an unruly child.

Mom:

• Swearing: I can’t swear in any way, shape, or form. Words like “stupid” are off limits too, and I’m automatically getting yelled at if I say them
• School: My mom absolutely doesn’t bother to ask me how school is going, nor does she ask about my grades. She already knows that I work hard in school, so she never really asks anything about it. She would likely be disappointed if I got lower than a ‘B’, though.
• Sleeping: I have to go to bed at nine o’clock regardless of the day. I can get up at whatever time I want on the weekends, but I don’t ever get to stay up past nine.
• Religion: We aren’t religious, and I can choose my religion for myself.
• Phone/ Electronics: My mom is incredibly uptight about how long I spend on electronics. She takes my phone at random intervals for no set amount of time. Even when I’m using my laptop for schoolwork, I have to be “monitored”, because apparently I’m always ‘up to something’. She doesn’t realize that electronics are necessary in this day and age.
• Sexual Orientation: My mom hates the LGBT community. She’s told me that if I was gay, she would disown me. Yet another reason I’ll never trust my mom.
• Job/Working: She encourages me to get a job as soon as I can.
• Driving: She doesn’t let me drive pretty much anywhere. I have my permit, but I’m never allowed to drive. She says as soon as she “needs me to”, she’ll let me drive more.

My dad is much more lenient than my mom:

• Swearing: He doesn’t really care what I say. As long as I’m not being rude to anyone and no one is around, I can say whatever I choose to say.
• School: Trusts me to do well in school and doesn’t really ask about my grades.
• Sleeping: He doesn’t care what time I go to bed, as long as I go at a reasonable time and am up by nine.
• Religion: He also isn’t religious and doesn’t care what religion I want to follow.
• Phone/Electronics: My dad is really chill about my phone. He lets me use it pretty much whenever, and doesn’t care when I use my laptop for homework. Just as long as I socialize with my family a reasonable amount, he doesn’t care.
• Sexual Orientation: He doesn’t necessarily like the LGBT community, but I’ve come out to him and all he’s been is supportive.
• Driving: He lets me drive pretty frequently. When my mom isn’t around, he lets me drive to Starbucks or things like that.
• Job/Working: He doesn’t really want me to work while I’m in high school. He wants me to focus on schoolwork, and getting good grades for college.

All in all, my dad is a much more chill parent than my mom, but I’m always having to follow my mom’s rules. She’s the more dominant parent, but when she leaves on a business trip or something like that my life becomes much more relaxed.

Always,

Jackson<3

One Word. VERY.

I'm a 15 year old girl with the following rules guiding my life.

Here's how things work for me:

Yes I own a phone.

I'm not allowed to chat.

Not allowed to make calls unless it's a family member.

Boyfriends are out of boundaries.

NEVER had/have friends over.

Never visited/visits a friend.

I don't have complete privacy.

Anything less than A is an abomination and will NOT be forgiven, so I get straight A’s.

Spending more than a minute in school after dismissal will lead to painful scrutiny.

My mom will know if I tell a lie so it's out of the question.

She picks out my clothes for outings.

Still flogs…no, spanks me heavily. Like she breaks hard sticks on my body.

Where I'm from, that's not abuse, it's “training”

Spending more than 30minutes straight on my phone will eventually make me lose my phone privileges for 3months.

I do the laundry with my hands, she ignores the washing machine ALL the time.

If I fail to do my chores, she makes me do them no matter what. One time when I was about 7 or 8, I had just got back from school and left the dishes undone. My mom had packed all of them outside the house. It was raining outside, and she flogged me and asked me to go do them. Yes I did them under the rain. Yes I'm still alive lol. I came back in with a fever and a shaking body. She gave me drugs and asked me suck it up.

Also, I'm a Nigerian, so it's TOTALLY normal…

Edit: I've never had this much upvotes and this is my first answer…thanks so much for all the support. Though I'm not allowed to leave the house (I mean cross the gate), nor given most privileges, I've managed to survive thus far. Since it's Nigeria and I'm a girl, things are really difficult and sometimes I feel like quitting, but hey, I believe I can push through! Thank you again!:)

My parents divorced when I was 3. I grew up in two, wildly different environments. Well, actually 3.

Environment 1: My dad’s house…

My dad discovered that my mother, immune to his comments or behaviors, when directed at her, would actively engage him when he hurt me. Physically, mentally, emotionally, it didn’t matter. He hurt me, I told her, she talked to him.

I stopped telling her. My quality of life at my fathers improved marginally. If you could avoid his actual presence, there weren’t a lot of rules. His second wife and the mother of my step and half siblings, was not assertive and mostly structured her life to avoid my fathers wrath as well. The basic rules were as follows.

• Do not eat food outside of designated meal times and then, only eat what is put on your plate. Do not ask for seconds, do not spill or drop any food or drink. There is no more for you and you will he punished for wasting.
• Any food purchased independently and stored in a community area (such as the refrigerator) is forfeited to dad as soon as he sees it.
• Do not make noise in the house when dad is home.
• Do not be seen in the house when dad is home.
• When in public, do not complain about being left in the hot car for hours, walking along the side of the road picking up cans until your feet bleed and you curse the inventor of jelly sandals or that you are bored because you’ve been at a gun show for 7 hours. Better yet, do not speak unless specifically asked a question, carefully considering if it was rhetorical before answering.
• Be prepared, at all times, to perform any trick, worthy of being requested, on demand, at dad’s discretion. Be sure your performance conveys your enthusiasm and excitement for the opportunity to perform.
• Never ask for anything. The answer is no. Just because everyone else got Christmas presents, does not mean there is one for you. Sit quietly and look happy, don’t ruin the holiday for everyone else.

The penalty for breaking these rules was inconsistent and arbitrary. You might get bent over the waterbed and hit with a belt until his arm was tired. You might be forced to stand in the corner while he listed everything that was wrong with you. Once, we both took a ride to the emergency room, in separate ambulances. Or, maybe nothing would happen. Never get comfortable.

Environment 2: Moms house, when she was out of town for work, and I was left alone with her partner of 25 years.

• Do not touch anything that does not belong to you. The fact that you are 6 and have no belongings is irrelevant. You’re almost 10, you know better.
• Do not eat food that was not specifically purchased for you. The fact that you are 12 and there is no food available that was specifically purchased for you is irrelevant. You’re almost 16, you know better.
• Do not be good at anything.
• Do not be bad at anything.
• Do not indicate unhappiness, verbally or non verbally, with anything you are told to do.
• When told to do a task, execute it immediately and without error. Lack of understanding, required tools, physical ability, illness and preexisting commitments are not reasons to delay, fail to complete or execute poorly. You’re 9, that’s practically an adult, show some gratitude and appreciation for everything you are given.
• Do not cry.
• Do not be sad.
• Do not be happy.
• Do not be angry.
• Do not think, feel or act in any way that will be found displeasing to others.
• When being mocked, ridiculed or humiliated in private, or in front of an audience, smile and laugh. Just because you’re worthless trash, doesn’t mean you have to ruin a good time for everyone else.

The penalty for breaking these rules was being grounded, so that more time could be spent at home, doing chores I was physically incapable of doing and being held to a standard I was incapable of reaching. There were also frequent lectures about my worthlessness and general, pathetic lack of redeeming qualities or potential.

Environment 3: My mom’s house when my mom was in town.

• Pick up after yourself. Oh, you left a spot on the counter? I’ll get it for you, no worries.
• Sure you can go out with your friends, be home by midnight; or call. Do you need some money for the movie?
• Help with tasks as requested. Understand that you are labor and Mom is management. If you do not have the tools or knowledge required to execute the task, ask, and it will be happily provided.
• Don’t be an asshole. Unless you can’t help it, then make sure you sincerely apologize.

Punishments included long talks about what choices I made and which ones I should have. Brainstorming better choices to try next time and what I learned from the experience. Defining what resources I needed to be more successful moving forward, what I needed to do to acquire those resources and determining if I required assistance.

Damn, my childhood was weird. God I love my mom. Let’s all think about how different my life would have been had I told her how awful people were to me when she wasn’t around. Marinate on it. I totally f*cked that up y’all

I’m 16 and Asian (U guys know how it is to be a Asian right?) well let’s start.

1. I’m best at math at the classroom and my parents force me to study math at home to be ”prepared” when I go back to Korea.
2. My parents wants me to be trilingual so brought me to Mexico to study Spanish. (It’s not that hard to learn but still I’ve got things to do.)
3. My parents only let me to use “technology for fun” 1h and 30 min. (That’s a soooo a tiny bit of time for a game that I’m playing)
4. As much Asians do, I got to do my chores.
5. Gonna have to do at least one sport at school year.
6. My parents got me a iPhone 6 (used) like 3 years ago and It’s all worn out, but they won’t change it for me.
7. My parents have a plan to take away my laptop and phone when I enter to high school. (This is just hard to understand. Teenagers got to use technology. Thats why it exists for right?)
8. I “think” my parents ban porn. I don’t have any problem with it, but my parents saw my brother watching it and banned him use technology for 1 week.
9. As for Korean culture, every new year, we do a bow to our elders and they gives us money and saying to have a good year. And about that money they give us are some nice amount for me. But my parents wants to “save” that money for us because we are young and not enough to use our money wise. ( I wanted to change my phone with those money)
10. As not much Koreans believe in Christian, our family also doesn’t. So my parents doesn’t gives us present at Christmas :(. And also for birthday. We go out and eat for birthday but not other things specially.

Well thank you for reading this!

I think I will edit and add more stuff when I remembers something.

Edit: What???? 44 upvotes and 2.5k views? that's half of my whole view!

Edit 2: Wow 154 Upvotes!

Is this question a road to success on Quora?

Edit 3: I am too tired to thank all you guys, Thanks everyone

Boy oh boy, here’s a list of how strict she used to be…

• No talking about periods
• No talking about birth control
• No talking about my sexuality

At the mere age of 14 I thought this was the worst thing ever but now that I’m older I understand that she thought that if I had questions about sex, periods, and bras and etc it was because she thought I was going to start doing certain things even though I truly knew that I just wanted to be informed at the time.

• No lbgtq friends

My mom doesn’t agree with their lifestyle, she doesn’t talk down on the community or anything disrespectful like that. I just simply don’t feel like it’s right that she thinks it’s a bad thing. I strongly believe everyone should be able to exercise their rights and not be deprived of loving their significant other.

• Location on at all times
• No padded bras

For soccer season I wanted to wear padded sports bras (Im a goalkeeper) but she would insinuate that I just wanted to be promiscuous. I also had to keep my location on because she thought I was else where. I invited her to all of my games and she never went to any.

• No talking good about my dad

My parents divorced when I was four and I never knew why, after I found out what my dad did I finally stopped defending his actions because I truly had the bigger picture now.

• I was to always clean after my brothers despite them being old enough to do things on their own
• I was to always wash and pick up after my brothers and if I didn’t I got hit
• If my brothers wanted something I bought to eat and didn’t share I would get yelled at
• If my brothers hit me and I fought back I would get reprimanded
• If I asked my brothers to help me clean the house I would get in more trouble

My mom is super traditional and I hate it. Now that I have my daughter on the way I don’t want to raise her to become a maid instead of a daughter. I don’t believe it’s okay for parents to raise their daughters to clean up after their brothers simply because they’re the girl in the family. If I ever have a son he’ll also learn to clean up after himself.

These were the the things I didn’t like as a kid/ teen growing up. I mean, look at me now lol, had she talked to me about birth control, periods, and sex maybe I wouldn’t be a teen mom. Not justifying my pregnancy and blaming it on my mom but I just wish we had that trust growing up to the point where I could have came to her for advice once I became sexually active with my boyfriend.

Now that I’m 18 and 7 months pregnant these are the few things she’s strict on that bother me…

• Im not allowed to move out of the house unless it’s with my child’s father…. He’s going to be in San Antonio for his 68c MOS and cannot get BAH with the baby as a dependent because I’m not comfortable giving him more than 50% custody. I cant exactly move in with him at this time. Also… I’m 18 and have money, I’m a legal adult and she can’t really keep me here anymore lol
• I can’t talk back to my grandma in any way because she’s sick…. I would imagine that someone with heart problems wouldn’t constantly be offending their granddaughter on purpose to pick up a fight. All I tell my grandma is to leave me alone and my mom goes nuts because my grandma starts crying and complaining that she’s going to die one day because of me.
• My uncle sends me money to buy things for my daughter and my mother refuses to let me use it. She wants me to put things on layaway instead and slowly pay it off, which I’m okay with, but she screams at me when she tells me this despite me already agreeing with her???

My parents aren't harsh on me but, I just feel like my mom should stop for a moment and realize that she can longer make decisions for me since I have to make them for my own child. I don’t disrespect her and despite being so far along into the pregnancy I clean the house, do laundry and help baby sit my 1 year old sister. If anything, I’m always out of her way and in my room just keeping to myself. I think it just bothers her that I’m home all of the time but there’s really nothing I can do at this time. I already graduated high school and make money by selling canvas paintings, digital art, and painting on clothes. I don’t go out for fun unless it’s with my brother (he’s 16) and we usually just go to the movies with a few friends and that’s really it. If anything, I’m studying yet another language (I already know around 6) in my free time and want to get a linguistics minor.

Maybe once I move out and come home with a stable living situation my mom will stop putting so much pressure on me, who knows. I love her and I know she’s just being a mom. It’s finally starting to hit me that I’m going to be a mom too lol

I'm a 14 year old female

• I'm not allowed to have my phone upstairs, behind closed doors, or anywhere remotely private
• The only phone I've ever had is a flip phone
• I can only have sleepovers with people who my stepmom know very well
• The same thing goes with going into people's houses
• I don't really have a bedtime, but I HAVE to be upstairs in my room by 9:30
• My stepmom is CRAZY for serving sizes of food
• I’m allowed Instagram and Pinterest, and the only reason my mom hasn’t kicked me off of Quora yet is because I told her very forcefully that I wasn’t writing answers.
• No internet on the computers unless it's a school thing or the weekend
• No sugar, unless it's a special treat. Like, we use fake sugar instead of real sugar in cooking.
• I still eat a ton of sugar, haha
• Before we can get on the computers, we have to pick up dog poop from the backyard (downside of having dogs, lol)
• If it’s raining or really muddy, we don’t have to.
• If it’s raining and really cold, my mom insists on driving us to school.
• My mom’s okay with my boyfriend, but she thinks that it’s just casual dating (which it is, kind of)
• My dad is really chill most of the time.

I guess you can judge.

~ Aspen <3

I’m still a teenager so I have rules to follow, but I don’t really think they’re that strict:

• Phone and computer at anytime (I’m grounded right now though)
• Hang out with friends whenever (I also just don’t ask to hang out with anyone)
• Talk to my friends parents before I hang out with them
• I can have a boyfriend
• No being outside by myself past 9
• New pair of shoes only for a new school year (unless I pay for them)
• Cussing is allowed as long as it’s not directed towards them
• No grades below C’s
• I can listen to any music I want
• No talking to strangers (oops)
• I can have friends who are boys
• Only chore is cleaning my room (my grandpa likes cleaning the house)
• I’m allowed to wear makeup but I don’t really wear it that much
• No talking to/about my real parents
• Only piercings I’m allowed to have is ear and nose
• No talking about mental health around the little cousins
• If I go out with friends, I have to check in every once in a while
• No lying or keeping secrets, my grandma is very strict on that rule cause I break it a lot
• If you are feeling down, come talk to them. (I don’t do that for obvious reasons)
• I can close my door at night but I can’t lock it because my grandma has some of her things in my room
• No social media as of right now cause I’m grounded (oops)
• They don’t care what I wear, because I always wear pants and long sleeves
• I had full privacy over my phone
• I don’t have to do sports but I do them
• I don’t have a bed time
• I don’t have to go to college but they would like me to

That’s all I think…

You decide.

Back when I didn’t have rules, this is what I was doing:

ahhhh, i was too much man

Stay Alive ||-//

1. No dating until I’m 16 (just a couple more months).
2. I have to try my best in school. They don’t mind if I put in a lot of effort and don’t do well on tests, as long as I put in extra effort to try and make it better. I typically get A’s with a couple of high B’s mixed in.
3. I have to go to church with them. I like it though so it’s not bad.
4. I can close my doors, unlike most people who answered this question. If I lock it, they’ll assume there’s a reason for it and talk to me through the door to make sure everything’s okay.
5. I can have social media other than Quora. This is a pretty new rule because I was just allowed to get Snapchat a month ago! I could’ve gotten other stuff too but they suggest I take it slow so I don’t become obsessed with it.
6. I have to help out around the house, but that’s just kind of an expected thing since I live there.
7. I can wear things like crop tops and shorts and makeup as long as it looks tasteful and not like I’m supposed to be on a street corner.
8. Any homework or required task has to be done before I do anything optional. (I need to be reminded of this a lot)

My parents are pretty chill unless I get into some serious trouble. However, they both react differently to things, and have different rules:

1. Mom
1. Sleeping: As long as I sleep, she doesn’t care.
2. School: She’ll ask me about it a lot, and she helps me keep up with my grades. When I was younger, my siblings never got less than an “A”, but a “C” was normal for me. Though I started to care once I was in high school, she still celebrates with me if I get a decent grade; she pushes me to do better, which most parents do. It really is great and motivational.
3. Dating: I mean, it’s not really allowed in my religion; we do courtships instead, so she trusts me and knows that I understand that it isn’t really acceptable.
4. Swearing: In Arabic, she doesn’t give 2 effs. In English, however, it’s a different story. Things like dropping the F-bomb, or other naughty words will get me in trouble. But for some reason, if I call someone a “son of a b-” in Arabic, it doesn’t matter.
5. Electronics: My family is obsessed with electronics and technology; my dad is a computer technician, and he owns a business, so he’s always bringing home the latest TV, or that new Phone for us, which is pretty dope. She uses it a lot herself, so she doesn’t care if we do, either.
6. Social Media: I mean, as long as there aren’t drugs involved…
7. College: She takes it pretty seriously. My mom was a surgeon and was at the top of her medical class when she had graduated, and since I want to follow her footsteps, she wants me to do the same. Meaning, state schools and other things like that aren’t her cup of tea. They aren’t mine, either. She also doesn’t care about what we go into, or what we want to become.
8. Sexual Orientation: We’re all straight, and honestly, I’ve yet to hear of a non-straight Muslim. Our religion is set to Female-Male relationships, but we still have to accept others, nonetheless. She doesn’t care about my friends’ S.O.
9. Religion: My mom is religious, but we’re “too Americanized” (her words) to be like her, so she does make us read the Quran, and we do basic religious things, but other than that, we’re good.
10. Friends/Going out: My friends practically live at my house. They’re literally always over. My mom actually invites them more than I do. My school friends, though, are a little different. She makes me talk about the person if I already invited them over, but if I already always mention them, she doesn’t care. Likewise, I go out a lot with my homies, but I have to tell her where I am, and what time I plan on going back.
11. Clothes: I need to look modest, not like I’m going to the club (haRaAm)
12. Money: If it’s hers, I need to be reasonable, about $50 for a shirt, $50 for shoes, etc., but if I’m shopping with her and her money, it doesn’t matter; it’s hers. If it’s mine, whatever.
13. Movies: I can watch anything, but if it’s violent or too “muah muah”, I can’t watch in front of my younger siblings, the ones ages 6 and 4.
14. Cards: She gave me the privilege of getting my own card. Before, though, I would use hers to shop online, and it was okay, as long as she likes it and with her permission.
15. Driving: She talked to me about it, but I’m not allowed to drive anyone with me unless she says Y e s. If they die, it’s “my fault”.
2. Dad
1. Sleeping: If you close your eyes for more than an hour or two, you’re good. When? Whatever.
2. School: He’s very focused on school. Like my mom, he was at the top of his graduating class, and even taught at a University, so he expects us to do well. If not, he’ll help us and make sure we do good.
3. Dating: Same as mi Madre.
4. Swearing: It doesn’t matter, as long as it’s Arabic, and occasionally English.
5. Electronics: He’s literally always surrounded by them, he doesn’t care if we are, too.
6. Social Media: Oh well
7. College: You got into a decent university? Great job! Party, party more, and live life.
8. Sexual Orientation: Once again, similar to mi Madre.
9. Religion: My dad’s like us: He’s not religious, but he occasionally reads the Quran and goes to the Mosque.
10. Friends/Going out: If they’re not secretly pole dancers or whatever, go ahead. If I’m going somewhere, I need to tell him where I’m going, and with who.
11. Clothes: Modesty, but a lot more easy-going than my mom.
12. Money: Honestly, he’s too chill with it: Last week, my brother said he needed slides, so they went shopping, and came back with slides that cost literally over $80, and shirts over $100. Another time was when I asked for sneakers, and he came home with some freaking Adidas Superstars (I’m still too afraid to wear them).
13. Movies: Hulu, Netflix, you name it. Just don’t stay up all night and day watching.
14. Cards: What about ‘em?
15. Driving: It was his idea, I didn’t really think about it.

Overall, my parents are cool with us, as long as we’re cool with them, especially my dad. Now, I’m not going to raise my kids the same way; I plan to be a little stricter with education, like my dad. It plays such a big role later on, and I want them to do the best they can.

But that’s just me.

:)

I’m 18. I go to an Ivy League University. I pay bills, and rent. I’m currently fighting an addiction. I work. And my parents still, somehow, put a damn time limit on my phone. For like, EVERYTHING.

EDIT: A lot of you are confused on how I can’t get around this. I can’t buy a new phone, and i can’t frickin figure out how to get OUT of the apple family, so I still have limits from YEARS before I moved out and also: tortilla chip

EDITEDITEDIT: thank you guys so freakin much for telling me ab that hack that gets you around screen limit. Once my check comes in in getting a new phone because this made me realize “huh”, but I’m gonna use that in the meantime. Thank you Guys so much for the love on this answer lol! 🤍🤍🤍🌿

I am 24 year old India girl. I am married. I stay with my parents.

My husband and I Iive in different cities because of our jobs. Mine is near to my parents place so I live with them.

It was my friend’s bday and his girlfriend(also my friend) arranged a nice surprise for him. Asked me to join them. So three of my friends whom my parents know for at least 15+ years were with me

As it was a weekday I went to the villa she booked for the surprise at 9 pm. That place was 1 hr from my house. I went along with my sister.

After reaching there I realised that it’s going to be late and I informed my husband that I might stay here for the night. I called my parents I told them the same.

HELL BROKE LOOSE!

My mom started shouting me on the phone asking me to come back. Send location.

After an hour they were in front of the villa. Lots of drama followed asking me to come back home. I didn’t budge. I said I am married and my husband is fine with me staying tonight so I won’t come.

Guess what?? My mom stayed with us in that villa, the whole night. She silently stayed in a room and slept. Let us talk and enjoy. Didn’t interfere.

They just wanted to make sure I am safe.

Strict or over possessiveness or what? I don’t know.

I can have social media.

Although I'm majorly just on Quora and WhatsApp still, they're fine with me trying out different platforms.

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I can mostly wear what I want.

My mom, in particular has always dressed me up in shorts and clothes she felt I'd be comfortable in. Although dad often forbids me to wear ethnic wear as he feels it would make me appear more mature and taller than I already am. (I'm 5′9)

And yes, he thinks off-shoulders are meant to be worn in college, so I don't buy them. :P

But if I do, there'll not be any restrictions.

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I can have privacy. (Subject to reasonable restrictions.)

I can shut the door but not lock it from inside.

My phone has got a lock to it and is not spied on by my parents. Though sometimes mom uses to make some calls, click pictures, etc. Even if it were checked, that wouldn't be a problem.

My “stuff” is never scrutinized. Personal diaries, the books I read, etc.

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Things I can talk to them about.

Let's see. Dad and I have discussed about abortion, laws related to it in different countries, contraception, rapes, politics, etc.

With mom, about periods(on and off), relationships, etc.

Like, discussions merely aren't big of a problem.

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Religion.

Yeah, I've got to observe certain rules.

Like, no cutting of nails on Thurdays, no non vegetarian on Thurdays, Saawan, Navratri, Chatth, etc; no washing hair on Thursdays, doing the pooja(worship).

I guess these things aren't that stringent.

But at the same time I cannot stay completely alien to my culture.

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Hang outs/parties

I'm not particularly interested in them but once in while, I hang out with my friends and it's alright. But the thing they need to be aware about is where I'm going and where I'll be.

I guess that's rational.

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School trips.

Allowed.

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Grades.

I need to score good, good as in the best I can score after working as hard as I can.

I need not be a topper but I should also not be laying around and making excuses.

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Hobbies.

I can try out what I like. My mom has got me learnt Bharatanatyam, classical music and drawing and I feel it has helped me over the years.

Holistic development is important and my parents understand that.

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Cussing.

Acceptable in small amounts.

Like mom tells me if ever I need to cuss somebody in order to shut him/her up, I should. I should know good slangs to spew at the roadside hooligans if I need to.

Although they are very particular about how cussing should not become a habit as it's not good either.

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Bed time.

I'm a night owl, so when I’m not having school, I can stay up late as much as I want.

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Career choices.

They say you can do whatever you want to, but you've got to be the best in it.

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I've got cool parents, I feel. They're liberal and chilled out mostly and they trust me immensely. I'll do them proud! 😌❤

My now-husband and I were dating for some time then. But, we kept on delaying our marriage. My mom was behind me, nagging to get married soon!

Mom- When you guys will think of marriage?

Me- Right now, I don’t want to mom. There is time for that.

Mom- You are old enough to get married. I want to see you as a bride and a mother!

Me- Mom, what do you want first? I haven't yet thought of marriage, and you started nagging about a child?

Mom- Doctor told you to conceive as fast as possible. You know that, right?

(I have PCOD and ovarian cyst. So my doc once said to me that I might face problems during pregnancy)

Me- So, the goal of your life is to see your grandchildren soon. Right?

Mom- Of course! That’s my dream!

Me- Ok! I can do you a favour.

Mom- What? Do you agree to get married finally?

Me (Laughing inside) - No! It’s not necessary to get married to become a mother, right? In that way, your ultimate motto can be fulfilled! Let me call Alfred. You are such a progressive mother-in-law for him!

Mom- Ma ke sath mazak karte ho? (Are you joking with your mom?)

So, how strict my parents are? They are super cool! I can talk about everything with them, especially with my Mom.

P.S - I am a good child, I did make her first wish come true 😋

You all decide!

1. I live in a hostel, and I can go anywhere, anytime without taking permission from them. (Because they know that I never leave my hostel room unless it is for college or library)
2. They never ever check my phone, even if I am smiling while looking at the screen . (Because they know I am probably looking at some memes or gossiping with my friends)
3. I am totally allowed to have a boyfriend. (But they know, I am incapable of finding one)
4. I can spend money without giving them bills and explaination! (All of my pocket money is either spent on food or novels)
5. Whenever I go home, I have no time limits to reach back at night. (I am always at my best friend's house and plus the place where I live is best known for it's safety)
6. I am allowed to wear whatever I want to. (They know that I won't ever go out of my comfort zone)
7. I have no restrictions on using social media. (My parents follow me everywhere and also they are in my close friend's list of instagram)

I have never had any restrictions in my life and probably that's why I know how not to misuse my powers and freedom while being away from home. I am actually thankful to them for making me strong and independent! I love them the most.

Thank you.

Im a 16 year old Indian girl living overseas for context

• I can only close my door if I'm changing, in the shower or sleeping.
• I can wear whatever I want.
• I can go to parties.
• I can go out with my friends but I need to tell my parents where I’m going and who I’m going with
• I can go wherever I want by myself and my parents just tell me to be home at a certain time and don’t care about anything other than that.
• I can go to sleepovers.
• I can go on school camps and trips with friends.
• Don’t drink until you're 18 and don’t do drugs
• I have a iPhone and a Mac. My parents hardly ever check what I do on them but if Im on them too much I get yelled at.
• I have social media and I didn’t have to ask to get it.
• I have to be involved in some sort of sport.
• I play an instrument which I can’t quit
• I can’t full on swear at home but I can say shit, crap, hell, heck ect. but when I'm with my friends they don’t care.
• I can wear makeup but I hardly ever wear it
• Im encouraged to get a job
• Im allowed to choose my own career path.
• They don't really care or know about what music I listen to and what movies I watch.
• They don’t really care what time I sleep anymore.
• Im expected to complete all my homework and assignments on time and do the best I can in school.
• College is a must and it has to be a good university.
• If I ask for money my parents give it to me but I have to have a reason for why I need it. I also have a debit card.
• I can eat whatever I want.
• I can be friends with anyone I want to be, but they shouldn't be a bad influence on me
• I was expected to get my licence and learn to drive when I turn 16
• Im pretty sure I can date.
• Im not required to get an arranged marriage. If I fall in love with someone and my parents approve of them, I can marry them.
• I can talk to my parents about mental health and they will take me to a therapist or whatever if I need it.
• I usually eat dinner with my parents.
• If relatives (grandparents, cousins, aunts/uncles) call I must talk to them.
• Im expected to do chores and help my mum when she asks for it
• Im allowed to cook alone and cook whatever I want to.
• I can decorate my room however I want.
• My room has to be clean at all times.
• I can do pretty much whatever I want to my hair except dye it.
• They don’t really like tattoos but I think they're cool so I might get some.
• Don’t get stupid piercings.
• Im allowed to ditch school but I have to tell my parents in advance if I do
• Me and my parent have arguments and Im allowed to defend myself but Im not allowed to be very disrespectful.
• My parents let me experience different things. I was allowed to go skydiving at the age of 12 and jumped out a plane 14,000 feet in the air.

This is all I can think of for now :)

Although I do get a lot of freedom to do as I please, my parents have very high expectations for me and if I am to abuse the freedom I get I end up in very big trouble

Overall I don’t think my parents are too strict. I am lucky and grateful for the life I have and I love my parents more than anything.

My parents are moderately strict, I guess. Many might find this is just too much, but I guess since I am just 16, it is okay. After all, they say these for my welfare. :)

Mom is a bit more stereotypical than my dad.

a) SLEEP:

Do not allow me to sleep for more than 8 hrs a day and can go to bed only by 11.30 or 12.00 during weekdays and have to wake up by 5.30 although I have to go to school by 7.15. I am supposed to study until that time. She lets me sleep for 1 hr maximum after school, but if my dad ever finds out that I sleep after school, I am done for. (cause they think I’m wasting my time by sleeping more than 6–8 hrs a day.)

b) STUDIES:

Indian parents are very strict about studies, and so is my mom, but I don’t get very good grades cause of the syllabus. Especially high school is very hard for Indians if they take up science.

c) LEISURE TIME:

I don’t usually get leisure time during my weekdays, but I usually ignore their taunting and roam around the house and play with my sister. No television during weekdays. During weekends I am allowed to watch a movie at night with my family, but if the exams are near the not even during weekends.

d) CLOTHING:

My mom is too strict about clothes but I don’t care about that because my dad is more open-minded. She doesn't like me wearing any short clothes. She needs everything below my knee, but my dad is okay with whatever kind of clothes I wear although it should be modest. Not too revealing though and because of this, I and my mom fight a lot before any family get togethers.

This kind of dress is not allowed by my mum, but it is okay with my dad.

But these kind are not allowed by my dad too. (never wanted to wear such tho)

e) SOCIAL MEDIA:

NO. It is a big no from both, my dad and my mom. Only Whatsapp (mom’s). If I am using it, it should be in their presence. I don’t think they would be against Quora tho. I have a Pinterest account and a Tumblr account in my mom’s name. I use it only for memes.

f) FRIENDSHIP:

No going out for late-night parties(includes 8.30 pm). I mean like, duh, that is the only time we all are free after our extra classes. No boys as best friends or even more until the age of 24.

Well, that’s it, I guess. And yes, I do understand them. They just don’t want my life to get screwed up and would like me to be always happy and successful in my life. I love you both!!! I might throw tantrums, I might not like some of your decisions, I might not talk to you for a few days, but in the end, I love you both the most!!!! <3

***EDIT:

Oh my god!! This is the first time I am actually getting upvotes for my answer!! :D And I can’t believe it, 4K VIEWSSSSS!!!!! Thank you everyone!!

Lots of love,

Hridya :)

For the record, my parents aren’t crazy like what other answers described their parents, but are strict nonetheless.

I’m a teenager, btw. Just putting that out there.

• Grades, grades, grades, GRADES- Need to be A's, and if I forgot to turn an assignment in, both my mom and my teacher will hunt me down (that ain’t a good feeling…).
• “If you’re not studying or sleeping, you’re better be playing the violin.” Or else…
• Computer time is strictly monitored; if they say “return the Chromebook at 10 pm,” they mean exactly “10 pm”
• No tank tops, shorts that are like 5 inches long, or “revealing” clothing, but they let me wear sleeveless hoodies BUT ONLY INSIDE THE HOUSE (which is totally fine with me)
• No friends coming over unless my parents know them (in a good way) for like 234432 years
• Forget hanging out with friends, I’m not allowed to even meet them except in school
• No sleepovers whatsoever. Last time I had a sleepover I think was 5 years ago… I don’t remember but I haven’t had one in years
• No Iphone (this is literally what my phone looks like… it still functions, though, so I’m not complaining that much)

• No social media (they don’t know that I have Quora)
• I can’t go outside anywhere (except for maybe the backyard) without my parents coming along- to be fair, we live right next to the highway (no sidewalks), so they have to drive me
• No defenestrating my brother when he’s annoying- seriously, it’s tempting….

Like I said, not that crazy compared to other answers. At least they didn’t bring out the ultimate tiger parents’ beating object: the slipper.

(Images source: Google)

Even though what I just wrote seemed really strict, they do it because they want me to be safe (except for the last rule; that’s all on my brother :p) and are extremely overprotective. Kinda annoying, but I still love my folks for putting in effort to make me stay safe.

I love you, Mom and Dad.

~Elise

I am 13, damn I don’t even know if I have strict parents.

1. I have to sleep at 9 or 10 (fuck that I’m still awake woman just without you knowing)
2. No friends. My mom hates each and every one of my friends. She is planning to take me out of the school and sending me to a new one. (JOKES ON HER all of my friends are heading to the same school as me ;) so HA)
3. No LGBTQ+. My mom does not support me. I regret so much coming out to her. She always says this, “I wish you were straight.” (I laughed one time when she said it.) She always gives me god writings telling me if I learn something from it or if it has “changed” me.
4. I can’t walk outside. (She has a tracker on me. Literally.)
5. I can’t use my phone. She puts her own password on my phone so I can’t even get inside it. I can only use Siri and text from the front. It’s hard because whenever I wake up she would hide the messages from my friends and girlfriend from my phone. So I can’t see their messages and leave them on delivered. She doesn’t like it when I text right when I see her texting. She reads my messages, sees my photos, and gives me NO PRIVACY.
6. No diary. I had one and she read each page. She got so pissed with me.
7. I can’t use youtube. Since I watch “bad” videos. Yes because watching LARRY is bad. She took my laptop after that.
8. I can’t be “disrespectful”. She likes to get me mad. So the laptop my mom bought me (my parents are divorced) she took it away and handed it to my brother in front of my face with a smirk. That pissed me off so much. I didn’t show it and acted like I didn’t care. She didn’t like that.
9. No crying. She hates it when I cry. You may think, hate as she feels bad? No I was once balling my eyes out because she hurt me so much. She just smiled. That smile scared me. I have told her about my problems and how she just brings me down she doesn’t give two shits. She would always tell me “Fuck you” (You have no idea how many times I wanted to tell her “Mom were not in Alabama…”) She tells me she’s done with me, or has given up on me. I honestly couldn’t care less anymore.
10. Can’t listen to my dad. She doesn’t care about what my dad says. She always tells me no. Then tells me to ask my dad cause he is gonna say no. I call him. HE SAYS YES. Then she tells me he won’t ever tell you no because he wants you on his side.
11. No talking to my aunt. She doesn’t like it when I talk with my aunt. I LOVE MY AUNT. My aunt supports me so much. My mom gets jealous with her, that I can understand. Though she explains my aunt to me as if she is a slut. Which pretty much pisses me off.
12. Can’t be right. She hates being wrong. Each thing she does hurts me. I tell her. Though she acts as if she’s the victim. I tell her what she does and she denies it each time. She once told her boyfriend that she was crying because of me, and I had him give me a whole talk. I have been crying also at night, I cry each night because of her.
13. No telling people about my sexuality, even my close family or friends. She always judges me. She always calls me “lesbian” and that I embarrass her infront of her friends. (Then don’t bring me with you goddamn. Also it’s not lesbian it’s bi U-U) Telling anyone makes me an insult or disgrace. A bad thing. A sin.
14. No social media. (kiss my ass I have quora and Wattpad)
15. No dressing like a boy. (I can dress however the fuck I want)
16. No sleepovers. (this is why I have little amount of friends…. SIKE)
17. No talking back. (This is why I stay quiet acting like I don’t know what’s going on)
18. No asking for help. (Which hurts. I can’t tell my girlfriend any of my problems or friends because she sees my messages. So I’m always crying myself to sleep or crying in the shower. My mental breakdowns grow more frequently now. I have had a panic attack where I have lost my vision two times, then almost lost the ability to walk, I have starved myself before which is tough now because I’m now used to not eating so I don’t eat that much, I have almost committed suicide, I cry each night blaming myself for the mistakes I made, I cry because of my mom, I cry for losing my love one and friends, I have lost air before that I couldn’t breathe that I thought that was the end of me, I have almost reached death. I stopped breathing for a moment and saw everything black as I thought that there was going to be no more life for me. I just want to tell my girlfriend everything but I’m not allowed to and she thinks I don’t trust her as much as she trust me.)
19. Can’t tell people I’m sick (If I’m sick she will just send me to school not caring at all)
20. No swearing (do it when she’s not there)
21. Have to praise god, be the christian child (Dude your not even christian the fuck?!?!)
22. Have to give her all my passwords (bishhh I have more accounts hahaha)
23. Have to be social (no thank you)
24. Can’t say the things she does to me (too bad)
25. I can’t tell people ANYTHING (as if I tell someone my accomplishments they are going to take them from me)
26. I can’t bring people to my house (here’s a reason why BECAUSE THERE ARE CAMERAS ON THE CEILING WATCHING)
27. I can’t buy anything even if I have my own money apparently everything I buy is a “waste” (This is what online shopping is for)
28. I need straight A’s (if I have a grade lower than a 95 she hits me or grounds me)
29. I always get my phone taken away. (she has no trust in me.)
30. I can’t say anything. (I can say a joke she will take it seriously, I say another word she gets mad)
31. I can’t argue. (If I argue she blames everything on my girlfriend and group of friends saying how they are changing me.)
32. I can’t be myself. (If I be myself everything is over. I’m in a LDR and I always get told how were never going to last but she loves me and I love her. She has power to take her from me which pains me every time.)
33. I can’t trust anyone. (I don’t even trust her. She has betrayed me so many times. Each time I felt for it and I get mad at myself because of that.)
34. I need to love myself. (How can I love myself if she keeps insulting me? I do love myself, I try to. Though it always backfires.)
35. No talking. (I do it anyways. She hates it when I talk to my girlfriend. Telling me how she uses me and all that shit. Though because of her I’m still alive. I live because of her.)

So yeah my list is this. All of this is my mom, which really hurts. I have tried each time to fix the relationship between me and her but it just never works. There are times where we have a sweet daughter and mother moment. Though it always ends. She always has to be mad at me about something. Though I hope things do get better. I wish to skip a grade in highschool and do 3 years of college to leave my home more quicker. So this is how my strict parent is.

Edit:

Thanks you so much for your kind words. My dad is very different from my mom. He likes to spoil me which I don’t very much enjoy. He always wants to me to smile and give me hugs. He notices when things don’t feel right. He has forgiven me for my mistakes. He has a kind heart. I’m not allowed to live with him that’s what my mother told me. I can’t live with my aunt even if I do find her like a second mom. She has a son (my nephew UwU) and a husband. I don’t want to be a burden and interfere on her life. Though my mom is more worst on my brother than she is with me. So me and my brother have each other backs. We can always make the other laugh or smile.

I only live with my dad so it’s a bit more tense…yah know..?

1. Bedtime is at 8:45 on school nights for me. *My sister doesn’t have to be in bed till 9*
2. Bedtime is at 10 on no school nights
3. No doors locked at night
4. All homework must only be done at the dining table *only for me*
5. All electronics must be out on the dining table also *only for me again*
6. I’m suspended from my phone right now *So I can’t touch it or anything*
7. Can’t be at the park when it’s dark *There’s a school park RIGHT ACROSS the street from my house…*
8. I can’t text boys
9. I can’t be friends with boys
10. I’m not allowed to date
11. Whenever the house phone rings, the call goes to my dads phone so he gets the call too *He can keep track of incoming and outgoing calls on his phone and computer*
12. I’m not really allowed to wear spandex material shorts because I’m tall and have a body. Same with shirts *What’s so wrong with having big boobs?*
13. I’m not allowed to draw on myself
14. Can’t have friends over for a while because my attitude has apparently changed *Yeeeah, they’re probs never coming over ever again…*
15. I can’t get social media until I’m out of high school *looks like on my last day of senior year, I can finally get Snapchat, Insa etc.* *huge sigh*
16. I can’t cut my hair shorter because I “look like a boy” *Ngl, I really like my hair short. Sometimes I like bringing out the “boy” in me*
17. Every time we *sister and I* do something that my dad doesn’t like, we get punished for it
18. Which that leads my dad to lose more and more trust in me
19. Dishes must be done in the morning before we go to school *If they’re not done before we leave, we’re going to be late*
20. I can’t wear leggings because they’re too tight *MY THIGHS ARE THICK M’DOOD!*
21. I HAVE TO come straight home after school unless told something else
22. I can only take the bus home after school unless there is a change of plan that day *Meaning, I can’t have friends take me home…*
23. I can barely go anywhere fun *movies, hang with friends, etc* *He’s gonna assume I’m hanging with boys.*

I bet there’s more. It’ll hit me when it’s time. XD

Uhm, yeah..

Clarice