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Tonight the movie, "Judge," reminded me what I face and feel with regard to what to do for my son. You see I have no one for him to go to after my husband and I die. His cousins are busy and have a full life of their own. I asked one nephew if he would mind being over a trust. This wouldn't mean he would have to live with my son or take care of him daily. Only that he would assure he was taken care of by the place he was staying and finances.
My nephew said "No." Did this create hard feelings on my part? Not at all. I actually respect his directness and understand completely.
Never the less, the movie reminded me of my situation in being responsible for him. Yet, how can I if I am dead? Will he be left to fade into a group home with no relatives visiting. You see he also has no brothers or sisters. I am fighting hard to make him independent. I may have a good chance but those scales tip back and forth ever day. It will be hard to predict for sure.
There is a special needs adult in the movie. However, there are siblings to help with his needs later on in life. I hadn't planned to take this away from the movie. But you see I am having surgery tomorrow on my tongue. I have a sore that hasn't healed. I also now have another hard bump in the cheek of my mouth I forgot to tell the oral surgeon about. Do I have cancer? There is a good chance. Maybe not. I will find out from the biopsy.

Yet, after the movie and during, it just hit home more that I have no way to have a 100% gurantee where my son will end up. I don't mean to look to the negative. But with no way to assign a person to look over him, I can't accomplish this.
There are few agencies to accomplish dealing with special needs adults. What quality of life will this leave those with no relatives that will be living in their time span to check on their care or needs? This is a problem many of us parents face.
Tonight it was harder for me to deal with because of the added reality of facing issues. I am not being morbid. Fearing death is not the issue. What hurts the most is thinking of my son of being truly alone on Earth once his parents are gone. How will he adjust to living in a world with those that can't understand him as well as family often does?

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I plan to launch a home based business on 1/1/2014. This will be primarily nonprofit. AN UPDATE TO THIS IS A LLC BUSINESS WITH SOME OLD FRIENDS THAT WILL BE FOR PROFIT. UNIQUE TO THIS BUSINESS; is each person has a closet advocacy issue that success of the business will help further this cause.A newsletter titled The Equalizer and a web site will be the primary anchors of the business. The brief statement below with the working title of my business in bold print state the core mission/vision or dreams for this venture: Reframing Resources – Dis = Abilities A transformational enterprise through informational dissemination; or (Giving) Knowledge = Empowerment Reframing Resources will eradicate the disease bureaucratitis (diseased and inflamed culture riddled by negative culture where click groups run their own agenda having lost touch with the people and mission they should be serving). My skill set will enable me to accomplish many things for the Special or Exceptional Needs Community with a focus on Transition to Adulthood (information for providers, family and the person), some Eldercare resources, and allow me to promote Health Literacy. Let the tax payer see a return for tax dollar investment. Instead of how it is being wasted in the current System: Including Health Background as a Pharmacist Business Experience from Work and Master of Science in Management Teaching High School Biology for a short time via alternative certification. Volunteer Work in Non-Profits from 1987 to Present in these areas Skyline Urban Ministries – the Food Pantry and Clearinghouse 1987-1997 and on occasion in 1998. PTA in the Putnam City School District from 1999-2010 CANADIAN COUNTY YOUTH AND FAMILY SERVICES 2009-2010 – I was working with young autistic adults. Current Volunteer Pharmacist Position Mary Mahoney Memorial Health Center, March to September 3 days/wk., was one day a week until Sept 2012. I have plans to return in Jan. or Feb. The brief statement below with the title of my business shown first in the equation, state the core mission/vision or dreams for this venture: Reframing Resources – Dis = Abilities A transformational enterprise through informational dissemination; or (Giving) Knowledge = Empowerment Reframing Resources will eradicate the disease bureaucratitis (diseased and inflamed culture riddled by negative culture where click groups run their own agenda having lost touch with the people and mission they should be serving). My skill set will enable me to accomplish many things for the Special or Exceptional Needs Community with a focus on Transition to Adulthood (information for providers, family and the person), some Eldercare resources, and allow me to promote Health Literacy. Five Years of Self Enthralled Determined and Unyielding Resource Research Including Health Background as a Pharmacist Business Experience from Work and a Master of Science in Management Teaching High School Biology for a short time via alternative certification. Volunteer Work in Non-Profits from 1987 to Present in these areas >>>>>>Skyline Urban Ministries – the Food Pantry and Clearinghouse 1987-1997 and on occasion in 1998. >>>>>>PTA in the Putnam City School District from 1999-2010 >>>>>>CANADIAN COUNTY YOUTH AND FAMILY SERVICES 2009-2010 – I was working with young autistic adults. >>>>>>Current Volunteer Pharmacist Position Mary Mahoney Memorial Health Center.
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