I was an overseas student pursuing a degree in Sydney, while the girl I love stayed in China for college. I was one year ahead of hear in terms of uni progress and my English was considered *above average* among Chinese students. For the entire four years of her college, I'd done most of her assignments. Initially it was just for her English sub-major, then gradually I took over all other stuffs too. I remember some days after I finish long day my work (in a small IT company doing programming) and all my coursework I'd happily chat with her and ask whether if's anything I could help with. I don't want her to suffer from all those non-sense assignments or presentations that she had to do. So I would voluntarily pull an all-nighter very often to either write a paper or make slides and scripts for her presentation. I was living in a living room at the time and the internet in my apartment sucks. So I always pack up my stuff and go to my uni to spend the night doing her assignments there. I just felt like as long as I can make her happy, then all my fatigue and sacrifices are worth it..........Until one day after I woke up from one of those nights I checked her blog status update, it reads like"WOW I HAD A FANTASTIC NIGHT I'M SO HAPPY THANKS DUDE"..... I was really upset and felt like shit...but I don't want to appear to be over-sensitive. So I kept the disappointments to myself.
Then this kind of shit happens again, again...and again...Until one day I felt like the only reason she keeps talking to me is because I can do her assignments...and those other guys who also like her can only pay someone else to do it.....(normally with a worse quality).... I felt like shit, but I still did her assignments when she needed....what a douche...
To cut stories short, I returned to China after I finished my degree, even though I was granted with an Australian residency. I told her I don't care where stay as long as I'm with her. And I finished her synthesis...then she graduated...and would not see me or pick up my phone calls....and blocked me in WeChat(it's kinda like whatsapp)....
A few days ago I was talking to one of my friends who also knows her, and while I was playing his phone I saw the photos she posted on her WeChat....she was holding another guys's hand......
Honestly I'm still not over it. Deep down inside, I know she never had interests in me.....I just kept believing a miracle would happen and she would be moved somehow....just to get by days.....I kinda had a very-low self esteem...
If I've learned anything....then that is, love is predicated on ATTRACTION....effort is important...but you have to be a better YOU first...get rich, get ripped, get a swag....and relationships would be so much easier
My first post on Quora, a thumb up for encouragement? ^_^