Self Control

It’s the hardest. It operates on many levels. It can totally and completely change your life.

Self control is one of the hardest skills to learn because it requires many things to have, and is executed in many ways:

• Self knowledge - “Know thyself” is an ancient adage. It’s true, and it’s difficult. Observe yourself. It requires sensitivity and patience with yourself. It requires experimenting.
• The habit of discipline - Self control isn’t something you can do out of nowhere. Self control is a habit that must be cultivated. One of the biggest problems people have in their life is wanting to make a change but never having developed the habit of discipline that will enable them to make that change. Start small and grow discipline over time.
• Acting despite emotions - Are you afraid? Are you confused? Are you tired? Do you not like the people who you’re acting with? If you have a goal and any of these emotions are a roadblock between you and reaching it then it doesn’t matter, you must act.
• Not acting despite emotions - Less mentioned but perhaps more important is the control to refrain from acting despite having powerful emotions. Do you want to buy a brand new leather jacket BUT have a goal of saving money to pull the trigger on funding a creative project? That takes self control, and only the best have it.
• Patience - More than almost anything else self control requires patience. I define patience as “the ability to endure,” which means while something is happening you want to leave, or get away from, you stay anyway. Patience with yourself, patience with the world, patience with others, patience to realize your dreams. It does NOT mean not acting, it means acting with control, and with intention.

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• Ability to Listen : When I talk to people it's clear to me at least who is listening and who is not. Undistracted listening builds relationships, makes connections strong, gives opportunity to understand different perspectives. A great man once said, "To listen is an effort, and just to hear is no merit. A duck hears also". So be a listener.
• Keeping in touch : Everyone has enough things on their day to day schedules to keep themselves busy. In this cycle people somehow can't catch up enough with their loved ones, friends or some important business contacts. It's important to share and get acknowledged of your little successes in life. The contacts you make also helps to validate your life.
• Accepting criticism : It's human nature to get depressed when you are criticized. While it requires a great deal of self-confidence to be yourself and not let someone else drive your motivation. It's even more important to absorb criticism and introspect to see if it helps you in anyway.
• Loving self : We all do it anyway but how many of us analyze to crosscheck if we are better than yesterday? Am I getting better every day? If so, where am I getting better? If not, what should I do? If you have answer to why you think you're a better version now, you are doing a great job indeed. You're your greatest asset. Building a quality lifestyle is not a overnight thing. It takes every day of yours to build your life, career and principles. Don't hesitate to invest in yourself to get a better version of you. It pays off every single day.

The legal profession is a labyrinthine world where the mastery of certain skills not only separates the wheat from the chaff but can also dictate the course of entire careers. One of the hardest yet most indispensable skills to cultivate is the art of persuasive writing. This goes beyond mere grammar and syntax; it involves weaving narratives that compel judges and juries alike. A seasoned attorney knows how to craft a brief that is not just informative but also evocative, using rhetorical devices like ethos, pathos, and logos to resonate with the audience. For instance, consider a case where emotional appeal can sway a jury's opinion—this is where storytelling becomes pivotal.

Equally challenging is negotiation, an essential skill that transcends the courtroom. Negotiation is not merely about reaching a consensus; it's a strategic dance where one must gauge the opponent's weaknesses and leverage them while maintaining a façade of cooperation. The most skilled negotiators often employ techniques derived from psychology, like anchoring or the mirroring effect, to create rapport and influence outcomes in their favor. Here’s a nugget of wisdom: the best negotiators often listen more than they speak. This seemingly simple act can uncover hidden interests that could lead to a more favorable settlement.

Another formidable skill is legal research, which is often underestimated. In an era dominated by digital information, the ability to sift through vast databases and synthesize relevant case law is crucial. A proficient lawyer can navigate platforms like Westlaw or LexisNexis with the finesse of a seasoned navigator charting unknown waters. What many don’t realize is that the process of legal research is akin to detective work; it demands creativity and resourcefulness to connect dots that are not immediately apparent. The ability to discern which cases are precedential and how to distinguish them from mere obiter dicta can be the difference between winning and losing a case.

Moreover, emotional intelligence (EQ) is increasingly recognized as a vital skill in law. While traditional metrics of intelligence quotient (IQ) measure cognitive abilities, EQ focuses on one’s ability to understand and manage emotions—both one’s own and those of others. This can dramatically affect client relations, team dynamics, and courtroom performances. A lawyer with high EQ can navigate high-stakes conversations with empathy, which not only builds trust but also fosters an environment conducive to effective collaboration.

Lastly, adaptability has emerged as a cornerstone skill in the modern legal landscape. The law is not static; it evolves with societal changes, technological advancements, and shifts in public policy. A successful attorney must be agile enough to pivot strategies or embrace new areas of law, such as cybersecurity or intellectual property in the digital age. This adaptability extends to understanding and utilizing emerging technologies like artificial intelligence in legal practice, which can streamline processes and enhance decision-making.

By mastering these hard and useful skills, attorneys not only enhance their own careers but also contribute to a more robust legal system that serves justice with both precision and compassion.

To walk away from gossip.

The most important thing in life to me is relationships.

And the most important thing about building and keeping good relationships is trust.

And one of the easiest way to lose trust, is to gossip about people behind their back.

This was very hard to do, because this meant:

• I might miss out on important conversations
• I would not be part of 'the group' where influential people were hanging out
• I had a lot of awkward conversations ("hey sorry to interrupt but I really don't need to know that, could we talk about something else?")

To this day my policy is to talk to people face to face, and then saying the exact same thing when they are not around.

But press on and you will get your priceless reward.

Trust.

TO SUBTRACT

To attain knowledge add things everyday. To attain wisdom subtract things everday.- Lao-tzu

Know this guy? Probably not.

This is Michael Kahn.

In the history of Oscars the most respected (but not exactly celebrated) film editor, with 8 nominations and 3 wins- more than anyone in the business. His is not a household name but his works most certainly are, which includes Saving Private Ryan, Raiders of the Lost Arc, Schindler’s List, and Lincoln. Over 37 years he has edited almost all of Steven Spielberg’s movies. Yet only a handful of people knows Kahn’s name and maybe that is why film editing is called “invisible art”.

Why tell you all this you ask?

Because just like film edit, the most underrated and non practiced art we practice in our lives is that of editing.

Editing our wardrobes of the clothes we don’t wear.

Editing our wallet and getting rid of all the clutter.

Editing our social circle off people who adds no value and replacing them with people who are more thoughtful and caring.

Editing our knowledge and wisdom via books and writing.

Editing our thoughts with mindfulness of meditation.

Editing our body by cutting off all the extra weight we have in it.

Editing our busy work schedule to make time for family and friends.

And so on.

If we do not edit, we end up doing jobs that we hate, to buy stuff that we don’t need, with the money we don’t have, to impress the people we don’t like.

Less is more

Now go, EDIT.

"Doing it now"
I feel doing things now is one of tough skills to learn.

We generally makes plan and postpone it for next hour, next day or next month whether it is studying, learning new things or anything else.

If we see our past, whichever things we have completed on that time effect our present right now.

When I was in 12th grade , I thought , in Engineering I'll learn bike driving
In Engineering , I postponed it for when I get a job.
When I got a job, then after switching the job.
The day never came.

Now I learned it ( 2 years back )
Benefit :
I can go anywhere by myself. (otherwise I have to arrange for bike and then a friend as driver to go anywhere :) ).

The above is just one example, I am sure there are many others.

I had to learn to be patient. Sometimes I didn't think things were happening fast enough. That frustrated me. Frustration is a negative feeling. To remain positive it was imperative to me that I not get upset.

I learned to get a grip on patience by watching my children, and I mean seriously watching them, when they were doing their daily chores. When I watched them I became “crazy impatient” but I didn't react. Through the repetition of not reacting, I found that I'd learned to control how I handled that impatient feeling.

Did I totally eliminate the frustration? No, but the incidents became less and less frequent.

Something that I find to be really hard for people to take advantage of is to have zero expectations.

Having zero expectations is a statement I make that is often misunderstood. For me the reason why I have zero expectations is because I have enormous empathy. At the end of the day, I recognize that people have this worldview of constant expectation. It’s how they’re wired. Everyone thinks they’re just entitled to help. That’s why I wrote my book Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook. It’s about providing value first, and not always asking for something in return. And if you’re really coming from a place of empathy, you simply want to help. I do things everyday that don’t have an ROI. I don’t expect or want anything in return. I just think doing the right thing is always the right thing.

The problem is, so many people are worried about what other people think of them and so therefore they are constantly let down. But when people let me down and it happens every single day, my brain actually defaults into empathy. I start trying to reverse engineer and understand. I’m asking what’s going on at home? Are they okay? What happened that made them have to let me down? What happened that made them not deliver, not call back, not react, not come through, not support?

There is no reason for me to get upset over something I can’t control. Being upset about somebody else’s actions only slows me down.

I don’t find any practicality in having expectations. People often ask me. “Do you have expectations of employees? Like what about employees?” and the answer is of course, I have expectations of employees. That’s a slightly different situation because they are on my payroll but I approach it from a similar POV. The great thing about being an employer is your actions can map to your expectations.

If somebody lets me down, don’t take it personally. You have to adjust and make a business decision as to whether or not you want that person on your team or if you want to mentor them up for the future. I’m stunned by how many people run businesses and expect others to care about their business as much as they do. The only way I expect somebody to care about my business as much as I do is if they have equal equity in that business. And even then I don’t expect them to care as much as I do!

It’s not about being disappointed that people can’t deliver. It’s not a cynical and negative point of view. I actually think it’s a very optimistic point of view. It speaks to my internal confidence and internal gratitude and empathy. Having zero expectations is a cognitive trait that has lead me to become more independent. I don’t need anything from anyone else. I’m not expecting anything. It’s just the way it’s always been. As I get into my early forties I can clearly see it’s been one of the reasons that I’ve been successful in life, let alone business. When you have zero expectations, everything else is just a pleasant surprise.

In other words I’ve actually seen it as a strength. It’s a strength that I don’t need anything from anybody. I find that the people that are most disappointed in life are coming from a place of weakness where they need others to deliver for them to maintain their happiness or status quo. By me not needing anything from anybody, I’m way ahead of the game.

Expectations make you vulnerable.

I do it by not needing anything. I do it by being humble, it’s not because I have stuff but because I’m a good businessman. It’s by recognizing that when I was making $35,000 a year I would have been just fine.

I don’t need anything from anyone else. Ultimately it’s about understanding happiness and understanding life. It’s not being held to materialistic things. It’s about not giving a s**t about what other people think of you. It’s about being empathetic to what is actually going on. Expectation is the enemy. It’s just not how I roll.

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• Swimming

Swimming is one of the most pivotal skills that one has to learn.

Because you never knew something bad might happen one day & one has to pay heavy price if you are not prepared for it.

At least if you could not save others in water, you can save yourself in such situations.

All it takes is a few days of dedicated efforts. It may be hard at the beginning.

But, one has to be patient and stay focused to master the skill.

• Time Management

Time. One of the most significant things in life that most of us turn a blind eye to.

When you have ample time, you don't realize its value.

Once it's lost, it's too late to feel sad for.

If you invest your time properly, it will make you closer to things that you have ever dreamt of.

So, when life gives you time, please don't waste it. Invest it properly.

Because Time ∝ Money !!

• Saving Money

In life, money cannot buy happiness.

But, it can buy things that brings you happiness.

If you keep your money idle, eventually you will be left over with only leftovers.

Money has the property of moving from one hand to other.

One has to plan properly & invest on things that gives you returns after years.

And keep some part of your savings (10%-15%) to an emergency fund in one of your bank accounts.

Don't touch it unless there is an emergency or some critical need. Never !

Because when you run out of money, those savings only will help you save lives.

These skills seems to be easy.

But you will know why they are hardest, only when you start practicing them.

So, better start practicing early. Cheers !! :)

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I’m going to speak from personal experience here:

• Learning How to Learn
  Everyone doesn’t learn the same.
  Some people learn by video. Some by reading a book.
  I learn best when I see how it’s done, and then I physically do it WHILE someone is looking over me - correcting me as I go.
  Just like in an apprenticeship.
  I have to learn Chinese (Mandarin) this year. This should be interesting.
• Consistency, Patience, & Effort
  Whether for professional or personal reasons, this is the greatest gift you can give an individual - and yourself.
• How to Drive a Stick Shift
  I don’t care what anyone says, driving stick shift is hard.
  I keep going from 3rd gear into 5th. How the hell do I keep doing that?!
  Everyone always says, “Don’t you hear the difference”?
  No super sonic, hearing person - I don’t.
• Self Control
  I'm going back and forth from writing this answer and playing Mahjong.
  And times, I have less discipline than a Victoria’s Secret model trapped in a Dunkin Donuts.
• Writing Sales Copy
  It’s not the hardest thing to do, but it will take time.
  A few suggestions I can make regarding that - practice rewriting copy (it’s actually a pretty fun exercise), hire a copy editor to look at your copy (and learn from your mistakes), practice writing sales copy for items you post on eBay, Craigslist, or even your garage sale.
• Creating a Sales Funnel
  Plainly, it’s simple(ish) once you know what you’re doing.
• Giving without Expectation
  I just gave you all this advice on how to fix your problem and 2 weeks later you’re STILL complaining about it ?
  Whether they say thank you, hug you, put up a statue in your honour, or follow the advice they asked for - throw any expectations out the window.
• Self Awareness
  That whole statement of “Know Thyself” is true. Once you do, you’ll be able to avoid certain “trip wires” that will lead you down rabbit holes, and more.
• Keeping Your Word
  Besides me changing my eating habits & working consistently, if I say I’m going to do something - it gets done.
  And with this in mind, it makes me rethink what I say ‘yes’ to.
• Stoicism
  Read the book, “The Obstacle is the Way” by Ryan Holiday. It’s a skill that will be useful THROUGH OUT your life, but it takes daily training and a lot of self awareness, patience, consistency, and effort. But man, oh, man…once you embrace it - you’re unstoppable.

Keeping Quiet :-

You should stay quiet and listen more to what the others say. Gain there experience and build yourself a better person than what you were yesterday. Keeping quiet also help you stay out of pointless conflicts.

Anger Management :-

Yeah, this movie is too good. But to be on a serious note, having control on your anger is very tough. And if you can have this control, you are the jack of all trades.

Admit Your Mistakes :-

Well, this is the toughest. Learn from your mistakes and most importantly admit them in front of all.

Accept Failure :-

You CAN do this. Life doesn't leave anyone a virgin. It fucks us all. So what you failed, be proud that you tried and try again and succeed.

Mastery of the mind.

The challenge is that we are the product of our past experience and all of our thinking is the result of this.

However the past does not equal the future.

To consciously direct your thinking so that you can think what you want so you can do what you want to do. This is the challenge.

When you can do this Life will follow your plan.

It all begins with your BREATH.......

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When it comes to skills, the hardest ones to learn are often the most rewarding and valuable. Here are a few skills that are challenging but incredibly useful:

1. Communication: Effective communication is vital in all aspects of life. It involves not just speaking, but also listening actively, expressing ideas clearly, and understanding others' perspectives. Mastering communication takes practice, patience, and a willingness to adapt and learn.
2. Emotional Intelligence: Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognize, understand, and manage your own emotions and those of others. It involves empathy, self-awareness, and the capacity to navigate social situations with sensitivity. Developing emotional intelligence requires self-reflection, empathy training, and ongoing practice.
3. Critical Thinking: Critical thinking is the ability to objectively analyze information, evaluate arguments, and make reasoned judgments. It involves questioning assumptions, considering different perspectives, and arriving at logical conclusions. Developing critical thinking skills requires practice in problem-solving, seeking out diverse viewpoints, and honing analytical abilities.
4. Resilience: Resilience is the ability to bounce back from setbacks, adapt to change, and overcome challenges. It involves maintaining a positive mindset, managing stress, and finding creative solutions to problems. Building resilience requires self-care, fostering a growth mindset, and developing coping strategies.
5. Time Management: Time management is the skill of effectively organizing and prioritizing tasks to make the most of your time. It involves setting goals, planning, prioritizing, and avoiding distractions. Learning time management requires self-discipline, setting boundaries, and developing strategies for productivity.
6. Adaptability: In a fast-paced and ever-changing world, adaptability is crucial. It is the ability to adjust to new situations, embrace change, and learn new skills quickly. Developing adaptability involves being open-minded, embracing challenges, and seeking out opportunities for growth.
7. Leadership: Leadership skills are valuable in various settings, whether in the workplace, community, or personal relationships. Effective leadership entails inspiring and motivating others, delegating tasks, and guiding a team towards a common goal. Developing leadership skills involves learning from mentors, seeking feedback, and taking on leadership roles.

These skills are incredibly valuable, whether in building strong relationships, excelling professionally, or navigating various aspects of life. They serve as pillars of personal growth and pave the way for success and fulfillment in multiple areas.

Not letting bad incidents affect your life severely - Setbacks are natural and it is not possible to have a problem-free life. However, our reaction to the adversities we face can be well in our control. If a person understands that the issues we face are just a part of life and not something which seriously affects our mental and emotional health, things become easy.

Communication, to convey your point of view rather than blurting out your opinions - Effective communication is not about what you express; it’s what the other person understands. Speaking with the other’s perspective in mind not only molds you into a better talker but also avoids misunderstandings.

Setting effective deadlines and meeting them continuously - Consistency is the most widely accepted ingredient to success. It sounds easy, but it is also the most lacking trait in individuals. If a person is consistent enough and keeps taking small steps in the right direction, success becomes inevitable.

Keeping expectations to a minimum - Expectations are the number one reason why we get effected soo much by the people around us. No one can be expectations-free but circumscribing its intensity and the effect it has on us is extremely important. Being able to implement this successfully is likely to save you from a lot of disappointments that might come your way in the future.

Being adaptable and flexible - The world around us is changing at such a fast pace that adaptability to handle life changes is among the most sought after skills for a better life. This is not only limited to our careers but with trends, lifestyle innovations or simply everything around us.

To forgive and forget.

It so happens that our loved ones or near and dear ones tend to over react, hurt us in some way or the other, could be intentional or not.

What do we do?

We break down, we cry, we hurt ourselves. We hurt them back.

Sometimes losing is winning.

There's no point holding grudges, hurting yourself, falling into trauma and depression.

If only we all could forgive and forget that the person has hurt us. That way we will be at peace, eventually the person may or may not understand he did a mistake, but you'll be the winner because you wouldn't have lost yourself to the battle.

You're at peace. And that's what that matters.

Cheers :)

Find what is BS and what is real information

In both personal and professional life, the most important skill to rise is the ability to cut through BS at an early stage of any discussion. Most of us are carried away during the discussions due to many reason like respect for others, not sure about the topic of discussion, too afraid to speak, etc.

If you want to be successful, you'll need to have the skills through which you can differentiate information from BS and align others to your views to get the right information. This will save you lot of time and efforts.

Just to give you an example, If you like to watch Arnab Gowswami's Newshour debates, then I must say initial 5 min is all what is about the show, rest is just repeated conversation.

So, spend only first 5-10 min on the debate and you're good to go. Stop wasting your precious 40-45 minutes.

The hardest and the most most useful skills are usually the obvious ones.

We all know at the core that we should be good at these, but a sense of false security stops us from learning the same.

Here are 10 skills that will change the Life of a person forever.

1. Public speaking 🗣️
2. Listening 🎧
3. Writing 🖊️
4. Negotiation 🔄
5. Meditation 🧘‍♂️
6. Time management ⌚
7. Financial management 🏦
8. Critical thinking 🤔
9. Asking for money 💲
10. Saying No 🙅‍♂️

In today's age new opportunity is born every second. But what if we are not skilled enough to grab the same.

While there are theories that it takes 10000 hours to perfect a skill, it only takes an hour to get started on learning a new skill.

Right from Bill Gates to Barack Obama to Elon Musk, everyone reached their position because they started to push themselves to upgrade their skill and then utilize those skills to grab every possible opportunity.

Upskill your self.

Thinking about the future -

When I was in school , I wanted to get admission in good college .

When I was in college , I wanted to get a decent job at campus placement .

When I got the job , I started thinking about my salary package .

This time I have a job and I'm getting enough salary as well but anyhow I'm still worried about my future .

And I believe , many people out there think the same way.

Now the problem with this situation is we waste our most of the time in thinking about the future however we don't do anything to make it better , all we do is just think , think and think .

In my life- learning Japanese and German. Foreign language learning is never an easy undertaking as an adult. But it’s richly rewarding. And many other skills are developed from learning it like better listening, ability to unlearn and relearn, better understanding of English, better memory recall, and access to more diverse social and informational networks.

The other one is an emotional intelligence skill- that of not pushing your opinions on other people, but listening also. Isaac Newton (apparently) had a great quote “Tact is the knack of making a point, without making an enemy”. It’s a quote that’s challenging to consistently live up to.

The art of accepting!

Yes, the art of accepting oneself or accepting your current situation to me is one of the most difficult but useful skill to learn. If for example, you are in a pretty much stressed out situation, the most common human nature in this scenario would be just to sit idle and curse the situation. But if you try to make your mind accept it, then no matter what your situation is, believe me, your mind will make itself ready for working towards finding a solution to it. I know it’s better said than done. But try to make baby steps and you will definitely see some difference in the long run.

1. Delayed gratification - Delaying your instincts that run wild by overpowering it with self discipline and will power to make sure what you want to do instantly really matters after a delay
2. Persistence - It is easy to give up, but giving it some more shots is the secret to succeed in anything, especially programming. Many give up if they can’t bring out the desired solution in the first attempt, but your solution is just in those next 5 minutes of effort that you put
3. Open mind - It is very easy to be prejudiced. All of us look at things with a colored lens. However, if we are open minded, the world will look completely different without those darker shades of your bias. It will be just beautiful.
4. Focusing on one thing - It is easy to get distracted and juggle with multiple things, multi tasking. However, if you focus on only one thing, you are bound to succeed at it for sure. Less is always good!
5. Controlling your temper - You can be either like a water bottle or coke when you are shaken up. The former looks beautiful and pleasing while the later makes a mess every time it is shaken. Be pristine as the water inside the bottle!
6. Practice - It is said that if you can practice something for 10,000 hours, you develop mastery over that. It is really difficult to get it going for that long, but geniuses are a bit tough with themselves!
7. Financial discipline - Trust me, it is very tough. You plan a lot, but execute in a poor manner.
8. Selflessness - Most of us are selfish, but if you are selfless, the whole world is open before you ripe with opportunities
9. Charity - Very difficult to preach, but difficult to practice
10. Decision making - All of us are locked at crossroads while taking important decisions.

1. To learn from the mistakes.

One history incident i remember is of Mr. Muhammad Bin Tuglaq. He was Sultan of Delhi from 1325 to 1351 AD.

In his time he did many good reforms, but one decision that he took made him ill famous in all history.

He shifted his capital from Delhi to Devagiri,Maharashtra and renamed it as Daulatabad.

This was very strategic decision as there were few good motives behind it. He would have saved his capital from Mongol raids and got control of rich fertile lands of Deccan and access the busy ports on the Gujarat and the Coromandel coast.

Now the mistake that he did was rather than moving his court, he ordered all the population to move along with him. The journey was long and difficult and many died.

However, no sooner had the Sultan reached Daulatabad when trouble broke out in Bengal as well as on the northwestern frontier. Tughlaq realized that while his new capital was distant enough to be safe from Mongol invasions, it was also too far away to protect northern India. So, the mercurial ruler re-ordered his people to return to Delhi. Thousands died in the punishing 1500 km return march to Delhi. While Tughlaq did try to make amends by abolishing multiple taxes and organising relief measures, the financial loss was immense and the consequences for Delhi grave.

This was the story of Tughlaq, but, I think nowadays everyone is one Tughlaq.

Just give it a thought. Everyday you would want to do something like studying yet you would end up watching the complete seasons on Netflix. You know that this binge watching will not help you and you have made the mistake, but again tomorrow you will do the same.

This leads me to give the second point.

Breaking the Habit and making new one.

Now there are many such skills but I am lazy not to write it. So goodbye. After binge watching I gotta sleep too.

P.S. Third one Stop Being Lazy.

SPEAKING POLITELY

Yes.

I think the hardest and most useful skills to learn is shouting (Or, when not to shout)

People have forgotten the fact that we have been given the gift of talking aloud for the following reasons:

1. If you want to be heard by people standing away.

You speak when you are NEAR, and you shout when you are FAR.

NEAR=SOFT

FAR=LOUD

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2. If you want to be heard by people who are hard of hearing.

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And NOT for the following reasons:

1. To be heard by more people.

2. To be more right. (I mean, frankly, shouting the wrong thing louder and louder, when I am standing within spitting distance from you doesn't make it right.)

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I prefer being spit on than being shouted upon pointlessly! I will wipe it with a tissue and move on!

I have never seen a single argument that did not turn into a fight where one of the participants starts shouting!

And, I develop a sense of respect for a person when they don't shout, talk or laugh loudly.

Once you develop this habit, you experience a lot of peace and ironically, people start listening to what you say, and that is a great confidence boost.

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Acknowledging your feelings.

One of the things we most struggle with is learning about ourselves. We tend to ignore or put away how we feel. Understanding and acknowledging how we feel helps us to clear our head and take the right decisions. You can understand how you react to situations and you can learn how to stay away from those that make you miserable. You can truly appreciate those moments that make you feel alive. You can learn how to trust your instincts and not blame everything that happens to fate. You can work better, play better, love better and of course live better.

It's one of the hardest skills I believe but the best if mastered.