I was in a similar situation about seven years ago when I wrote JEE. And JEE is not worth suicide. Trust me.

I know exactly how you feel. Let me give a bit of a background first. In the eyes of my family, I was a promising young kid by the time I completed my 10th standard. I have an elder brother who had set the bar really high for me. During his first JEE/AIEEE attempt, he had gotten JEE rank ~2200 and AIEEE state rank around 34 in Tamil Nadu. This meant he was in line to get at least a potential engineering seat in IITM and an assured best seat in NITT. And he did this all without any coaching. All through his own hardwork. He truly was brilliant.
But based on some people's advice, he passed over the JEE option and took the NITT option so that he can attempt JEE again. By the time I completed 10th standard, he had completed his JEE 2nd attempt and this time with some coaching had gotten a rank of ~1100 in JEE. Everyone was mightily impressed.
My parents were naturally overjoyed, and realized that with the proper coaching I could do even better, considering I'd just aced my board exams, like my brother did. So they sent me off to a FIITJEE program for two years.

For two years I tried to study, but by the end of the first year I had lost interest in studies. It was too much pressure for me. The kind of person that I am, I can never sweat it out for something; I easily lose interest, and damn I could get really over-confident and started procrastinating. So what did I do? I spent the whole of my 12th class reading fiction. I completed the whole of Sidney Sheldon novels, Star Wars novels and so much more. I was so obsessed with Harry Potter that when the seventh book released, my parents wouldn't buy me one and I ended up reading the whole book off a Sony MP3 player. You may not remember them but they used to be these USB drive-like things with just two lines of display, capable of displaying just around ten words a time. And I read 700 pages worth of stuff from that device in just two days. That's how much obsessed I was with novels.

Naturally, by the time the entrance exam came I wasn't prepared a bit. The seriousness of it hit me just a couple weeks before the board exams. For full two months I tried to study all the stuff I should have for a whole year. But it wasn't enough. I wrote the entrance exams (JEE, AIEEE and an entrance exam to a private university in my state) without much preparation.
The first results to come out were the JEE results. I didn't even clear the Extended Merit List. My parents were devastated. Then came the AIEEE results. My state rank was somewhere in the 500s. This completely took things over the top for both me and my parents.

You see, until now the severity of my situation hadn't hit me. The school that my FIITJEE program was connected to was a CBSE school. And CBSE scores meant shit if you're trying to get an admission to a state university in Tamil Nadu. This meant IITJEE and AIEEE had been my only "good" options and I had never realized that. And I had just bombed it.
I was devastated. My future was ruined completely. My parents were extremely furious with me to the point of verbal abuse. Everyday for the next month before my parents left for work they used to just vent their anger on me. It was torture. In a way I couldn't blame them. They had spent close to Rs. 2,00,000/- over me over the past two years and I had done nothing to justify spending so much money and resources on me. I was the quintessential family disappontment.

This all hurt me so much mentally. I was feeling so guilty of what I've done to my parents. It started to really hurt. I started doing some, let's say, health-affecting things to myself. It was a great diversion from the mental pain I was going through. I couldn't stand listening to my parents anymore. I just wanted it all to stop. I was almost gonna consider suicide, and if not for my brother I would have. But by then my parents came to know of my condition and they stopped with their vexations.

A couple more agonizing weeks passed by and I got the results from the entrance exam for the private university and the results were fortunately and surprisingly very good. My parents by then had gotten over the initial shock and had realized that this being my only option, I have to join there despite it being really really expensive. So, in the end I ended up joining this university. My parents JEE dreams were over.

And now, seven years have passed and I haven't looked back since then. But you know what I am doing now? I work for an exciting startup at the very center of Silicon Valley. It's damn great! Computer Science was the only thing I showed any interest in during my whole life and now I do what I had wanted to do my whole life. I passed out of my university witha Bachelor's in CSE with distinction, got an admit to a flagship university in the USA for MS and graduated last year. Now I spend my weekdays coding the hell out and spend my weekends chilling with my gaming rig or driving around to beaches and movies. And you know how I feel when I look back at the time I wanted to consider suicide because I couldn't get into IIT/NIT? Kinda stupid and I'm very glad I didn't. And I am even kinda glad I didn't get into any IITs as I know they were lacking in certain other aspects of a fun college life [girls for instance ;)]

You know how my parents feel now? They don't have a single bit of regret that I didn't get through JEE/AIEEE. Just last week they asked me the spelling of my company's name so that they could proudly tell anyone who asks them what their second son is doing now. The only thing they still regret is the way they behaved then and I know they will take back whatever they said if they could.
And you know what my classmates are upto? You know, the ones who got great ranks in JEE/AIEEE and got into those "prestigious institutions"? Nothing amazing. They are just your next-door engineers, that's it.
If you ask me, now that I look back at the JEE/AIEEE and other entrances, it is one of the most overrated crap in India. It sure is fruitful to a lot of people but I spent two years learning about vectors, free body diagrams, van der waal forces and who knows what else (sorry, that's the extent I remember from then :D) and you know what, being in CS, I have never applied a bit of what I studied back then in my whole life. And trust me, if you take branches like CS, you are never gonna either. So to you and all the other people who couldn't get through JEE and are feeling desperate with life, I need to say this. Please please don't feel bad because you couldn't crunch a bunch of data you may never end up using in life. There's so much more to life. And it doesn't really matter what university you get into as long as it's just a good university. You don't have to study at an IIT to go on to have a better life and not everyone who studies at IIT has a better life either.

So, just break the news to your father (if you haven't already). He will be devastated surely, but things will get better from here on. Perform well in whatever future endeavors you undertake and trust me, in a few years time your dad will be left with no regrets or disappointments and would instead be rather proud of his son/daughter. This is from my own experience.

Like I said, failing JEE is absolutely worthless to even consider suicide as an option.

Edit: I'd also like to add this video of Malcolm Gladwell explaining why Harvard (which is like the IIT of U.S.A.) might not be the best school for teenagers looking for college admits. Would just getting an admit into IITs be worth it? Some think his argument against Harvard is faulty but I feel he might sorta have a point here.

Watch this:

Or read this:
An inspiring life story on Marvan Attapattu Sri Lankan Cricketer

It’s a story that Harsha Bhogle, India’s most loved cricket commentator, loves to tell, over and over again.

Making his debut in Test cricket for Sri Lanka, Marvan scored a duck in his first innings. And again, in his second innings.
They dropped him. So he went back to the nets for more practice. More first-class cricket. More runs. Waiting for that elusive call. And after twenty-one months, he got a second chance.

This time, he tried harder. His scores: 0 in the first innings, 1 in the second Dropped again, he went back to the grind. And scored tonnes of runs in first-class cricket. Runs that seemed inadequate to erase the painful memories of the Test failures. Well, seventeen months later, opportunity knocked yet again. Marvan got to bat in both innings of the Test. His scores: 0 and 0. Phew!

Back to the grind. Would the selectors ever give him another chance? They said he lacked big-match temperament. His technique wasn’t good enough at the highest level. Undaunted, Marvan kept trying.

Three years later, he got another chance. This time, he made runs. He came good. And in an illustrious career thereafter, Marvan went on to score over 5000 runs for Sri Lanka. That included sixteen centuries and six double hundreds. And he went on to captain his country. All this despite taking over six years to score his second run in Test cricket. Wow! What a guy!

How many of us can handle failure as well as he did? Six years of trying, and failing. He must have been tempted to pursue another career. Change his sport perhaps. Play county cricket. Or, oh well, just give up. But he didn’t. And that made the difference.

We all hear stories of talented people who gave up before their potential was realized. People who changed jobs and careers when success seemed elusive.

The next time you are staring at possible failure or rejection, think of Marvan. And remember this: If you don’t give up, if you believe in yourself, if you stay the course, the run will eventually come. What more you could even become captain some day.

NEVER GIVE UP. NEVER, NEVER GIVE UP !

I'm laughing (like hell) seeing this question man....... Know something, my score this year is exactly the same - 101/360 (though I'm not a dropper). The best part of the scene is that we lost the cutoff for 4 marks. One of my friends cleared it with some 80 marks (the unfair story - reservation).

Three of my close friends scored in 50-60 range and were struck to see my score. Why? I've been working hard for the last 2 years. I didn't go for a film (for the last 3 years). No picnic, study tour, family functions, smartphones, games, football, no nothing. Just PCM. I sacrificed even my FIFA 2014 just for JEE. I'm serious - I studied hard. So what happened ? There I stand, a boy who aimed at cracking Advanced, not even clearing the Mains.

JEE Main day was simply beautiful. I attempted around 40 questions and slept. Yeah you heard it right - I SLEPT. I wasn't interested. And did I tell you that I lost more than 10 physics questions in a bubbling error? That was the end of it.

I worked just for this. After 10th, my parents compelled me to take up bio, though I liked CS. After 11th, I wanted to get out of that school- to concentrate more on JEE. I went to my parents with good scores - both at the coaching and at school (11th board - 97.6 %). They still compelled me to attend the same. After Dec, I realized the hard truth - that I won't be getting into my dream college. Still, I kept working. I had already lost my interest in these exams. They just passed. The only other exam I gave was the state engineering entrance exam. So, I'm not left with any other options.

Royally, royally screwed.

So what do you expect me to do? Cry all day? Phew.
I guess suicide would be your first option had you been in my case. And what do I do now?
See here.
I'm reading books, learning JS, playing my piano and what not? Enjoying. Maybe I'm getting into the worst engineering college in this country. So what? That's the worst that can happen.
Or maybe I take a drop. Next year again I may score 102/360 in Mains and fail again. So what? Does anything end there?

Spirit is something that keeps us alive, more than food.

Knowledge never hurts. Whatever you've learnt 'll come to your help one day, if not today. See that simple it is. Nobody really cares if you did give the exam, let alone clearing it. Have the courage to let your future accomplishments outweigh your current status. Einstein wanted to be a teacher, but couldn't get a teaching job of his choice, in the beginning. He didn't sit all day weeping. He joined Swiss Patent Office at Berne as a clerk. What? The greatest scientist of 20th century worked as a clerk.

Still, should we be concerned about having not cracked JEE? After all, I prefer to believe that IITians reach great heights through their continuous hard work and struggle for those 4 years. Without necessary skills, how can anybody make a difference?

On the result day,
my mom asked me, "What will you do now ?"
Calmly, I replied :
"I'm at my all-time low now. I can do anything."

Yes, I'm shamelessly_ambitious.

See Soumojit Kumar's comment to this question. He made a point there:

I always wonder about the fad of IITs /IIM s and the subsequent pressure created on the minds of students either by themselves or by parents. Do the students exactly know what the afterlife of IITian or IIM passouts. True, some of them made great name for themselves but I can ascertain for themselves that without an IIM/IIT degree they would have still landed on the same position. Most of them do incrementally well and also might be at the start of their careers when compared to other graduates. All of them go to the same donkey's stable to get exploited and do some meaningless stressful coding exercises or licking bosses. Dude, degrees matter very little. A sheet of paper cannot change your course of life. Please understand that this is meaningless fad. Concentrate on gathering true knowledge and making yourself practically implement-wise solid. Then you are worth more than so called "IIT" graduate. Degrees matter very little dear.

I'm so busy with my life. What are you doing?

Edit1: Screwed my boards and state entrances too, like a boss :P

Edit2: I joined a local college here in Kerala. Mechanical engineering, obviously. I love it. :)

This is a true story of my friend. He was an honor student from the start of his life. He was always amongst the top three in the class. A jovial fellow, great speaker. And don't even get me started on his knowledge base. The guy could talk about ancient Indian history, about current affairs and science all day long.

In 2008 when I gave JEE, we had separate exams for IIT's and NIT's. He didn't clear JEE. In fact he couldn't clear any exam that he gave.

As a result he decided to take a drop. He went to KOTA and joined Bansal classes.

He performed well for the first couple of months. But after that his performance started dropping. He became depressed and couldn't keep up with the pressure.

In the end he succumbed to it. He lost all interest in studying. He didn't clear JEE and got a rank of 1,20000 in AIEEE.

I had no idea what to say to him then. I knew that guy for a very long time. I knew his potential. And I knew that he deserved to be in IIT's. But he couldn't.

Instead he joined Guru Ghasidas University, department of Production Engineering.

He was depressed. He felt bad, but he never ever gave up.

He topped his college exams. Got an amazing pointer. Studied hard.

In his final year he gave GATE and cleared it with AIR 31.

He studied for 2 years in IIT Roorkee. A couple of months back he got placed in CATERPILLAR.

His professors love him. His friends, I am proud him. His family cannot stop talking about him. He has everything one could dream of. In fact his life is near about perfect.

He made it perfect.

Life doesn't end because you failed in an exam. It ends when you give up.

You are so young. You have not even started your life yet. The best stories I have heard start with failure.

Success only pumps up your ego.. Failure teaches you the most important lessons in life.

Suicide is never an option.. It's the end of all options..

You know what life is..

To see the world in a grain of sand, to see heavens in a wildflower,
To hold infinity in the palms of your hand, to hold eternity in an hour..

Live, love, breath..

Run, fall, get up, run again..

Be proud, be angry, get beaten down, learn something..

And grow..

Be a human being.. Treat a disease.. Help the poor.. Enjoy your lover's touch, a child's laughter, the smell of fresh earth after the first rain, the spine tingling sensation of ice when it touches naked skin..

Suicide means not experiencing any of them..

Live for the work that you believe in.. Work your fucking ass off..

Every day.. Give your bloody best and be a winner.. Not in the eyes of the world.. But in your own eyes..

Help others win..

Tell you dad.. He may be angry.. But he'll understand.. Take his criticism.. His anger.. Learn from it..

Use it to be better.. And make him proud..

I'm a dropper too. My brother cleared JEE Advanced last year and he's now studying in IITK.
I got 178 marks last year in JEE mains and got 166 in JEE Advanced but I didn't got admission anywhere.
When I decided to drop this year I thought I would easily get under 1000 rank. I joined distance course of resonance. It was going well first few months but after that I felt lonely. And I started to feet scared every time I thought about JEE exam.
I started to get more and more scared and finally I was depressed. Scared even to touch books.
I had so many fights with my family about my studies especially my father. I was so convinced to end this painful life. It looked so easy. Just few minutes of pain but endless peace after that.
The girl I used to love also hated me so there wasn't any reason for me to live.
Then I started thinking about meaning of life but couldn't find anything good.

Suddenly I realised that how big the universe is and how insignificant our lives are. I decided that my life is my own and I'm not going to waste my life listening to what others want me to do.
So I stopped things that make sad or scares me and started doing things that make me happy.
I stopped studying for exams and played guitar, painted, played cricket all the year.
Now I'm ready to face anything life throws at me because my life is my own and I don't care about anything. And I know I can live it my way. The worst scenario would be that I may not have anything or I may become beggar but that would be OK. I can live with that.

Hi dear aspirant,

Is suicide an option? If suicide was really an option for every failure then there won't be any humans left in this world. To be frank there won't be you in the first place as your dad was also a failure at some point in his life. We are all failures and thats what makes us human. We were given the intelligence to feel the agony of failure to realise the need to strive harder for success, the only reason why humans have EVOLVED to what they are now.
Failure is the key to Evolution. Failure is what guides you to transform into a human from a mere animal. So my dear friend Failure is just the beginning, embrace it and share it with people around you. Everyone has got a failure (success) story which can inspire others and this is your chance and your first step to inspire people. Do not shy away from it.

Yes, I was a dropper too and I could not secure a good rank in IIT the second time and joined somewhere else. But this failure released me from my stereotypical thought process of career I had in mind, Instead I took up a bigger challange when I started my engineering, to ENGINEER my life the way I want it to be. I took up various activities, improved my social skills, learned few hard lessons about life (in the hardest ways possible) and last but not the least I EVOLVED to be a better person with a higher level of self-awareness.

With all my baggage and failures I still chose to give my best and started preparing for Civil Services recently and I am willing to dedicate at least 3 years of my life on it. Had I took my failure at clearing IIT in my second attempt to heart, I would not have even dared to take up UPSC. In fact I actually Embraced my failure so much that it gave me the much needed courage to fail again and again if needed to achieve something I want to be.

"SOME FIGHTS IN LIFE ARE SO GLORIOUS THAT EVEN FAILURE MAKES YOU ETERNAL"

Fellow Failure(Human Being)

As someone who has failed in more or less every step of life, I keep this quote of Emerson close to me:

Our greatest glory is not in never failing, but in rising up every time we fail.

Much of our sense of failure comes from what we consider as success. And it is very rare that our notions of success or what is of value to us are well thought out on our own. Most of us are busy blindly aping what our immediate surroundings dictate us is the "true measure" of success - which is roughly speaking anything that is supposed to give social prestige in the local community. For you, not clearing IIT-JEE sounds like a disaster. Once you go to college, you won't think of your feat as any achievement. You will rather see people crying over not being able to score a particular grade or not securing an internship and think that is the end of their life. This is not usually because they intrinsically value learning, but because they see these things as tokens to be exchanged for a future prospect of a prestigious life that will have a social recognition. Only that golden moment of fulfillment keeps shifting for the rest of their lives. In job, people quibble over salaries, posts, work time and worry about the loans to be repaid and family to take care of (all in accordance with the projected social image).

Needless to say, much of the life is thus spent in chasing the shifting goalposts. Very rarely will come moments when you actually feel yourselves to have accomplished something which you truly value of your own. Either you successfully become the cogs of the social and economic mechanization or you do not - and it is entirely trivial when being looked at from a broader perspective.

I can assure you that it is not the last time when you will feel suicidal if you keep on attaching your self worth and importance to parents/ teachers/ neighboring uncle. I say this because I have gone through those emotional tumults and still do. Suicide has been one of my options in the low phases of my life, but discarded - because its cowardly. Suicide means you let the world win over you. Neither the world nor the universe cares if you die. Things will move on and people will go back doing their jobs next morning. There is a life full of potential experiences which you throw away simply because you scored a few marks less than what you thought you should. You miss 100% of the shots you have never taken. You are worried about what your dad will think with a low JEE marks. Now what if I told you that Einsten's dad died thinking his son is a total loser. Cherish what is of value to you - no matter how much you think your life is miserable, you are still better off than billions of people around the world. You have relationships to care, good food to eat, can afford education, live in a free society, your schools are not being bombed and you are not being electrocuted or flogged. Your problems are dwarfed in front of them. When you are worried about your shoes, think of someone who doesn't have a leg.

So take a good look over yourselves in the mirror, bath, shave, eat well, have a sound sleep and break free from the shackles of expectation that you have created for yourself by living in other peoples' images. Respect yourself before respecting others.

I know what its like to be there. I was a dropper too and I have failed at multiple entrance exams, multiple times. I have flunked entrance exams in my drop year too. The day exam results were announced, i was devastated. All that I had hoped for, all that I dreamed of, had just vanished. I was going through what you are facing now. The world I had imagined, was just left an imagination. I could not eat for a couple of days. And for a week I just lied in my bed and sobbed.

Soon I made peace with my results (there is no other way) and started thinking about what can be done next. I explored the options that were still left and went for whatever best I could do. I am not at an IIT now, but still I have a life worth living. I look forward to the days ahead and new dreams have replaced the old ones.

So my friend, your life does not end with some exam results. And please dont think of ending it for the same.
You are thinking of suicide because you love you dad and cant meet his expectations. Just think of him when he will live his whole life with the guilt that his expectations took the life of his son. What problems will it solve. Be a fighter that your dad will be proud of and not a coward who just gave up. Suicide is not an option.

Tell the result to your dad as soon as possible. You will have to do it anyway. Share your sorrow with him. Feel the pain you are in. Cry as much as you want to. And then pick yourself up and brace yourself for the future. Gear up for life that you will have, not what you had imagined, still very exciting and worth looking forward to. Eventually this storm shall pass.
New dreams will replace the old ones and we shall nurture them with same fervor. This is what life is all about..

(fell free to message me)

I am writing this out of my own experience as I studied in IIT. An IIT degree without knowledge is worthless. What counts in real world is how much knowledge you have and what can you do not your IIT degree. Frankly, people don't care if you are from IIT or not. They just care if you can do something or not.

Tell me one thing. What people do after graduating from IIT?
Stating from my own experience- Mostly, they sit for placements to find a job. They get stressed, work hard and pray that one of the big names like Microsoft, Oracle, Apple will hire them. Now these high degree holders are waiting for a chance to get into companies started by people who don't hold big degrees.

Let me give examples:

BILL GATES (University Drop out). Didn't get a degree but got most brilliant degree holders to work for him.

Larry Ellison (Co-Founder of ORACLE) is a college dropout.

And of course Steve Jobs is a college dropout.

You will find multitude of examples around you where people who have knowledge and passion have done much better than people who have degrees.

ITS YOUR CHOICE- DO YOU WANT TO GET DEPRESSED THAT YOU WILL NOT GET A IIT DEGREE AND IN TURN MAY NOT BECOME AN EMPLOYEE OR SO YOU WANT TO STAND UP LEARN AND BECOME AN EMPLOYER.

IIT Degree does not decide your future in any way, your knowledge your passion and your patience does.

This small failure (which is not at all a failure if you open your eyes and see) is the first stone of foundation of a great building which you can build.

WHO KNOWS I MIGHT BE WRITING THIS ANSWER TO A FUTURE BILLIONAIRE WHO WILL HIRE IITians ONE DAY!!!

Myself:
An active quora user who has been a terrible failure in all walks of life till the age of 28. I am 28 years 6 months old now and I haven't tasted real success in my life till now.
My archive of failed attempts -

• Scored badly in Class 12.
• Couldn't clear any competitive exam.
• Dropped an year and still the same result. A very low rank in all the exams attempted.
• Did B.tech from a tier 3 institute with many backlogs and that also in 5 years. Final score, less than 60% in graduation.
• Jobless for 2 years. Attempted other exams like SSC, Bank PO, IES. Result- As usual.
• My only achievement - I was the fastest sperm that was successful for taking birth.

Now, when I never dared to commit suicide despite all my big failed achievements, then what the hell on earth made you think so.

Come on, get up. It's time to take some rest and then move on.

"Success is not final, .. Failure is not fatal. It's the courage to continue that counts." Get Well Soon.

Hey Dear...!
Hold on...Just take a deep breath...!
We all have the tendency to create a small world in our minds and live in that...n you are doing the same...!
Lets make our world little bigger. Have a look on the picture below...

That little dot. May be you know whats that. In the case if you don't know: That's our earth...!
All of us, all of our history from dinosaurs to going to mars, all the biggest continents that once existed, all the longest rivers that once flowed, all of our knowledge, all the consciousness we are now aware of, all of the greatest kings, all of the greatest presidents, all the greatest scientists, all the IIT'ans(one of that you want to be), either is there or was there...!
Look again at the dot...!
Does it really matter...?, either you scored 1st rank in JEE or you failed and committed suicide.
Does that going to make any change in this picture...?, Nope that dot in the picture will remain same for a very-very long time...!
The world we see, the way we feel it, n all the earthly things, say it society, say it family, say it JEE, say it AIMS, say it IAS...whatever...all these matters are of very little worth...!...It's just us who feels that these things are of great importance...even we are not of any importance...how the things related to us could be...?
Any of us taking our lives will be like a bacteria on a potato committing suicide for some reason...is that making any sense...is that going to make any change on that potato, or on this earth, or in this whole universe than just dying...?
Nothing gonna change...coz nothing is of any great importance...!
AURANGZEB killed all his brother for the Empire...!...Look at that dot again...that makes any sense...?
The point I want to make by writing all this is, the way we see this world, the way we perceive it, is not the only way to see it...!...There are many ways, many-many beautiful ways...you just need to get that perspective...!
Though I said that family, society, carrier are of very little concern but I didn't mean that we don't have to care about these things, sure we need to...but in a limited/balanced way...!...always keeping in mind that "though I take of these things, but nothing is of any great importance...neither I'm of any great importance..."
All what we want from you is to get rid of the perspective you are living with...!
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Get out of your room...n look into the sky...you see those billions of stars...Billions of planets are there...n may be zillions of creatures are leaving our there...!
And on a Planet a creature failed in a foolish process to which they use to call JEE-exam, n feeling trouble facing few other creatures to whom they called parents, relatives and people, wants to commit suicide...is that making any sense...?
Nope Dear...!
You are taking this life too seriously...!
Remember...By committing something like that you are not solving your problems...You are ending your self...It's the succession of our thinking pattern since our childhood...whenever we used to feel fear, we use to ran away...but there by running we still used to manage our living/existence...now we have practiced these running thing so many times , and each time we have lived that we have started taking this existence as granted...n now we only think of the fear n the running...!
But we should remember that in this run we won't exist any more...!
I know , you won't do anything like that...!
You are just going through a normal anxiety...That you'll learn to handle in coming days...!
I know, there will be a time in future, when you'll look back on this present that will become your past that time, and you'll laugh at your self...What a foolish decision I was making...!
There is so much beauty in this life...Go n live it...!
Best of luck for your future...!
But don't take the future so seriously...!
:p

Suicide is never an option. What matters most to your father, alive son you or IIT. Not everybody gets through in every exam. During exam so many things matter such as your concentration level, pressure of securing good rank etc. What matters most is the how you get through such situations. What matters most is how you gonna finish. thats it.

An excerpt from a famous blogger:

ARE YOU GOING TO FINISH STRONG?

Life isn't always roses. There have been times for me, as I am sure there have for you, when everything seemed just too hard.

I have lost those I did not think I could live without; and there was a time when I was so burdened by a sense of guilt that I could barely function.

There were other moments when I have clung to that one last long shot that would bring about financial reprieve; then that fell over too. I have known acute failure, as most writers do. There have been times I looked in the shaving mirror and muttered: 'You suck.'

But this is nowhere near as bad as it gets. I have two friends right now struggling with situations that are as close to a waking nightmare as you could possibly imagine. I just don't know how they drag themselves out of bed every day.

Some people don't, of course. There are other options and, sadly, they take them.

Whenever I am tempted to feel sorry for myself, or I feel like giving up, I take a look at this guy:

Nick was born with Tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare disorder that left him without all four limbs. He does however have two toes and a foot - he calls it his flipper.

As a child he was prevented from enrolling at a mainstream school because of his disability. When he was finally allowed entrance he was very badly bullied and struggled with loneliness and depression. Who wouldn't? He says that at 8 he contemplated suicide. At 10 he tried to drown himself in his bath.

But one day his mother showed him a newspaper article about someone else who had overcome a severe disability and he realized he wasn't alone in his struggle.

Inspired, he learned to write using his only toes and even used to learn a computer keyboard. He then taught himself to get a glass of water, comb his hair, brush his teeth and shave.

By grade seven (11 years old) he was elected captain of the school.

At 17 he started his own non-profit organization, Life Without Limbs. At 21 he graduated with a double major in accounting and financial planning.

He now runs a new organization in California called Attitude is Altitude. He presents motivational speeches like the one above, to corporations, church congregations and schools right around the world.

His mission: to encourage people never to give up, by being a living example that struggle leads to strength. He markets a DVD for young people titled: No Arms, No Legs, No Worries.

As you see from the video he also has a wicked sense of humour. ("This boy came up to me and goes 'WHAT HAPPENED!?' I go, 'CIGARETTES!' ")

He likes to embrace his audience physically as well as emotionally, as you can also see in the video ("If you leave here without a hug, I'm going to run after you. And if you run fast, I'm gonna get someone to throw me at you.")

If you fall over a hundred times, and you fail, the important thing is trying one more time. I like to remember that now whenever things in my well favoured life get a little tough. If he can do it, so can I.

And I hope you, too, find some measure of inspiration in the life of Steve Vujitic.

Hii friend let me tell u a bit about me..

Since I was in class 8 I was bullied a lot in my school my mom Got mentally ill my dad was paralysed my teachers were unable to clear all my doubts i first time failed in maths 37/100 which shattered me ti the core I was 95/100 in class 7 however I passed the finals (Getting thrashed everyday by my aunt and enduring countless pains/insults@school singlehandedly)

in class 10 this was worst year i was beaten all day by my classmates my teacher cained me 70 times in front of class My mother who was mentalyy till that time got better but she asked me to bring beer can for her just before my math exam Everyday there was continuous fight with me my autowala and at school I was made to lick the Shoes of boarders and when complained was slapped a lot! In preboards i got 13/100 in maths in boarfs i got 66/100 in mathematics and 62/100 in science But I was proud of myself and overall i got 84% as humanities is my forte..

In 11 i changed my school got rank 1 from Quarterlies till preboards topping 6 times consecutively in my school got (75/100 in physics 93/100 in chemistry 70/100 in maths in 11) just around 12 my prevoius mate from my old school mentally demoralised a lot like asking questions so twisty that i wasnt able to answer anytime And cox of him my Performsncr went down My mom only asset with me And i got 60/100 in chemistry 51/100 in maths74/100 in physics And my aim by hook or crook was to get into iit. Result in 2012 i sat for JEE Advsncec my marks 7/408 yes this much Upsee rank 100000+ i was shattered to the core my bp rose 180/100

And that year i constantly quarreled with my family manyincidents were there Wheb i fought with my mom pushed her abused her she too abused me in anger then i poked sevetal time myself with compass for fighting my mom these things happened 24*7 during 2012–2013 i was sucked.. JEE mains 2013 i got 66/360 in only 2 months preperation i was proud in Upsee i was not qualified in BSc entrance i got 3 rd rank i was happy but somehow I only wanted the best college.. In that period i dropped and taught tutiins to help my mom (Quarrels still on/day) earned 15000/ month in 2013

2014

. Exam upsee i got 39000 AIR from no selection in prevoius year and was happy as I gave without studying anything coz i was busy teaching tutions. selected for Australia Soon heard knews of demise of my dad and so my 50 crore property was ceased accidently i couldnt take admission anywhere in that prriod coz of financial crisis and I taught tutiins in thr December time I got into property dealing... In jan time 2015 I got Attractef to a girl fall in love with her reduced weight lost 28 kgs in 2 months and qualified MMMTU but was in general so not that Good result

BHU exam got fucked up as well applied for BSc again in that period (2015–2016) mentored a guy on phone who is now an iitian but had so much quarrel with him that in my final BSc exams I failed 28% only... In 2016 I gave upsee last time got 64000 rank. Gave Cmi exam missed by a rank!During 2015–2016 i taught a lot of guys but due to constant quarrelling wuth my. Mom and financial issues things got worsened i punched myself countless times and wanted to kill myself.

Now in 2016 my mom had a additional loan of 200000₹ and i was a failure in Bsc! Now i took admission in IGNOU BA Eco Hons taught tutions more and more earned close to 45000₹/ month only via tutions

In 2017 i topped my batch in Ignou (79%)

In 2018 I did it again (79.5%)

Plus+3 iitians produced by me and one MBA Girl who got 96% in maths coz of me! This year

Now in 2019 ill be completing my degree going for masters in ignou and will be giving Btech exams again to top it

If i never Quit why r u When I have 0 property 0 bankbalance 0 achievement's

Your Present life, lets consider it Life 1-

Life 1- You get your results, you could not make it to IIT. You feel depressed. And you kill Yourself.

YOU ARE BORN AGAIN (Suppose)

Life 2- You get your results for IIT, you clear it. You study at IIT bombay among best minds. But then again for higher education you again give CAT/GMAT etc, and you again fail. SO WILL YOU GO IN FOR A SUICIDE?
you won't right.

What you can see that failures are a part of life. As success comes and goes, similarly failure also comes and goes. Game changes every year my friend. Opportunities are always available to prove your mettle in this life. You want to grab that or you just want to refresh it.
Ironically - option of UNDO and REFRESH is very easy in Ms Word, but very difficult in our lives. So choose wisely.

If you have invested so much for your IIT, spend an hour to read the contents below and you will bang the floor to stand up again to face some real kicks in life smiling. Because you know you will succeed eventually.

I would request people who are really in need for motivation to study the struggle of Prem Ravi , whose story is an inspiration to all people. This guy gave CAT 8 times. He was brilliant But still- Responsibilities of being a father, failures across in other walks of life killed his CAT scores numerous times.

8 years later , Prem ravi enters IIM C, graduates from there ends up working for amazon. Real fighter. Today this guy has one of the highest level of respect in the PagalGuY fraternity, a respect as similar we have for fighters like Virali Modi here.

I bet this would be one of the motivational experiences you would go through a personalized blog. Expectations & Experiences of my Life

If Prem can so can you, there is a line in his PG id----- Success retained me as a boy, but failure(s) made me a man

Dreams, Not IITs, Make You BigBrand Names Do Not Matter
-Said by Satya Nadella
The man who now heads Bill Gate’s company is no IIT pass out, but an alumni of the Manipal Institute of Technology (MIT)—an engineering institute that ranks way below IIT, at number 24.

• Venkat Ramakrishnan

This 2009 Nobel Prize winner for Chemistry and 2010 Padma Vibhushan awardee was not only rejected by all the IITs but also failed to get admission in Christian Medical College (Vellore). Unable to pursue engineering and medical, he settled for physics and finished his studies from the Indian Institute of Science in Bangalore before going to America for his post-graduation. And the rest is history.

• Vinod Dham

Also known as the Father of Pentium Chip, Dham finished his engineering from the modest Delhi College of Engineering (formerly a part of Delhi University). After finishing his engineering he worked in an Indian firm called Continental Devices for some time and then went to America to finish his masters.
After that he worked with a small company that made cash registers, and persistently made his way up to become the Vice President of Intel. As thisarticle says, it was his entrepreneurial skills and hard work, and not his college degree that made him the “Father of Pentium Chip”.
In the year 1999, Vinod Dham took the stage and dreamt a dream, “Make a computer for 9,999 rupees and take it to the masses’” he told the gathering at IIT Mumbai. A student pointed out that you couldn’t even get a memory device for that kind of price. “If there isn’t one, you have to design one,” Dham shot back.

• Sabeer Bhatia

The man, who created Hotmail and sold it to Microsoft for a fortune also did not go to any IIT. He is a Birla Institute of Technology and Science (BITS), Pilani pass out.
In fact, BITS also has to its credits many other internet success stories in India. For example, India’s biggest online bus ticketing company,http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red... was founded by BITS graduates—Phanindra Sama, Sudhakar Pasupunuri and Charan Padmaraju.
The success stories don’t end there, in the year 2013 Facebook recruited seven Indian students, three IITians and four non-IITians. Out of the four non-IITians, three students belonged to an autonomous university, the International Institute of Information and Technology (IIIT), Hyderabad, and the fourth student was from the National Institute of Technology, Trichy.
So the lesson to be learnt is that, hard work and the willingness to learn—and also if you can find a way to get to America—is the way to success. According to a study conducted by The Hindu, “317 immigrants who started tech companies in the US showed that graduates of Delhi University were twice the number of IITians. Similar was the case with two other public colleges, Osmania and Bombay University that trumped nearly all the other IITs. A similar trend noted among Chinese immigrants, where the tech companies’ founders were from smaller universities compared to famed varsities like Fudan and Tsinghua.”
So all you need is big dreams and the capacity to make your dreams a reality, not IITs or IIMs.
Refernce-THE VIEWSPAPER

Lot of great motivational stuff is there in other answers, please read it.

I just want to mention some great things which i have come across in my daily life.

It doesn't matter where you're from (IIT or some other college), what you make out of your life is important. I have seen people succeed in their life without even hearing a word about IIT.

I have read some good books, one of them mentions "Don't cry over spilled milk". Its true. It means, whatever happened in past is not going to change, there is no point worrying about it. If you worry, you only affect your health and ability to think straight. Why not put all that energy in making plans for future?

Its generally the case, that situation is not bad, but our opinion makes it bad. You must have heard this "As a man thinketh, so is he". Aim at becoming strong enough to handle any phase of life. Your opinion makes a situation good or bad, if you think that failing makes you even stronger for future then so it is.

and all parents have high hopes from their children but it doesn't mean they want to see your dead face. He's probably trying to push you and its good for you.

Confrontation is a very important lesson to learn in life. Tell your dad about your results, promise him with full faith that you're improving and will reach heights. Do this and i promise you, one day you will be proud of yourself for handling this situation with maturity.

Thanks for A2A
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Tell it to your dad, you may be only 16-18 years old, you don't know how much your parents love you.
There are many better things than IIT. In ISRO only 20% scientists are from IIT and you know the level of ISRO (contains 80% non IITians).
Take a deep breathe and think, is IIT your only goal in life?
Try to find the reasons which make you happy, My short bio may help you, "Happiness is a Path not a Goal, to feel it continuously you have to travel, don't stuck, you may miss the better turn."
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About "Is suicide an option?"
If you are feeling suicidal now, please stop long enough to read this. It will only take about five minutes. I do not want to talk you out of your bad feelings. I am not a therapist or other mental health professional - only someone who knows what it is like to be in pain.
I don't know who you are, or why you are reading this page. I only know that for the moment, you're reading it, and that is good. I can assume that you are here because you are troubled and considering ending your life. If it were possible, I would prefer to be there with you at this moment, to sit with you and talk, face to face and heart to heart. But since that is not possible, we will have to make do with this.
I have known a lot of people who have wanted to kill themselves, so I have some small idea of what you might be feeling. I know that you might not be up to reading a long book, so I am going to keep this short. While we are together here for the next five minutes, I have five simple, practical things I would like to share with you. I won't argue with you about whether you should kill yourself. But I assume that if you are thinking about it, you feel pretty bad.
Well, you're still reading, and that's very good. I'd like to ask you to stay with me for the rest of this page. I hope it means that you're at least a tiny bit unsure, somewhere deep inside, about whether or not you really will end your life. Often people feel that, even in the deepest darkness of despair. Being unsure about dying is okay and normal. The fact that you are still alive at this minute means you are still a little bit unsure. It means that even while you want to die, at the same time some part of you still wants to live. So let's hang on to that, and keep going for a few more minutes.
Start by considering this statement:
Suicide is not chosen; it happens when pain exceeds resources for coping with pain.
That's all it's about. You are not a bad person, or crazy, or weak, or flawed, because you feel suicidal. It doesn't even mean that you really want to die - it only means that you have more pain than you can cope with right now. If I start piling weights on your shoulders, you will eventually collapse if I add enough weights... no matter how much you want to remain standing. Willpower has nothing to do with it. Of course you would cheer yourself up, if you could.

Don't accept it if someone tells you, "That's not enough to be suicidal about." There are many kinds of pain that may lead to suicide. Whether or not the pain is bearable may differ from person to person. What might be bearable to someone else, may not be bearable to you. The point at which the pain becomes unbearable depends on what kinds of coping resources you have. Individuals vary greatly in their capacity to withstand pain.
When pain exceeds pain-coping resources, suicidal feelings are the result. Suicide is neither wrong nor right; it is not a defect of character; it is morally neutral. It is simply an imbalance of pain versus coping resources.
You can survive suicidal feelings if you do either of two things: (1) find a way to reduce your pain, or (2) find a way to increase your coping resources. Both are possible.
Now I want to tell you five things to think about.
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You need to hear that people do get through this -- even people who feel as badly as you are feeling now. Statistically, there is a very good chance that you are going to live. I hope that this information gives you some sense of hope.
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Give yourself some distance. Say to yourself, "I will wait 24 hours before I do anything." Or a week. Remember that feelings and actions are two different things - just because you feel like killing yourself, doesn't mean that you have to actually do it right this minute. Put some distance between your suicidal feelings and suicidal action. Even if it's just 24 hours. You have already done it for 5 minutes, just by reading this page. You can do it for another 5 minutes by continuing to read this page. Keep going, and realize that while you still feel suicidal, you are not, at this moment, acting on it. That is very encouraging to me, and I hope it is to you.
3. People often turn to suicide because they are seeking relief from pain. Remember that relief is a feeling. And you have to be alive to feel it. You will not feel the relief you so desperately seek, if you are dead.
4. Some people will react badly to your suicidal feelings, either because they are frightened, or angry; they may actually increase your pain instead of helping you, despite their intentions, by saying or doing thoughtless things. You have to understand that their bad reactions are about their fears, not about you.
But there are people out there who can be with you in this horrible time, and will not judge you, or argue with you, or send you to a hospital, or try to talk you out of how badly you feel. They will simply care for you. Find one of them. Now. Use your 24 hours, or your week, and tell someone what's going on with you. It is okay to ask for help. Try:

• Call a psychotherapist
• Carefully choose a friend or someone who is likely to listen.

But don't give yourself the additional burden of trying to deal with this alone. Just talking about how you got to where you are, releases an awful lot of the pressure, and it might be just the additional coping resource you need to regain your balance.
5. Suicidal feelings are, in and of themselves, traumatic. After they subside, you need to continue caring for yourself. Therapy is a really good idea. So are the various self-help groups available both in your community and on the Internet.
Well, it's been a few minutes and you're still with me. I'm really glad.
Since you have made it this far, you deserve a reward. I think you should reward yourself by giving yourself a gift. The gift you will give yourself is a coping resource. Remember, back up near the top of the page, I said that the idea is to make sure you have more coping resources than you have pain. So let's give you another coping resource, or two, or ten...! until they outnumber your sources of pain.

YOU MIGHT BE A GODZILLA STILL CHOMPING AT CHICKEN FEED!!
Remember you were the only Sperm among 10 million to have made this far. If you understand that then you would have probably understood by now that the story doesn’t end here. If slitting our throat at every setback was the answer then there wouldn’t have been any Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Henry Ford, Azim Premji, Ralph Lauren, Walt Disney, Hiroshi Yamauchi (Nintendo)..& the list goes on (Fitting me somewhere...joking :P ). We cannot gauge our success on the basis of grades or a silly competition which was never meant for us.
Lemme give you a brief example of someone who was standing in your shoes 13 years back. Yes that is me here with a shocking little real story of mine as today I get CV’s from IITians, Govt engineering college students, Doctors and other toppers seeking job from me. Yes! That is where the difference exists.
Hailing from a mediocre hand to mouth family, I was hardwired to the belief that there was no country for non-IITian or non-Medico. Every day I used to drag my feet to the classes to fulfill the dreams my parents had seen. I was fed up to the ears with Elders dreaming up the war for young men to die in. I was taught ABC with a carrot and stick approach as soon as I uttered my very first word. Why does everybody want a Droid? Why do we live long enough to see the hand that rocked our cradle once bring us the books to grow old? That is it!.. I knew it that one day I would break every rule of that book!
While reaching my Intermediate I had completely lost my grip on studies as my Dad was getting transferred from one city to another; with me being thrown to a new school every year to fit in. My falling grades were giving me a clear picture that my IIT dreams were slipping away. But I was firm determined that I won’t give up without a fight. I dedicated my all to it and crafted a fool proof strategy. I did self-study and bagged appreciation from Coaching and teachers for solving all the problems of Maths & Physics by myself; be it Resnik Haiilday, HC Verma or any other. The adrenaline rush ensured the high endurance level and made me push too far into the realms of Numbers and Formulas.
I attended the Examination for the so called ‘Kharagpur dreams’ and found the equations pretty easy. Exam was over in a Jiffy and by evening I ran off to compare my performance with the answers posted at coaching, internet newspapers etc. Once I did that then there was not a twitch of the mouth or a brief glimpse of teeth, but a regular smile all over my face to predict my marks on that basis. Very soon various groups formed on the basis of random rank predictions. Those groups often attracted the attention of the parents of those femme fatales who were responsible for the strong arms of those nerds :D . Often there were conflicts among the members over their overlapping interests in those Lolitas. The issue grew so sensitive that the member receiving extended admiration from them was automatically thrown into the jealousy bin.
Time flew away too soon and the Judgment Day had finally arrived. It was tough to get through the night before. The anxiety and peer pressure was so high that my heart was working overtime whole night long. The next day my friend knocked at my door to burst the bubble and end the suspense. “Yes ! you didn’t qualify my friend.” Those are the last lines I remember. Thereafter my whole world came down crashing around me. My mind went into a passive coma and soon I was left behind abandoned actually with no friends around. Even my Girlfriend broke up with me; Friends and relatives had adopted the untouchability policy towards me. The hell broke loose at my home that day and soon it became a way of life gradually. Every evening I was made to survive the success story of some Mr.Sharma or Agrawal’s son ( ha ha ! You know the drill). That does it! I had had enough of that crap. Every situation appeared so trying. Finally I had made up my mind to give up the ghost. One night, without giving any other thought I went to the bathroom and put a gun in my mouth; I was about to get ‘trigger happy’, but Lo and behold, I looked at myself in the mirror and there was an angry young teenager in a rather funny looking pose. Lolz! I burst into laughter as it reminded me of what I used to call as “my gun”. I didn’t take another second to pull out that gun from my mouth thereafter. In fact it was a wakeup call from the dream which others had fabricated on me. It is often late when you realize that it was all fools paradise in which you were waltzing around. The vigor of life overrides all odds.
The new vantage point familiarized me of some unfinished business to knock off my bucket list. I was all set, I told everybody that I don’t need a job anymore; I would be providing jobs instead. People thought that I was losing my grip on reality and even I doubted my sanity at times (Lol). Finally success lost its way and came knocking at my door. In my case it came as a result of tough grind I had inculcated gradually, to fill in the social gaps people had left behind.
I explored my natural inclination after studies and soon opened a college, then another and another. Now I own group of colleges. Those who looked down upon me once now were coming back to me seeking jobs. It was my turn now to turn down the friend request on Facebook of those who once had turned me down. Karma is a bitch!
It is in fact discouraging to find that people now offer the chauffeurs a better pay than newbie engineers or number crunchers. You know why? Because there are millions of unemployed doctors, engineers, lawyers and on the flipside there is only handful of chauffeurs. The chauffeurs and uneducated masses are now enjoying a better social status as the moment they dislike our behavior they have a new warm hearted employer waiting for them. Ironic, isn’t it? What is more baffling is that during Medieval times practicing Medicine or Engineering was considered witchcraft and practitioners were publicly executed (Lol). So the psychology of public is kind of twisted which adheres to the social conformity; what they disapprove today is what they would yearn tomorrow.
Statistics now reveal that those ancient beliefs regarding career have corroded over time. There are millions of other Job opportunities with better prospects now. My personal advice to all is to start following your rational dream. Always remember simplicity and innovation go hand in hand with success. So kick start your imaginations and remember that no profession propelled by healthy intention is bad. Get to know your taste before chomping on the food others serve you. Who knows? you might be a Godzilla still chomping at chicken feed.

I actually applaud the fact that you were brave enough to post this question on Quora, knowing full well that the use of the word "suicide" would draw fire from all corners.

Or maybe, you simply don't care anymore. Happens to the best of us. Two defeats in a row. Two huge defeats in consecutive years are enough to back anyone into a corner. But suicide isn't really an option because trust me, ending it is just so boring.

Okay maybe you are playing life on the hardest difficulty settings from now on. There will be no guarantee of a job 4 years from now, let alone coveted foreign internships and a shot at a 1 crore pay package. Basically nothing is going to be easy for you from now on.

But then who said JEE was going to be easy? Lets face the truth. We don't hold seats in an IIT because we do not deserve it. Period. I don't like all these guys squabbling over reservation and what not. We already knew for a fact that we had a certain number of seats available for us. In fact as my dad said, even if there is one seat available someone gets it.

So what can you do? Go for Engineering in a non reputed college affiliated to any university right? Very well. After that probably you struggle through the first sem, make some tight friends, maybe fall in love eh? (You know love soothes all wounds :p ). You live the engineering life. You live out your college life. By second year you realise why people call college the best time of their lives. And then you think.... damn! I was thinking about missing out on all this?

By the time you reach third year, you have a 7 point something GPA hopefully (please do not drop below that). You hear about various post graduate examinations. GATE, GRE, CAT, etc etc. Note: You are damaged. You know what it is like to lose everything and yet you are still standing. Maybe you still nurture that small fire within yourself. You start preparing.

Come 4th year and BOOM! You have a job in hand and are feeling pretty confident about cracking one of the exams. Like I said, you know it won't hurt to try. Even if you fail, its nothing new.

Here is where I leave you. Trust me, don't trust me, it doesn't matter. But remember that there have been others before you, and there will be others after you. Give me and yourself two years. Tell me then if this whole JEE scenario isn't a bit overhyped after that time.

So U think that being an IItian is a life...Then the whole world must be full of Engineers...
I can think by being in your place..because I have gone through all that JEE mess and also I am an Engineer.
Even at some point of my life..I thought that cracking competitive exam alone is my life and I am fit for nothing if I cant do that..
But moving on ,I learnt many things.I learnt that this opportunity of being alive is very precious. Experience it.Try to see the whole world. If a person who earns 100 rs per day can live happily in his hut why can't we.
Your father don't hate you.Open up.Tell what you are feeling right now to him.Definitely you can see tears rolling down from his eyes.All you need is guts to speak and tell what you want .
Even suicide requires courage.And if you are brave enough to commit suicide,You can face anything with that courage.If you are not liking your life.Just take a break.Go,Travel .Discover yourself.Let your eyes see the beauty of nature.Let your heart feel what u are from inside.
You didn't even complete a quarter of your life properly.Many surprises are awaiting.Live it and see its colours.You will get your love. You will make everything possible someday and stand before your parents with gifts in your hands for them to share your success.
You will be author of your future.Think wisely to take a decision.

Do you think suicide could solve the problem!?

Do you think suicide could give you admit in IIT ?

Do you think suicide will hide the message that "you failed to crack IIT" from your father?

If the answer is same for the above three question and if that is YES!
Go ahead :(. You lose your parents and friends(included with your gf).

And if it is NO!, then

1. Tell your father I failed to crack this time..may be I can do it in second attempt.
2. Remember, "failure is the first step of success". Eg Edison failed more than enough to give us light(ofcourse we are widely wasting energy today).
3. IIT is not only the engineering educational institution.
4. Gold is always gold no matter it's with blacksmith or goldsmith. No matter in which institution you are,Use your brain and knowledge efficiently.
5. Life has to come across failures as India too lost getting independence during their first attempts and finally we achieved it in 1947,15th of August.
6. Be innovative and don't be foolish.

Choice is yours

You can hurt your parents and friends. Else,you could make them feel proud by doing more interesting than GETTING INTO IIT.

ALL THE BEST! :)

If my answer is too long, just watch the video at the end.

There are several good answers here in a motivational sense. I am giving a little pragmatic take on this situation.

If the only goal in your life was to reach IIT, find a new one. It wasn't worthy anyways.
If you have a real goal, say for example, to be a good engineer, astronaut, photographer, politician, professor, architect, artist, poet, kung-fu expert, football player, cook etc. , it isn't affected as heavily by your undergraduate university as you would think now. What is crucial is that you keep fixated on your goal and work continually to achieve it. Most probably you wouldn't be sure of what you want you want to do with your life (most people aren't), so let me explain with a popular example- an engineer.

I know people from IITs who are jobless after graduation and I know people from local private colleges who are Managers, Designers or HODs at most coveted firms.

I know people from IITs who could get admit only to state universities for their Master's degree while people from much less known colleges have been to ivy league (Cornell, Caltech etc.). Let me explain this case a bit.

When you go to an IIT, the competition is fierce. Everyone is academically brilliant. And your grade will be decided based on your rank in the class. It is very likely that you will work harder than you did for JEE and still fail to get a score that impresses foreign universities. It is very easy to lose self-belief when you feel that everyone around you is a genius and you are the only dumbass who can't get a single answer right. Trust me, I am a final year student at a competitive place and I have seen this happening to a large fraction of my classmates.
While those who were academically sound but screwed their entrance exams went to lowly colleges and scored excellent grades. They are confident about themselves; while appearing for job interviews, while applying for foreign universities and while sitting for exams. Their goal and dreams are intact and they are marching towards them. Those who went to prestigious IITs and were left behind in the ferocious race, have lost faith in themselves and taken up the first job that they were offered. No risks, no more enthusiasm to fight for what they really wanted from life.

In a nutshell, going to a lesser known university isn't that bad. It has its pros and cons. If you can remain fixed on your goals, nothing can stop you. Yes, you will have to make all the effort to get there, but that will be the case everywhere. The environment and college life won't be as awesome as at an IIT, but you can come out much more confident and positive.

In an even smaller nutshell,
Better rule in Hell, than serve in Heavens.
Perhaps I couldn't convey the essential idea completely. This man- Malcolm Gladwell, did. I request you to watch this 20 min video. It will help.

* Conversation With God *
Q. What were you doing just before you died?
A. I was hanging from the ceiling fan and struggling to breathe. The rope had started to cut into my neck. I should have opted for a cloth instead of that nylon rope.
Q. Why did you hang yourself?
A. I was not able to live up to my parent's expectations. I scored poorly in my exams and was unable to get into any decent engineering college.
Q. Okay. Who did you leave behind?
A. My father and my mother.
Q. Do you think your life was complete?
A. Sir, it's funny you should ask this question. I was 17. All I ever did was my assignments, class notes, extra classes, tuitions and JEE coaching. So you see, I was not exactly a ripe candidate for death.
Q. So why did you do it?
A. I guess I just could not take all the stress.
Q. If I give back your life to you, how would you spend it differently?
A. I will focus on my passions. I used to paint quite well as a kid. I would pick up the paintbrush again and channelize my energy towards that. I will star far away from fake goals that I had to swallow down my throat. So, are you giving me another life?
* Poof! *
I disappear, leaving the poor sufferer shocked. But he should have known, has anyone ever got a second life?
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Suicide is never the solution to any problem. Exams and career related stress are responsible for many suicides every year. We request everyone to avoid getting into a state of panic. Please approach counsellors in case you need any guidance. Remember, you only live once.
Via The Anonymous Writer facebook page.

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